Ubomi buyatshintsha
Ngokukhawuleza kamva amaninzi amantombazana atshate. Emva kokungena ebomini bakho, umthandayo unemitshato entsha, eqhelekileyo yentsapho. Kwingqungquthela yabangani bakho abahlobo kunye namantombazana abo bongezwa. Ukwenza uhambo oluhlangeneyo ehlobo e-kayak. I-shry shish kebabs ehlathini lasebusika elinamaqhwa angaguquki kunye ne-quil-encinci kwi-snowdrift. Khawuleza ukuya kwiikonsathi zamathandani ozithandayo - kwinkampani engenakucabungela iyamnandi kwaye iyanelisekile - yonke inombini, incinci kwaye inamandla.
Kwaye ulapha ulindele umntwana - utshintsho olutsha, kulindeleke kwaye alukhange kulindeleke ngexesha elifanayo. Ukuxhalabisa nokungathandabuzeki, utshintsho kwintlalo-ntle kunye nebala, ukulinganiselwa kwemvelo yengqiqo kunye nokusola kwendabuko. Konke oku kukhokelela ekutshintsheni oluthile kwixesha lokungcebeleka kunye nesangqa soqhagamshelwano. Ukudanisa kuze kube sekuseni kwibhula egcwele umsi, i-crink edibeneyo kwi-rink kunye nenani lezinye izinto ezonwabileyo ngoku sele zihlala ixesha elithile.
Akunakukwazi ukudibana, ebomini babantu basakuba ngabaxhamli, iziganeko ezenzekayo, apho ungasenayo iphathi. Ukuzithemba kwakho kuyacaphukisa, bacaphukiswa ukukhankanya kwakho kunye novelwano olunzulu. Kufika ukupholisa okungenakukupheka kwiimeko ezinjalo. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Indlela yokuhlala udala kwaye ufumane abahlobo abalungileyo ukuba bakuqonde ngegama lesigama? Izikhelo kwisiqhelo esinobuhlobo, esibangelwa utshintsho lwexeshana kwimpilo, emdlalweni namathuba, ukwesaba, ukukhutshiswa nokufuna ukuzaliswa kwakhona. Naluphina utshintsho kwindawo eqhelekileyo ayikwazi ukusila.
Kwaphela. Musa ukuthukuthela kwaye ekugqibeleni ungcwatye kakhulu intanda kwintliziyo yakho. Le meko ayiyi kuhlala ixesha elide. Uninzi lwabahlobo bakho bexesha langaphambili, baya kuphulaphula ngokukhethekileyo iingcebiso zakho. Baya kubuya kwinqanaba lakho lentlalo, kodwa kunye nabayeni babo nabantwana. Okwangoku, kubalulekile ukujonga izinto ezintle kwimeko esitshintshileyo yoqhagamshelwano-abahlobo abatsha, owaziwayo, akwenzeki kakhulu.
Ndingafumana phi na abahlobo kunye nabaziyo?
Abahlobo kunye nabaqhelana nabo banokufunyanwa naphi na apho uya khona. Kwaye iindawo zakho ziye zatshintsha. Ngoko, ngoku uhleli kwishedyuli, ungowokuqala, ngokubonisana kwabasetyhini. Indawo entsha. Apha uqala ukuba unyaka ngomsebenzi wokukhangela unyango kwaye awuzange uhlale ixesha elide. Ngoku yonke into iyahluke. Awuthathanga kakhulu, jonga kwiindonga "ukutshatyalaliswa okubonakalayo" kwinqanaba lezobugcisa ezahlukeneyo kwaye ujonge phambili kwiimeko ezimnandi zokuhlola. Yeka iinkqubo ezingamangalisi ixesha labo. Khangela. Naka ingqalelo kubamelwane - kwimigca yokuthandana banamathele ngokungaqinisekanga. Uhlala unethuba lokuya ekhaya, kodwa isangqa saziwayo kufuneka sandiswe. Kwaye ngenxa yokuzonwabisa, nangenxa yokutshintsha "ubulumko" kunye nokuxhaswa kokuziphatha, kwaye ukuphazamisa. Mhlawumbi, uluhlu lwezihloko ekuqaleni lubonakala ngathi luncinci kakhulu kwizihloko zonyango. Yintoni oyenzayo, wena kwiklinikhi. Kodwa okokuqala kuphela. Ukufunda omnye nomnye ngokusondeleyo (kwaye uya kufuneka udibanise ngaphezu kweyodwa), uya kufumana ezinye izihloko kunye nezindlela zokunxibelelana. Kwiindawo zokutyela ezikufuphi ukufumana indebe yetiyi, umzekelo.
