Umsebenzi ohlangeneyo: uthini oogqirha?


Sizalela ndawonye? Iinkonzo kunye neengxaki? Ukwesaba okanye inkxaso? "Ukuzalwa okuhlangeneyo: uthini oogqirha?" - isihloko sesicatshulwa samhlanje.

Ngoku kutshanje eRashiya iintsapho ezininzi ezincinci zikhetha ukuzalwa ngokuhlanganyela. Namhlanje kunzima ukumangalisa nabani na umnqweno wabazali bexesha elizayo ukuba bazalane kunye. Ukuba isibini esitshatileyo sithatha umntwana wakhe ngothando nangokuqonda, ngoko umnqweno wabo uyaqondakala, kwaye kuphela imvume efanelekileyo. Ukuzalwa okubambiseneyo akukhona nje ukungabikho nto kwindoda ebusondeleyo kwindoda ebesemsebenzini ngexesha lokubeleka. Akukho baboneleli abangabonakaliyo, bonke abathatha inxaxheba ekuzalweni komntwana. Inendima yengomso oyise ngexesha lokuzalwa ngokubambisana lifana nendima yomama. Abazali abaye babhekana nesiganeko esibalulekileyo kwintsapho nganye kwaye kamva bavusa umntwana ekuthandweni kunye nokuqonda jikelele. Amava amahle ngexesha lokusebenzisana nomyeni wakho inokuba yinye yezihlandlo ezikhunjulwayo zobomi.
Umendo wokuba ngumzali owaziyo uqala ukudala kubuntwaneni bonke, kwaye wakhiwe ngomzekelo wobudlelwane nabazali (akusoloko ukhangelekile, kodwa le nto iyenzeka), ubudlelwane nomntu othandekayo. Ngethuba lokuzalwa ngokubambisana ukuba ubuhlobo bokwenene bomtshato bubonakala. Kodwa ungahambi kubantwana bokuzalwa ukuze uhlalutye naziphi na iingxaki zeentsapho, ngale ndlela awukwazi nje ukuzinyusa nje, kodwa ubeke inkqubo eqhelekileyo yenkqubo yokudala. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuthetha kwangaphambili omnye nomnye, ubudlelwane bokwenene phakathi kwabatshatileyo kulo mbandela kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngoko ngaphambi kokuya kule nyathelo, zibuze umbuzo: "Kutheni ndifuna le?"
Kwenzeka ukuba izibini ezithandana ngokuzalwa zidixeka kakhulu kubo, kwaye oku kwenzeka xa umntu engayiqondi ngokupheleleyo iinjongo kunye neminqweno. Kukho abafazi abafuna ukuphucula ubudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho, ukubonisa umlingane ngeyona nto intlungu afuneka ngayo, okanye ukuba nethemba lokuba emva kokuzalwa ngokubambisana upapa uza kuthatha inxaxheba ejongene nokunyamekela umntwana.

Kodwa ezi zinto azikho izizathu, kuba loo nto ishukumisayo inokukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi, kwaye loo mntu uya kusuka kude nawe kunye nosana. Akuyimfuneko ukuchukumisa umyeni wakhe ukuba abe nokubeletha, ukuba akafuni. Amadoda amaninzi alwa kwaye aqikelele ukuzalwa ukuba yi-feminine kuphela.
Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba abafazi baqeqeshwe ukuzalwa komlingani. Ngoku kukho iikhosi ezininzi ezizodwa kubasetyhini ekubelethweni kunye namaqabane abo. Kwixesha eliqhelekileyo lomsebenzi, umyeni kufuneka aqonde, cinga izigaba zokubeletha.
Injongo ephambili yowesifazane ukumema umyeni wakhe ngokuzalwa ngumnqweno wokuva inkxaso yothandekayo. Umyeni kufuneka anike inkxaso ngenkxaso, ahlaziye umfazi wakhe, uncede njengoko kufunekayo, uqhube umsila owenza intlungu.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa bethetha ngokuzalwa kwamaqabane, bathetha umlingane, kodwa akunjalo. Iqabane lokubeletha linokuba ngumama okanye udade. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kufuneka kube ngumfazi oye wadlulela ekuzalweni, kuya kuba lula ukunceda unina ekuzaleni.
Inyaniso yokuba ubaba ozayo uza kuthatha inxaxheba ekuzalweni, isibini ngasinye sizenzele isigqibo. Kukho iintsapho apho abazali bahamba khona ngesandla sonke sokukhulelwa nokuzala. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ubawo unceda ngokukhulelwa, kwaye, ngenxa yoko, uthatha inxaxheba ejongene nokunyamekela kwintsana.

Kwezinye iintsapho, kuthathwa isigqibo malunga nobukho bepapa kwisithili sokubeletha, ngexesha lomsebenzi, kunye noyise akahambi ngqo ekuzalweni, uya kuphinda ahlangane kunye nosapho emva kokuzalwa komntwana. Amanye amadoda awakulungele ukuya ekubelekeni, kodwa akakwazi ukulinda ukubona umntwana wakhe aze ahlale iintsuku zokuqala esibhedlele nomkakhe. Kukho iimeko, ubukho bobawo kunye nokusebenza kwecandelo lalo, xa upapa enyamekela yonke inakekelwa yintsana, ngelixa umama esuka kwi-anesthesia. Iintsapho nganye zikhetha ukhetho olufanelekileyo. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ukhetho lwabazali bezalamane luzaliswe ngokupheleleyo kwaye luzithandela.
Akumangalisi bathi: "Abazali abonwabileyo banomdla onomdla." Zonke iinyanga ezilisithoba zihlangene kunye nokulungiselela ukuzalwa komntwana osalindelwe ixesha elide, ngokunyamekela omnye nomnye kunye nokuba engazange azalwe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umlingo omkhulu wothando ngukuzalwa komtsha omtsha, odibana nokuthanda unina noyise.