Ngaba uzizwa udala kwaye ungadingekanga, njengokungathi ubomi budlula? Ngoko, uye watyelelwa ngengozi yexesha eliphakathi. Musa ukukhathazeka. Ngokuqinisekileyo akayikwesabisa njengoko "upende". Enyanisweni, inkxalabo ngokwayo yindibano nje. Kwaye akukho nto enokuyenza ngokudala. Kodwa, ngelishwa, awukwazi ukuwutyeshela le ngxaki. Ngako oko, eli nqaku liyakunceda uqonde indlela yokujamelana neengxaki zeminyaka ephakathi. Oku kuya kwenziwa kwaye kuyadingeka! Ngoxa uxinezeleko aluzange luphumelele ngenxa yezizathu kunye nomnqweno wokuphila ngokucacileyo. Yikholelwa, ngeyona nto inzame, uya kumomotheka ngayo yonke imihla entsha kwaye uzithande ukuba ungubani. Ngeminyaka yakhe.
Iyintoni inkxalabo yokuphila?
Inkxalabo yobudala obuphakathi kukuqonda ukuba awuzange ukhule kuphela, kodwa ufikelele kwisiqingatha somendo wobomi. Ukuba kuwe lokhu kuqonda kunzima, kubuhlungu okanye kuyantyantya, mhlawumbi unokubandezeleka kule nkathazo.
Ngubani obhekene neengxaki zeminyaka ephakathi?
Ininzi idla ngokubonakalayo kumadoda kunye nabasetyhini abaneminyaka engama-35-55. Kuba ibhinqa, ubunzima obuphakathi kweminyaka eliqhelekileyo luhlala luhambelana nokukhula kwabantwana. Abantwana abasayikuyidinga, njengangaphambili. Olu luxinzelelo oluqinileyo, ukuqonda malunga nokuguga. Ngendlela, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuqonda okungamanga. Ngamanye amaxesha ukubonakaliswa kweengxaki zobomi be-midlalo kudibene nomsebenzi. Ukukhethwa kwabafundi abancinci, ukuhlala umhlalaphantsi, njl njl.
Iingcali ziyavuma ukuba abantu abahluphekileyo kakhulu kwesi sifo banokuziva benganeliseki ixesha elide. Inkxalabo yobudala obuphakathi kungabunzima ukunyamezela ukuba ungeyonwabi emtshatweni okanye unganelisekanga nomsebenzi wakho. Oku kuthotyelwa kancane kancane, kwaye inkathazo yaba yinto ebangela ukuba uxinzelelo olunzima nolusisigxina. Kule meko, loo mazwe ayenobungozi. Kudinga uncedo lobuchule.
Izibonakaliso zengxaki yexesha eliphakathi.
Kukho uninzi lwawo, nangona abantu abaye bahlangabezana nale ngxaki basenokungaboni nanye kubo:
- Ukungakhathazeki emsebenzini
- Ukuncipha kwengqondo
- Utywala kotywala
- Ukuguquka
- Ukwenqaba kwesondo
- Ukungabikho
- Hypochondria
- Ukukhubazeka kwememori
Izizathu zeengxaki zeminyaka ephakathi .
Kubonakala.
Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba inzima engama-middle-middle often begins in mind and often is a result of a event or series of events. Enye ye "push" ingakwazi ukuqonda ngokukhawuleza iimpazamo zabo. Ubunzima obunzima, imibimbi kunye neenwele ezimpunga ziyakuthintela ukuzithemba komfazi kunye neemeko zangaphakathi. Oku kuholele ekuhlaziyweni kwakhona kobomi kunye nokudumala, ukuba ahlale ehlushwa malunga nokuba kwenzeka ntoni.
IHormones.
Ukutshintshwa kweHormonal, okuthiwa "ukuphuma kwindoda," kunokuchaphazela nokuphuhliswa kweengxaki zeminyaka ephakathi. Abasetyhini abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ukuphela kwesikhashana kuthetha ukuphela kobutsha babo nokuzala. Baziva becinezelekile. Olu tshintsho lukhokelela ekungabikho kokutsala kwezesondo. Ngenxa yoko iingxaki ezinokubambisana nomyeni wakhe. Kufana neketwe leengxaki, ekupheleni kwayo, kubonakala ngathi, akunjalo. Kodwa oku akunjalo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Awuyi kukholwa, kodwa i-crisis-middle-life ingaba yithuba elihle lokufumana utshintsho olulungileyo nokudala ikamva elonwabileyo.
1. Jonga umzimba wakho.
Ukutya okunempilo kukunika amandla. Ukuququzelela iimpawu zokunqamuka kwesisu, umzimba udinga ukutya "kwendalo". Unokutya ukutya okuninzi kwesoyi, iilentile, iigrasi, iimbotyi, kunye nemifuno eluhlaza kunye nohlaza. Umsebenzi obalulekileyo kunye nomzimba. Umzekelo, ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza imihla ngemihla kuza kuzalisa isitokethi se-endorphin-ihommoni yolonwabo. Oku kuya kunika ithuba lokuba uzive unethemba elihle kwaye lilungile.
Yaye khumbula, unokuthintela iingxaki ezininzi zezempilo ezizayo xa uyeka ukutshaya nokunciphisa ukusetyenziswa kotywala kunye nokutya okunamafutha.
2. Ziqonde.
Zama ukuqwalasela into onokuyenza, kungekhona kwinto ongenako. Khawuqwalasele oku njengesiqalo sesigaba esitsha ebomini bakho, ithuba lokwenza into eyahlukileyo. Ukuba nenkululeko enkulu yokuyeka, ekugqibeleni, ukuchitha ixesha.
Sitshele indlela oziva ngayo. Ukuba awufuni ukuthembela ngabahlobo bakho okanye ngamalungu entsapho - qhagamshelana nengcali yeengqondo.
3. Musa ukoyika iziyobisi.
Amayeza anokuba luncedo gqitha ukuba akukho nto ibonakala isebenza. Buza ugqirha wakho ukuba anike ikhosi emfutshane yeengxaki zokuxhatshazwa. Kukho nenani lamachiza elinciphisa le meko ngethuba lokuphela kwesisu.
Indlela yokulawula ukugcina ubudlelwane.
Phantse i-30% yemitshato iyahlukana phakathi kweminyaka engama-40-60, ngoko ungaphuthelwa kulo mzuzwana. Kuzo zonke iindleko, kubalulekile ukuzama ukubuyisela ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kwaye, nokuba uthanda, unomdla. Yenza ubuhlobo bakho bubaluleke. Yonke iminyaka edlulileyo uye wagxininisa kubantwana kunye neemfuno zabo, ngoku ixesha lokuziqwalasela kwakhona.
Vula ukuzama ukudala into entsha. Abantu bayashintsha, ngoko ningacingi ukuba uya kuba nothando olufanayo kuwe, njengeminyaka eyi-15 edlulileyo. Mhlawumbi akafuni ukwenza i-yoga nawe, kodwa unokufuna ukudlala i-badminton nawe. Awusoze wazi malunga nalo, ukuba awuyi kubuza.
Yamkela ukuba utshintshile, kwaye utshintsho kwakhona, kodwa olu tshintsho luya kuba ngcono. Ungazami ukulungisa into engakwazi ukuyibuyisela. Kwaye akukho mfuneko.
Ndikholelwe, kusekho ixesha elininzi elisele ukuba lenze ubuninzi balo. Jabulela ubomi! Sebenzisa amava aqokelelelweyo! Kwaye ke inkathazo yobudala obuphakathi iya kuphelisa, kwaye uvuyo lokuba uya kuhlala kunye nawe ngonaphakade.