Ukutshatyalaliswa kwePostpartum yimeko engenakukhuselwa kwanoma yimuphi umama?


Ukuzalwa komntwana ngummangaliso wokwenene. Ulonwabo endlwini, indoda endala elalilindele ixesha elide ezandleni zakhe. Kodwa oomama abancinane, oku kuvavanyo lwangempela. Ngokukodwa kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi bomntwana. Luhlobo luni lohlaselo olu lukhuni emva kokuzalwa - imeko engenakukhuselwa kwanoma yimuphi umama? Okanye isifo esinokunyangwa ngandlela-thile? Sacela - siphendula.

Blues kid.

Unyana wethu inyanga, uhlala ekhala ebusuku, ulala kuphela ezandleni zakhe. Ndiye ndanyuka kwiinyawo zam, ndihlala ndikhala, "ndivumela ukuba izinja zise phantsi", andinakukujonga kumntwana ngezikhathi ezithile. Kwaye ndaphupha nje into enye: ukulala!

Umama ngamnye onesihlanu emva kokubeletha uqala enye yeengxaki ze-post-partum - "baby-blues". Isizathu salo - ngokubhekisele, ngokubhekiselele kubusuku, ukuguquka kwimeko ye-hormonal. Amanqanaba amancinci e-progesterone kunye ne-estrogen ibangela ukwesaba, ukudandatheka kunye nokudandatheka, ukulahleka kwe-adrenaline kubangela ukuhla kwehla ngokukhawuleza kwamandla. Ukungabi nobuthongo, imisebenzi emitsha engaqhelekanga, ukubunjwa kwe-lactation kwandisa imeko yeentlanzi. Ibhinqa lingamthandi okwenzekayo, kodwa ayikwazi ukujamelana nale meko ngokwayo-idinga uncedo kwizihlobo zakhe. "Qiniseka" umntwana, umyeni, intombi - kwaye uchithe imizuzu ebalulekileyo yenkululeko kwiphupha. Musa ukugijimela izinto: ukufumana emva kokubeletha kuthatha iiveki ezi-6-8, kodwa ukuba ukukhulelwa nokubeletha kunzima, eli xesha alanele.

Unganqikazi ukudibanisa nomdlavuza wezilwanyana. Isizathu sokudakumba kwengqondo emva kokusuka akusiyo "entloko", kodwa kwi-hormone, ngoko ke ayiphathwa ngeeseshoni zengqondo, kodwa ngokusetyenziswa kwamachiza avunyelwe ngexesha lokuncelisa. Khumbula ukuba emva kokuzalwa, umama nomntwana bayaqhubeka behlala belamano olusondeleyo. Ukhathazeka ngumama kunye nokukhathala akunakuchukumisa umntwana: uyaba nexhala, aphule ngokukhala, nokuba akukho nto imphazamisayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani, umntwana kufuneka aphathwe ngokuzinzileyo, kwaye inkqubo yokuxhatshazwa komzimba iya kuhamba ngokukhawuleza.

Umama opheleleyo.

Ngaphambi kokuba ndikhulelwe, ndandidinga kakhulu umsebenzi, kwaye ngokuzalwa kwintombi yam yanquma ukuba ndiza kuba ngumama ongcono kunabo bonke emhlabeni. Intombi endala kunama-2.5, unyana wam uneminyaka engathandathu ubudala. Ndinabantwana abancinci, kodwa mna ndaphenduka waba ngumfazi osetyhini. Abantwana bembethe, bondla, bahlamba? Kulungile. Dlala nabo, bafunde iincwadi ezingenamandla. Ndakhe ndalibala xa ndihamba ngaphesheya kwebala lokudlala.

Ukuzalwa komntwana kubhinqa kuyinkathazo yengqondo, kufana nomntwana osemtsha. Kulo mama osemncinci uyaphalazela ukuba imigaqo yakhe, inkululeko yakhe, izicwangciso zakhe zobugcisa zixhomekeke kwimvelaphi. I-Perfectionist, ibhinqa ejwayele ukuba yileyokuqala kuyo yonke into, kunzima nakakhulu: ukugqiba ekubeni "ngumama ongcono kunabo bonke emhlabeni", uzama ngokucacileyo ukuba akanakwenzeka. Akunabamama abafezekileyo, kodwa wonke umama unikela umntwana wakhe into enhle ngokwaneleyo. Amahlombe akho ngokukhawuleza enenkxalabo eninzi, kwaye kufuneka uphinde ucinge ngezinto eziphambili: kuqala abantwana, ke wena, kwaye kuphela indawo yesithathu yindlu kunye neemfuno zendlu. Kwamanye amabhinqa, kuphela ukuvakalelwa "kwekhaya" kungabangela ukuhla kwamandla. Oomama abanjalo banconywa ukuba baye emsebenzini ngokukhawuleza. Utshintsho oluthile lomsebenzi luya kuphazamisa iingcamango ezibuhlungu kwaye ziza kuba njenge-detente. Kwaye imfuno yokuba yindawo yoluntu yenza ukuba uhlale uhle kwaye uzibukele. Okokuqala kungcono ukuba ungaphumi usuku olupheleleyo. Izingane zifuna ukunxibelelana nawe, kwaye ufuna ixesha lokuba usebenzise isantya esitsha sobomi.

