Ngokweengqondo zeengqondo, ezininzi iingxaki ezivela phakathi koomama kunye nomkhwenyana wakhe zidibaniswa neendlela ezinokuqhelaniswa. Kodwa ukuba awuyi kuphefumula ngaphambi kwexesha kwaye ungaboni isimo sengqumbo - yonke into ingaphuma ngokuthula. Ukwenza oku, kukho iingcebiso zomama wengqondo we-psychologist. Eyona nto ibhetele, ukukhusela i-classic yokuxabana, kukuba intsapho kunye noninazala bahlala kwiindawo zokuhlala ezahlukeneyo, izindlu, izithili okanye izixeko ezingcono. Kwaye ukuba ingquzulwano sele ikhule ngokweenkqubo zokuhlala kunye, kufuneka uchithe ngokukhawuleza. Izihlobo ezithandanayo kumgama zilula kakhulu.
I-Psychoanalysis yale meko
Kutheni amaxesha amabini abantu abathandekayo baphathana ngokubandezela? Konke malunga neemeko. Ixesha elidibeneyo le ntombazana kunye nentombazana enikezela umtshato olandelayo, ngenxa yoko, loo mfana unomfazi kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, uninazala. Intombazana, ukutshata kwaye ngokukhawuleza ukuba nomntwana, akacingi ukuba utshintshe ubomi bakhe, utshintshe ubomi bomama ngaphandle kokumcela imvume. Ngoko, umfazi odla ngamanye iminyaka engama-40 ubudala kwaye ufuna ukuvakalelwa ngumfazi wakhe othandekayo aze aphile ubomi bakhe bobuqu, uba ngumkhwekazi kunye nogogo. Kodwa injongo yobomi bakhe ayilona nje indlela yokuhlaselwa ebomini bemihla ngemihla yabazukulwana bakhe ngelixa intombi yakhe kunye nomkhwenyana wakhe balungiselela ubomi babo. Intombi yakhe, eyayinomdla kakhulu kwaye iyakuthandwa, yamthanda ngenhliziyo yonke, inotyalomali kwimfundo yakhe nemfundo yonke imikhosi, ngokukhawuleza yaba ngumfazi womntu.
Ukusebenzisa umntu omtsha
Kwiimeko ezininzi, unina kamasipala kunzima ukusetyenziswa kumntu omtsha, indoda ehlala endlwini yakhe. Emva koko, usengumphambukeli wakhe. Akumangalisi ukuba, ngokwalowo uphando, umkhwekazi uhlasela umkhwenyana oneminyaka emihlanu ukuya kwisithandathu ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba ayenze kuye. Inendima enkulu kulo khuphiswano lweendidi ezimbini zobunzima lidlalwa yindawo exakekile kwicala elinye le-intombi-mfazi, apho kule meko kunzima kakhulu. Ukuba uthatha icala lomyeni wakhe, uya kubangela umsindo nomsindo wakhe, ukuba uncedise unina, ukuxabana nomyeni wakhe kunokwenzeka. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukuba athathe ukungathathi hlangothi okufudumele, oku kuya kunceda ukuseka okanye ukubuyisela ukulinganisela kwintsapho.
Isikhungo sokudibanisa - intombi
Intsapho yindlela eyinkqubo eyinkqubo kwaye kunomnye wamalungu ayo ukuba aqale ukuziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kungekhona ngaphambili, ukuziphatha kwamanye amalungu omkhaya utshintsho ngokukhawuleza. Nangona kunjalo, iintsapho ezininzi ziyaziwa apho umamazala nomyeni wakhe bahlala ngoxolo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ngokufanelekileyo.
Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba aba bantu babini izidalwa ezivela kwiiplanethi ezahlukeneyo: zinezohlukeneyo zesini, ngokuqhelekileyo kubehluko omkhulu kwiminyaka, kwimikhwa, kwiminqweno, kwimisebenzi, kwizigwebo, amava ahlukeneyo okuphila, imibono eyahlukeneyo ebomini kunye nemeko yokuziphatha ngokuphathelele kwimilinganiselo yobomi. Njengomthetho, umntu oyedwa udibanisa abantu ababini abahluke ngokupheleleyo ngumfazi omnye kunye nentombi kwenye. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba umzabalazo phakathi kwabo yimpembelelo enkulu kuyo.
Kwezinye iimeko, imbangela yesiganeko okanye ukungabikho kwintlanklwano ichazwa yinto ebizwa ngokuba yintsapho ecacileyo. Ukuba uyise womkhwenyana wayenebudlelwane obunzima kunye noninazala, bekuya kuba yinto engakumbi yokuba unyana onjalo abe nesimo sengqondo nesimo sengqondo ngokubhekiselele kumamazana kamasipala esele anikezelwe. Wonke uncedo kumama kamasipala kunye neengcebiso zakhe ziya kukhutshwa ngokukhawuleza okanye zibonwe njengengcikivo ngqo. Ukuba, ngokuchaseneyo, umkhwe wakhe unalo ubudlelwane obunokuthula kunye noninazala, ngoko unyana akayi kunyanga umama wakhe njengotshaba.
Inketho yokungathathi hlangothi yilapho umkhwe-mkhwenkwe engenawo umkhwekazi. Kule meko, amaqhinga athile ayakhelwa ngoluvo kunye namava abahlobo abatshatileyo. Kodwa ukusekwa, okuye kwaphuhliswa kumava kwabanye, kulula ukulungiswa. Ukufumana umkhwekazi onobulumko, obona intsapho entsha yentombi yakhe njengentsapho emelekileyo yintombi, kunye nomyeni wakhe, umkhwenyana wakhe njengentloko epheleleyo yeli ntsapho, ngelixa bengalinge bahlasele ubomi babo, le nsizwa ifumana umama wesibini okanye ubuncinane umhlobo kumamazala. Kwaye kuza kubonakala ukungafani.
Iingcebiso zomama
Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa umkhwekazi ukuba angathathi ngokukhawuleza kwiibhononethi ezikhethiweyo zintombi yazo. Okokuqala kufuneka uyibheke ngokucophelela kwaye uzame ukufumana kuyo into entle. Kufanelekile ukuqonda, kuba yintoni kanye eyathandana nentombi yakhe? Kufanele ukuthoba ukuphatha oko kungakuthandiyo. Ngokuncedwa yintombi yakhe, unokuzama ukumnceda ukuba alahlekise into ekhethekileyo kuye. Ukuba ukususela ekuqaleni kwasekuqaleni ubudlelwane obusondayo wayengumkhwenyana, ngoko unokuzama ukuvumelana naye. Enyanisweni, ukuba akayena utywala, akayena umlutha weziyobisi, ucinga ngengqondo kwaye akaxhomekeke kwihlabathi lezobugebengu. Indoda eqhelekileyo engabikho ngaphandle kwesizathu ibonisa ubundlobongela kuphela xa engazange ifumene iimvakalelo ezimbi nakwezinye indawo kwaye aziveki ukukhathala. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, musa ukusabela kwiimeko zakhe zokucasula. Iingcebiso zeengqondo: ukuba ziphinda ziphindaphindiwe, zama ukuzithoba ngokukhawuleza isizathu, uphulaphule izibango zakhe uze uhambise iziphakamiso zakhe kwifomu echanekileyo. Kwezinye iimeko, oku akunakwanela, kwaye ulwalamano luba nzima kakhulu. Emva koko kufuneka uqonde oko kuza kuba bhetele: ukuphazamisa okanye ukuqhubeka nokuqhubela phambili. Sifanele sivavanye zonke iingxaki kunye neengxaki kwaye sithathe isigqibo esilungileyo. Ezi ngcebiso ze-psychologist zilungele ngakumbi abantu abaphethwe kakuhle kwaye banengqiqo.