Ukuzala ngokuhlangeneyo nomyeni wakhe

Ubungqina bokuba upapa ngexesha eliphambili lokubonakala komntwana alumangalisi mntu. Kwamazwe aseNtshona, ukusetyenziswa kokubambisana, okanye ukuzalwa kwamaqabane, kuthatha amashumi eminyaka. Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, amakhaya aninzi asekhaya asetyenziselwa ukubeleka axhasa le ngcamango. Kufuneka wenze isigqibo kuwe: uthathe okanye ubelethe ngendlela endala. Yaye ukuba ngaba kubantwana abathandana nabo bezalamane - oku kukuphela kokukhula kweemeko, ngoko-ke kwabanye - isinyathelo esinqabileyo, akulula ukuqhuba. Musa ukukhawuleza ngeempendulo. Hlanganisa ubunzima kunye neengxaki kunye nokukhetha ukhetho olufanelekileyo.

Inani labaxhasayo bezinto ezizalanayo ngokunyukayo kunyuka minyaka yonke. Abasetyhini ababeletha ngamadoda abo, kwaye iingcali zithi ubukho bomntu obathandayo bunikeza umoya ococekileyo, ukhuthaza unina olindeleyo. Ukongeza, ukuba umfazi okhulelweyo uqala ukukhathazeka kakhulu, indoda iya kumnceda ukuba aqhagamshelane nabasebenzi bezonyango. Ukubeletha yinkqubo enemvakalelo, kwaye ukuvakalelwa kukuba umthandayo ujikeleze kunika umfazi ithemba. Qaphela: Ubaba ekamelweni lokuhambisa akuyena nje umbonisi onesihawu. Izindlela zokuncedisa ngokwaneleyo: ukususela ekuhlaleni okutshayo kunye nokufunda ngokuvakalayo iincwadi ezithandayo okanye iimagazini kwixesha elide lokulwa kwiseshoni yokuphefumula ngokubambisana ngokucwangcisa isikimu esikhethekileyo kunye nemizamo. Ewe, uze ubeke ixesha elithile elinamandla, apho unokubamba khona ixesha elibi kakhulu, lithetha into eninzi. Ubukho bepapa budlala indima enkulu kwintsana. Kwiengqondo, kukho ingcamango "yokuprinta", oko kukuthi, ukuprinta.

Iingcali zithi yokuqala imizuzu engama-30 ukuya kwimizuzu 40 emva kokuzalwa komntwana kwimeko evukileyo. Ufunda, uqobo uthatha inyaniso. Yintoni umntu omncinane aza kuyibona kwaye akhumbule kule ngxenye efanelekileyo yure, echaphazela ukucinga kwakhe kwehlabathi. Kukholelwa ukuba iintsana ezisandulweyo ezithatyathwa ooyise zakha ukuthetha ngokuqinileyo ngokubambisana nabo, kwaye azidluli ndawo naphakathi kwexesha, kodwa zihlala phakathi kwazo zonke iinyanga ezizayo. Ngokuphathelele abapapa ngokwabo, abaninzi babo ubukho bokuzalwa komntwana wabo kunye nesigramente sokunika amava angenakulinganiswa nento. Ngokuqhelekileyo esi siganeko sihlala sisona sibalulekileyo ebomini babo.

Cinga ngemigangatho
Nangona zonke iinkalo ezintle zokuzalwa ngokubambisana, iingcali zi lumkisa: oku kuyinyathelo elibaluleke kakhulu kwibini ngalinye. Isisombululo sidinga indlela eyodwa kuphela. Emva koko, ukuba elinye iqabane lingamlungele, zonke iindleko zokuzalwa ezinjalo ziza kuba zibalulekileyo, kodwa iimiphumo ezimbi kuyo yonke intsapho inokuba nzima.

Ukuba ibhinqa ayilungele ngokwengqondo ukuba khona kwendoda yakhe (umzekelo, uye wafihla ubunzima), oku kunokumanyanzela kwaye kubenzela inkqubo yokubeletha.
Kwezinye iipapa, ubukho bentlungwini yomfazi kubangela umonakalo omkhulu wecala, ngoko kunzima ukuwususa. Amava okuzalwa komlingani angathintela kakubi ukutshatyalaliswa ngokwesini kumlingane.

Ngaba unqume uzimisele ukwenza oku kunye? Ngoko ungesabi. Kuyaziwa ukuba loo nkathazo ivela kuphela xa isigqibo sabazali besikhathi esizayo sasingacatshangelwa kakuhle. Upapa, ofuna ukuthabatha inxaxheba kwinkqubo, kodwa akaqinisekanga ukuba uya kulwa novavanyo olulolo hlobo, unokwenza umonakalo: ube nomfazi kwixesha elide kunye nelona libuhlungu xa kulwa, kwaye ulinde ixesha elidityanisayo kumnyango wonikezelo. Musa ukulibala: ngokubambisana, kunye nokubeletha komdabu, into ebalulekileyo yiphumo. Oku kunjalo, umntwana ophilileyo kwaye uyathandana nabazali abanakekelayo. Ngoko akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo ukuba ngaba ngesizathu esithile awuzange uhambe ngexesha lokubeleka ndawonye "ukusuka" ukuya ku "I". Emva kwakho konke, kukho ezininzi izinto ezimangalisayo ngaphambi kokuba uza kuhlala kunye nosapho lonke!