Ukuba ngumfazi ovuyayo kwaye uphumelele ukuphumelela ebomini, zizungeze ngamadoda afanelekileyo, thandana nomntu wamaphupha akho, ulawule imeko kwintsapho, unokukwazi ukuzilawula kunye nabanye abazungezile ukuze uphumelele kwimpumelelo yakho, wenze ukuba uqhelane nophuhliso wakhe msebenzi kunye nezoshishino. Ngoko ungayifumana njani impumelelo ebomini kwindoda ekhangayo? Musa ukulibala ngobulumko obungenakuthetha ukuba yiyo yonke intokazi. Yaye ndibulela kule bulumko, uyazivuma yena ngokwenene. Ngokuqinisekileyo kukho ukuzithemba, kwaye akukho ukoyika ukuyivuma. Uyabona kwangaphambili ukungavumelani okuzayo, kwaye ukuba zivuthiwe, uhlala enendlela yokuphuma kule meko kwaye ayikho enye. Uyazi ukuba impumelelo ebomini iya kuza kuye nakanjani. Okokuqala, thobela ingqalelo yomntu, jonga oko abantu bakujikelezile, bacinge ngendlela onokubanceda ngayo kwimeko ethile, kwaye ngokufanelekileyo aba bantu abayi kukulibala. Ungalibali ukuziqwalasela wena, oku kubaluleke okokuqala. Kukho imithetho emininzi, ngokubambisana nayo, unokufumana lula ukunxibelelana nabanye ngaphandle kobunzima, kwaye oku kuya kuba luncedo kuwe ekuphumezeni iinjongo zakho:
Funda ukubonisana naye (jonga)
Funda ukuba ungava njani umnxibelelwano wakho
Yazi indlela yokubuza imibuzo
Ziqiniseke ngamakhono akho
Kufuneka ube nomdlalo wehlazo
Ukunyaniseka
Uthando kwaye uhloniphe abantu
Yiba nobungane
Siqale ngoku okungaqhelekanga, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kulula, kodwa ukwamkelwa kwengqondo ngokusebenzayo. Ukujonga emehlweni omnxibelelwano wakho, wena kwinqanaba lomqondiso ubonisa ukuba unyanisekileyo kuye. Kodwa khumbula, ukwenzela ukuba uqinisekise ukuba unxibelelwano, kufuneka ube nokubukeka okuvulekileyo nokuzithemba. Ukuba uyazi ukuphulaphula umntu, uya kulungisa ngokukhawuleza. Xa ubonisa umdla wokwenene kwibali le-interlocutor, ubona inhlonipho yakho. Awunakulibala ukuba kufuneka uzinake wena? Ukubonisa umdla, uphakathi kwinqanaba eliqhelekileyo. Ngaphambili sathetha ngokuseka ubudlelwane nabantu, lixesha lokuthetha ngawe. Ukuzithemba kwakho kukuqalisa kwakhona. Ukuzithemba kuya kutsala abanye, kwaye kuya kuphelisa ukuvalwa. Musa ukulibala malunga nalo. Umhlobo wakho othembekileyo kunye nomncedi uya kuba yihlazo onalo. Akukho mntu uthi kufuneka ucokise wonke umntu kwaye uhlale uhleka. Ukuzihlaziya kuya kubonakala ngokukwazi ukuhlekisa nabanye, ngomzamo wokumomotheka kunye nokufumana iindlela zokusombulula iingxaki ezinzima kwaye ukwazi ukuhleka kuqala ngokuhluleka kwabo. Ukunyaniseka kwakho kubangelwa bonke ubudlelwane obuthembayo. Akukuphela nje ukuzama ukuhlala uthetha inyaniso, kodwa nokugcina igama lakho, ukugcina ixesha. Inqanaba lokunyaniseka kwakho lichaphazela ukuzithemba kwakho, ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nentlonipho yakho kwabanye. Ukuhlala unyanisekile kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kubalulekile ukukhangela iindlela ezilula, ukuba umgomo ukuphumelela. Yiba wena kwaye ungenzi oko unokuzisola kamva.
Ukuba ubonisa uthando kunye nentlonipho kubantu, uya kufunda kuzo izinto ezilungileyo kakhulu zento abazi ngayo. Umdla wakho ngumthombo wexabiso elixabisekileyo. Qaphela, sebenzisa nayiphi na amathuba okuthetha nabo bonke abanethuba. Endleleni eya empumelelweni, ubunzima obuninzi kufuneka bunqobe. Ububele bakho buya kuba luncedo xa wenza abantu abatsha kunye nokweba abantu. Konke oku kuququzelela inkqubela phambili. Uninzi kangakanani ufuna ukufumana kubantu, kuninzi ukunika. Ngaba lixesha lokuphumelela? Ngoko phambili !!!