Siya phambili. Kuphi? Ngokuqinisekileyo, kwisitoreji. Ngokwamaninzi, ukukhulelwa kunye nokuzalwa kwangomntwana yithuba elihle kakhulu lokuthenga ukutya. Cacisa iadesi zeevenkile ezizodwa kunye neefestile ezikufuphi ukuze ukwazi kakuhle apho ukhulula khona. Kwaye-qhubeka phambili! Apha uya kuxhaswa ngabahlobo bamandulo, kunye nabatsha. Kwaye kwiivenkile uza kudibana nabasetyhini abahle. Nabo kuya kubakho ukuxoxa nje kuphela ngepesenti yokwakheka kwengubo entsha yehlobo okanye i-bandage yenkampani ethile. Ngubani owathi ukuthenga akuyona into evuyisayo, ukuba uyayifumana ngokugqithiseleyo, kunye neklasi kunye nenkampani enhle?
Ithuba elihle lolwazi olutsha luya kukunika ukuhamba ebusuku. Ukuba ekuhambeni kwakho ukuhamba kwakho bekukhawulelwe kumgangatho osebenzayo kunye nomdlali ezindlebeni nasekuhambeni kokuthenga, ngoku uhamba ngokukhawuleza ngokuhlwa. Khawubhekisise ngakumbi abahambahambayo egcekeni, epakini. Akunjalo kuphela kwabo babesimweni esifanayo, kodwa nakumama abanabantwana abancinci, abanamantombazana amnandi kwiibhentshi. Ukuvela kobubele bokubonisana, amagama ambalwa amnandi ngokwaneleyo ukuqala ukumazi umthwalo. Ukuba umntu omaziyo omtsha ubonakala engadingekile, unokuhlala utshintsha indawo kunye nexesha lokuhamba. Ukuze uqhelane nabantu abasondeleyo kwimeko engqondweni, unakho na.
I-intanethi isebenza kuwe
Kukho ukunxibelelana okusebenzayo kwiindawo ze-intanethi. Ungazivumeli ukutyelela uluntu olukhethiweyo, nangona kunqabileyo iingcamango ezixoxwe ngazo. Yiba nengqiqo, uzame wena okanye enye into eyaziwayo kwi-Intanethi yoluntu. Dlulisa amehlo kumasayithi amaninzi athandwayo. Kusekelwe kuphela kwiziphumo zengcaciso oye yayihlolisisa kwaye emva kokuziqonda iingcebiso zalabo bajonga ingcamango entsha, yenza izigqibo zakho. Yithatha ibhloko yolwazi olulungele wena, kwaye wena kuphela - njengomntu onqabileyo kwaye onengqiqo.
Bekani ingqalelo nje kuphela kumaziko omama abanomdla. Kodwa nakwindawo yoluntu malunga nezihloko zengqondo yengqondo okanye yendlu. Kuhlala kunomdla ukuthetha nabantu ababenayo "kwinqanawa efanayo." Ngaba akuyiyo "ukuhlamba amatye" kunye nomamazala? Okanye uxoxe ngeendlela zokugcina indlu, ukutshintshisana zokupheka kunye neetekisi ze-lullabies, ukuze uxhasane? Nangona kunjalo, ngenkuthalo ekuxubusha kwiforamu yamazwe ngamazwe le nto okanye loo mbandela, ungakulibali malunga noluntu lwesixeko sakho. Unxibelelwano kunye nehlabathi elikhulu livuyisa kwaye lifundisa. Kodwa kuninzi ngamanye amaxesha ukuphuma kwi "World Wide Web" kwaye udibana "nobomi bwenene" kunye nabantu abaqhelana nabo.
Musa ukuxhoma!
Musa ukulibala malunga neminqweno yangaphambili kunye nezinto ezithandwayo, malunga nokuphakamisa izinga loqeqesho lobuchule. Jonga iindaba eziphambili kunye neebhloko zeendaba kwizinto ozithandayo ngaphambili. Mhlawumbi, ngokuhlwa kwekhefu lokubeletha kunye nexesha elixakekayo kwikhefu lomzali, zonke izinto zokuzonwabisa ezidlulileyo zibonakala zingabalulekanga kwaye zide. Kholwa, nangona kunjalo, ukuba oku akunjalo. Kwaye ixesha lihamba ngokukhawuleza. Ukutshintshwa kolunye uhlobo lomsebenzi ukuya kolunye lunceda ukuphazanyiswa kwixhala elingadingekile lokuxhalabisa okuqhelekileyo kwimiba yethu namhlanje. Ukongezelela, ngokuzigqiba ngokugqibeleleyo kwintsapho-inkalo yabantwana, unesivuyo kunye nokungabi nantoni ngezandla zakho zenza "i-cage" apho uya kuzama khona emva koko.