Ukugxeka kwesizathu esicocekileyo.

Umyeni wam wabuya ekhaya evela emsebenzini waza walala phantsi kwesofa: yena, ubona, wasebenza yonke imini kwaye wayetyukile. Kwaye, ngoko, andinakhathala ngokusebenza ngekhefu nosana yonke imihla kwaye ndisenokuba nexesha lokupheka ukudla kwakhe! Kwaye uyangcikiva; bathi, Ndaziqalisa. Kwaye xa ndizenza ngokwam, ukuba ngamanye amaxesha andinayo imfuneko yokuya endlwini yangasese?

Isimo sengqondo esinjalo kwiintsapho awamkelekanga, kodwa akufanele sibe sisizathu sokubamba iinyembezi okanye ukuphendula ngokunyaniseka. Ngaphandle kwengxolo engeyomfuneko, ndixelele ukuba awuyithandi iitatimenti ezinjalo kwidilesi yakho. Zama ukukopela. Ngaphantsi kweengcamango ezicacileyo (umzekelo, ukutyelela ugqirha) ushiye indoda yedwa kunye nomntwana ubuncinane ngeeyure ezimbalwa. Akunakunyulwa ukuba ngoku uya kucinga malunga nokuba kunzima kangakanani ukugcina umkhondo weemvuthu. Indoda emva kokuzalwa komntwana iphinde igxininiswe: ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule wayeyinto yokudumisa kwakho, kwaye ngoku yonke ingqalelo yakho ijoliswe kumntwana. Mhlawumbi ukuziphatha okubi kakhulu kukuphendula okukhuselayo, umzamo ongenakunqwenelekayo wokunyusa "umchasi" kwindawo yawo. Ukuba kukho umnqweno kunye nethemba lokuphinda uphinde ubuhlobo obusondeleyo, musa ukuzibamba ngamagama anomnene uze unqabise umona wakhe ngothando.

Intlangano yesayensi yezabasebenzi.

Intombi yam iyazola, inginika ubuthongo, ndiyakwazi ukuzizonwabisa. Kodwa i-shaft yomsebenzi wesikolo iyancedisa. Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuze ndisindise ixesha kunye namandla?

Zama ukudlulisela ezinye iinkxalabo "kubaxhasi bamashishini". Umda wamaphupha kukuba zonke iiyunithi zasemakhaya ziyacwangciswa kwaye zisebenza ngobuncinane bentetho yakho. Ukupheka "ukuthengisa" kunye nokugcina ukusetyenziswa kwexesha elizayo. Isiqwenga sifaka kwiifriji zefriji, inyama kunye nomhluzi (usebenzisa, umzekelo, iibumba ze-ice). Ingxaki idala izinto ezingadingekile, ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba zikhulule ngokukhululekileyo ukusuka kwindlu. Musa ukuzisola ngamakhethini, iipatethi kunye nemidlalo yokudlala, kuba kufuneka ubencede. Ukuze uhlalise rhoqo izinto zezingane, qalisa amabhokisi ngeebhondi: okokuqala, iziqulatho zazo aziqokeleli, okwesibini, kunye nabo, ukucocwa kuya kufuna kuphela ukugxotha izinto kwiingxowa ezifanelekileyo. Kwibhokisi eyahlukileyo, faka izinto ezincinci, i-end of which you can not yet decide. Buyela kule bhokisi kanye ngeveki uze uhlele umxholo wayo. Ukuba umntwana usemncinci, amanye amacala angenziwa kunye naye ezandleni zakhe. Kwaye ke inokuqhagamshelaniswa nemisebenzi yasemakhaya: abantwana bayibona njengomdlalo omnandi kwaye bathatha inxaxheba ngokuzithandela kubo. Ukucwilisa iintyatyambo, ukusula uthuli ngamandla enoba umntwana oneminyaka eyi-1.5 ubudala. Into ephambili ayiyikuyenza nantoni na, kodwa kunika umdlalo kumdlalo. Ngokukhawuleza kubonakala kulula.