Ukuzalwa komntwana wokuqala

Kwiminyaka emininzi kwakukholelwa ukuba iminyaka ephezulu kakhulu yowesifazane ukuba abelethe umntwana wokuqala ngowama-20-25. Ukukhulelwa, okwenzeka ngaphambi komhla wokugqibela, kwakucatshangwa kusenokwenzeka okanye kungekudala. Kwaye emva kokuzalwa kwakucatshangelwa ukuba sele kungathandeki. Nangona ukukhulelwa kokukhawuleza ngokoqobo ngokwenene igama - le mimba ayikho ngaphaya kweminyaka engama-42.
Namhlanje, abaninzi abafazi bashiya ukuzalwa kwabo kuphela ngeli xesha lobomi babo. Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zabonisa ukuba ukukhulelwa emva kokubeleka nokubeletha kuvuselela umzimba womfazi. Kwinconywa yendlela yokubukeka ilungileyo kumfazi kungakhathaliseki ubudala, umlingisi uSophia Loren wabiza ukuzala umntwana oneminyaka engama-40 ubudala. U-Angelina Jolie kunye noMadonna, iinkwenkwezi zexesha lethu, nazo zazala abantwana babo bokuqala, sele sele sebudala beBalzac.

Ngoko, ukuzalwa kwimihla kaBalzac kuvuselela umzimba womfazi.

Uprofesa waseUnited States, uJohn Mirowski, owasebenza kwiYunivesithi yaseTexas, ixesha elide wazama ukuphendula umbuzo - xa kukulungele ukuzala umntwana wokuqala? Wachaza ubungqina obukholisayo bokuthi ubudala obuqhelekileyo bowesifazane ekukhulelweni kokuqala akuhambelani nxamnye noluvo olucatshangelwe ngaphambili. Eli lidala, ngokutsho kwiprofesa, lineminyaka engama-34. Kulo thuba lobomi ukuba imeko yezempilo kunye nokuzinza kwemali yowesifazane ifinyelele kwisilinganiselo esithile, okwenza kube lula ukuthatha inyathelo elinoxanduva ngokubanzi.

Enyanisweni, kumazwe aseNtshona, apho ukukhulelwa kwangaphambili kunye nokwamkelwa ngokukhawuleza kungamkelwa luluntu, abafazi banomdla kakhulu ngale nkcazo. Ngenxa yokuba amabhinqa ekhulwini lama-21 sele eqhelekile ukuba angathembeli kwisini esomeleleyo kwokhuseleko lwabo, ngoko ke okokuqala baqala ukucinga ngomsebenzi, izindlu zabo, kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kodwa kuncinci, kwintsapho. Kukho neemeko xa umfazi emva kweminyaka engama-30 kuphela efumana iqabane elifanelekileyo, ixesha elifanelekileyo kakhulu lokucinga ngomntwana. Kwaye akunakumnandi ukuqonda ukuba ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba ngumama lishiywa emva. Ngoko, akusayi kukhawuleza ukuzala.

Kakade, le ngqungquthela inabanye abachasileyo. Kodwa ukuba ucinga ngako, ukucwangciswa kokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala kunokuqhelekanga kunokuba kwenzeke ngokungahambi kakuhle okuchaphazela esi siganeko. Ngoko ke, naziphi na izibalo zokubeletha umntwana wokuqala kukuphela kweengcali zabaphandi, kunokuba abemi abaphakathi. Isiphelo, esinokuyenza ngokuzithemba: akusayi kukhawuleza ukuzala, ukuba ngaba kukho umfazi nomnqweno.

Uphando lwabaseRussia lwaluqhutyelwa kwaye ama-61% wabameli bendoda bathiwa ngumdala ukususela kwiminyaka engama-19 ukuya kweye-24 njengeyona nto ingcono yokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala. Ingongoma ephambili yeli xesha, amadoda aqwalasela imeko esemgangathweni kunye nempilo enhle yowesifazane. Bathetha oku okulandelayo: "Umdala osebudala bomfazi, enkulu amathuba okufumana zonke iintsholongwane, ukufumana izifo ezitsha, izifo ezigugu ziba yinto engapheliyo, kwaye oku kunempembelelo embi kumntwana. Nangona, kuboniswa ukuba abantwana bexesha elide banokuqonda kwaye banet talente kunabantwana abaqhelekileyo. "

Abasetyhini bavumelana nabo - 49%, abakholelwa ukuba "eli lixesha elihle kakhulu - kwaye kungekudala kakhulu okanye kungekudala, ekubeni umzimba uzaliswe ngokuzeleyo kwaye ulungele ukuzalwa komntwana," "ekuhambeni kwakho kokubeleka, unako ukugcina ulutsha."

"Kubalulekile ukuzala xa lo mfazi unethuba lokulungiselela ubomi obuqhelekileyo kunye nobomi obupheleleyo kumntwana," bathi 37% yabantu abadliwano-ndlebe bajonga ukuba iminyaka yobudala engama-25 ukuya ku-30 ​​kuya kulungele ukuzalwa komntwana wokuqala. Kungenxa yalesikhathi ukuba ulwazi malunga noxanduva lokuzalwa nokukhuliswa komntwana luphawu. Ekubeni lo mfazi sele sele eyenzeka kule minyaka njengomntu, wafumana imfundo ephakamileyo, oko kuthetha ukuba unako ukubonelela umntwana ngekamva elizinzile.

Kodwa ukhetho luhlala luhlala lulo mfazi, kuba ekukhulelweni okuphambili kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza.

UJulia Sobolevskaya , ngokukhethekileyo kwisiza