Ngaba kukufanelekile ukuba ulinganise ngokucacileyo ubomi bakho? Khumbula malunga nezo zinto ezithandwayo, ezihlala zingenaso ixesha kwixesha elidala lobomi. Zisebenzise iinguqu ezicetywayo zokuphila kwaye uphuphe amaphupha endala. Ubuncinane kwinqanaba lokuqokelela ulwazi malunga nokusebenza kwamaphupha akho, nokuba udweba nge-watercolor, udlala igitare okanye usombulula i-theorem. Le ngongoma ayikho nje umphumo, kodwa ekuzigcinekeni kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo. Kwaye kuququzelelwe kakhulu ngokuqhagamshelana nabantu abanentshiseko abasondelene nawe emsebenzini wabo. Ubomi kusekho izinto ezininzi ezimangalisayo, kwaye ukukhulelwa kuphucula ubomi bakho. Ngaba kulungele ukuyisebenzisa njengesizathu sokuthi ulungele i-flax yesiqhelo kunye nesilingo sokwenza konke okulungileyo ebomini "kamva"? Kwaye, njengokuba uyazi, izinto ezintsha zokuzilibazisa zihlobo olutsha.
Musa ukubheka inhlanhla rhoqo. Abahlobo asifumani rhoqo kwixesha lobomi kwaye siyazifuna rhoqo. Kunokwenzeka kunye nokuphazamiseka kunye nokudumala, kodwa kwakhona ukufumanisa izipho ezimangalisayo ngendlela yokunxibelelana okungaqhelekanga nabantu abanomdla. Kuyafaneleka ukuzama ukugcina ubudlelwane obufudumele nabahlobo bamandulo. Ekubeni kuya kubakho utshintsho oluthile. Yaye abahlobo bokwenene bahlala ukuba ubakhathalele. Mhlawumbi awukhethiwe rhoqo kwi-concert ye-rock okanye ipikiniki. Nangona kunjalo, unokumema abahlobo bakho ngokuhlwa kusiya ekhethekileyo okanye i-pie ngokubhekiselele kwiresi yokuqala. Jonga ifilimu entsha, udibana nomboniso omtsha, malunga nento ozivileyo, kwaye uxoxe kwindawo epholileyo.
Isihloko esikhethekileyo yindlela yokugcina abo bahlobo, abathandekayo kuwe, kodwa ngoku, okanye nantoni na, abayi kuzuza abantwana? Thabatha ingqalelo! Musa ukumisela iintombi zamabhinqa ezichaphazelekayo namhlanje kwizihloko zonxibelelwano. Le mibuzo uya kuxoxa ngesinye isangqa. Buza kuphela ukuba umhlobo wakho unomdla kuni kwaye unobumbene ngani ngaphambili. Mbuze malunga neengxaki kunye nezinto ezithandwayo. Kodwa ungaze uvumele imibuzo efana nale: "Ewe, kwaye unini na?" Namazwana achaphazelekayo. Kuyaqondakala ukuba umnqweno wakho intombi ugcwele uvuyo njengawe. Kodwa iimbono zakho kwi lonwabo ahlale zifuneka ukuba zisebenze. Ayikwazanga ukumelana nayo, kwaye ubizwa ngokuba "uyenze"? Ngokuthobeka kwaye uncumoze uxolo ngenxa yokungahlambuluki, xa unako ukuyeka. Ingozi yomhlobo yoshishino lakhe, kwaye awunalo ilungelo lokumxelela. Kodwa umhlobo kufuneka unikezwe ukungafanelekanga kwimizwi emoyeni: "Ewe, kutheni uyenayo?". Inhlonipho yokuhlonipha iyona nto isisiseko esinobuhlobo kunoma yiphi ixesha lobomi.
Ukuba imeko yezempilo ayinakubangela iingxaki ezikhethekileyo, qhubekani nendlela yokuphila eqhelekileyo kwinkampani. Ukuba ukutshatana okufanayo akuyi kuzisa uvuyo lwenxibelelwano-ungakhathazeki! Ukuba uzama, uza kuphinda ufumane abahlobo abalungileyo kunye nabahlobo abaninzi. Ukugcina abahlobo bamandulo nokuzibandakanya nabantu abatsha, ubomi bakho buya kuba nobutyebi kunye nokunethezeka koqhagamshelwano lomntu.