Yonke intombazana ifumana iincomelelo kwidilesi yakhe. Kodwa akusiwo wonke umntu onokuziphendula ngokuchanekileyo kubo. Emva koko, kulungile ukuthatha iincoma, yinto yobugcisa obuninzi efuna ukufunda.
Ukuphendula okuphambeneyo
Ngaphambi kokuba sixoxe ngendlela yokuphendula ngokufanelekileyo ukuncoma, siya kukuxelela malunga naziphi iimpazamo ezixhaphazelekayo ngamantombazana xa bephendula kwiikomiti.
Ukungavumi
Amantombazana amaninzi azama ukumelana nokuncoma. Basenokuthetha into ethile kumxholo othi: "Akukho nto ekhethekileyo apha!", "Yonke into yodwa yavela!". Kwi-takomotvete ukuzithemba okuphantsi kobuxoki. Ukongezelela, impendulo enjalo ibeka kwindawo engafanelekanga yalowo owamncoma.
Ukulungiswa
Amantombazana athanda ukuzithethelela ngezinto ezilungileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo banqumla umgca, baqala ukuthetha ngeenkcukacha ezingadingekile, ezibekwe kwisimo esingenakwenzeka saloo owenza uncomo. Ngenxa yoko, umntu akanakuphinde ayancoma ukuba ugweme umzuzu onjalo.
Ukungayithobeli
Kukho amabhinqa awanqwenela ukuphendula ukuncoma kwidilesi yabo. Nangona kunjalo, ukungabikho kwamanyathelo athile kunokumonakalisa umntu. Ngoko ke, ukungamkeli ukuncoma kusemgangathweni kuphela - ukuba abantu ababi kakhulu.
Ukungahoywa
Akukho mntu oya kuthanda ukuba wenza inkomfa, kwaye ngokubuya uza kufumana ilitye lesibini uze uzalisekise ukungathandeki. Mhlawumbi nolaka luya kumntu onje.
Inzondelelo enkulu
Ukugqithisa okunjalo kufuneka kugwenywe. Khawukhumbule nje - ukuba uyanconywa, ufanelwe okanye umntu ufuna nje ukuba uzive ulungile. Ngokubuyisela, akufunwa kwiVans.
Izizathu zokusabela okungalunganga kwiincoma
Ingcambu yazo zonke izimpendulo ezingalunganga zilapha zizizathu ezahlukeneyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ezi zizathu zifihliwe kuwe. Ngoko cinga malunga naziphi iincoma ozithandayo, kwaye ziphi izinto ezicaphukisayo. Ukuba awukuthandi umntu owenza izibongozo, musa ukuthetha naye. Ukuba awukwazi ukulwamkela indumiso kwidilesi yakho kunoma yimuphi umntu, ngoko isizathu esifanele ukukhangela.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuzithemba okuphantsi kukugweba. Ukuba unokubandezeleka kule nto, iimpahla ziya kubonakala ziyakuthandwa ngokungenakuzithoba. Ngako oko, nasiphi na isilumkiso siya kubangela ukuphendula okungalunganga. Unokukrazula ukuzithemba okuphantsi, kufuneka ubeke umgudu omncinane. Zithande ukuba ungubani. Oku kuya kuthintela zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ngenxa yokuzihlambalaza, amantombazana ahlala evakalelwa. Kubonakala kula ma ntombazana ukuba bafumana indumiso engafanelekanga. Ngenxa yoko, nokuba nomva wecala unokuhlakulela.
Kukho olunye udidi lwamantombazana onokuzithemba. Kule nto inengxaki. Kubonakala kubo ukuba abo bajikelezileyo bayazibona iimpumelelo zabo njengezinto ezintle. Abanye banokukhubekiswa ngokuncoma kwaye baphendule ngento ehlaselayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi ukuncoma kusinika into ethile, umzekelo, ukuphendula: udumo, inkonzo okanye isimo sengqondo esifudumeleyo. Njengomthetho, ukufakela okunjalo kufakwa kwiintloko zethu ukususela ebuntwaneni. Kodwa oku kakubi. Ewe, unokwazi ukuphendula ngokuncoma kwincoma, kodwa akusoloko ifanelekileyo.
Isizathu sokugqibela sokuba kutheni singakwazi ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo ukuncoma kuyisityholo. Unokucinga ukuba ngale ndlela umntu uzama ukukuphatha. Ngamanye amagama, uthabatha ukunyaniseka okunyanisekileyo, njengokwenyuka. Ngelishwa, oku kuya kwenzeka. Kodwa awukwazi ukubheka nayiphi na into kuyo yonke into. Oku kukuthintela ukuba unandiphe ubomi kwaye ubone okulungileyo kubantu.
Indlela yokuphendula kwiincoma
Ngoko, unomncoma. Oku kungaba ngumphathi wakho, umhlobo okanye umntu oye wambonisa ububele kuwe. Kufuneka usebenze ngokuchanekileyo kule nto. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba wenze oku, hlalutya kakuhle oku ngasentla.
Ngaphakathi bakholwa kwincoma
ULyudichen uvame ukuthetha izinto ezintle kuthi ukuze sijabule okanye sijabule. Yamkele le nyaniso! Khawuvuyiswe ngokuphendula ngokuncoma. Nangona kuveka inkohliso, zama ukuzithemba ngenye indlela. Unokuzihlaziya ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba nangona isidima sakho sinyanyisiwe, sisona sigxina somqondiso wakho. Ukongezelela, mhlawumbi ukunconywa kuyafaneleka. Ngako oko, vuyela impendulo yalo. Ukuphazamiseka kuya kuphazamisa nje isimo sengqondo. Kutheni ufuna?
Uvuyo oluthembekileyo
Ngokuzithoba ubeka isohlwayo ukuthokoza. Smile ngokuphendula umntu owenza ntoni kuwe. Umntu uyavuya kakhulu ukubona indlela enjalo ngayo. Mhlawumbi uya kukwazi ukuphakamisa indlela yakhe yokuziphatha ngokuncinci.
Siyabonga
Into elula ongayenza nje ukubulela. Oku kuyindlela yokuphendula ngokusemgangathweni okuya kusebenza kuyo nayiphi na imeko. Ukuba ufuna ukwenza okuthile ngokubuyisela ukuncoma into enkulu kumntu, ngoko unokumbulela nganoma iyiphi indlela evumelana nawe.
Ukuncoma kungaphendulwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Nazi ezinye iiflati eziqhelekileyo: "Ndiyabonga, ndivuyiswa kukuba uyayithanda", "Amazwi akho anjengomphefumlo emphefumlweni", "Ndiwuthatha umzekelo", "Ndiyihlazo, kodwa ndonwabile". Unokuthatha umntu ngesandla okanye udibanise xa ephendula kwikomiti. Into ephambili kukuba yendalo.
Intombazana nganye ifanelwe ukuncoma kwidilesi yakhe. Kwaye, ngaphezu kwabo, bhetele. Ukuze uyamkele kwaye uyiphendule ngokufanelekileyo, kufuneka uqaphele inyaniso elula: intombazana inelungelo lokuvuma ukuncoma. Awudingi ukukhangela kumntu owamncomayo, iinjongo ezifihlakeleyo. Uninzi lwamaxesha amaninzi unconywa ukwenzela ukuba wenze lula, ujabule, uphucule indlela ovakalelwa ngayo. Ngoko kutheni ungonwabi ukuba uyamthanda, kwaye uthanda abanye abantu?
Yithi ukuncoma ngokunyanisekileyo kubo bonke abantu, bamomotheka. Kuya kukukholisa umntu kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufuna ukwenza enye incomo.