Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba imitshato yasekuqaleni ngexesha lethu ayimkelekile ngokukhethekileyo. Xa izalamane ezisondeleyo zizama ukukholisa isibini esithandanayo ukuba sithintele umsebenzi wazo, sizama ukubonisa iingqondo zabo intsingiselo yobomi bemihla ngemihla.
Iingcali zengqondo azicebisi ukuqala ubomi bentsapho ngaphambi kokufikelela kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini. Inyani kukuba umntu omdala oye wenziwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngumntu wesini okanye wesini, utyeshelwa uzinzo. Ngethuba, ubuntu "obunzima" bulokhu bukhange inkululeko, kungekhona nje kwingcamango, kodwa kwizenzo nangobomi. Kwaye ukukhula ngokwezemali yinto ebalulekileyo.
Ukongezelela, abantu abatsha abaye baziva becala ukuba ngabantu abadala, bafumana ubudlelwane bokuqala bokuthandana, bahlala bedibanisa uthando lokwenene ngothando. Kwaye ukwakha intsapho enentshiseko, njengoko uyaziyo, ayanele. Kungekudala emva komtshato, iiglasi ezibomvu zisuswe yimihla ngemihla: ukupheka, ukuhlamba, ukucoca. Ukudibanisa nokufunda okanye umsebenzi. Emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa, abafazi abaneminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo ubudala kunye namadoda, benethemba elifudumeleyo, khumbula isidleke somzali ococekileyo, ukunyuka kwiqela lebusuku kunye nobuninzi bexesha elikhululekileyo. Imitshato yasekuqaleni iphela ngokuqhawula umtshato, kodwa kusebuncineni kunzima ukuqonda umthwalo weengxaki zeentsapho, ezikhokelela ekuxabaneni nokuqhawula umtshato.
Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba kuyimfuneko ukutshata nokuqalisa intsapho ngexesha abaneminyaka emibini beqonda ukuba bathandana. Yaye xa ufumana imfundo, yenza umsebenzi, vuka kwiinyawo zakho, mhlawumbi ungabi nhlobo ukuthanda. Ewe, kwaye amabango kwisiqingatha sakhe sesibini ekhula ngaphezu kweminyaka okanye awele.
Ngokuqinisekileyo intsapho, ngamnye umntu. Omnye usele ulungele ukwenza isenzo esiqinileyo eneminyaka elilishumi elinesibhozo kunye nomntwana wesisu njengomthi weshushu, kwaye umntu oneminyaka engamashumi amathathu uziphatha njengomntwana omncinci. Ngokwezengqondo zengqondo, ixesha elifanelekileyo kakhulu lomtshato ngowama-23-26, kwaye kumadoda emva kweminyaka engama-25, xa sele esaziwayo, ufumene umsebenzi kwaye unyanzelekile kwiinyawo zakhe.
Mhlawumbi akubalulekanga kakhulu, uneminyaka elingakanani, kubalulekile ukudala intsapho ethembekileyo. Bathi intsapho eqinile ngoku ifashini. Kwixesha la mandulo, indoda kunye nentombazana yazama ukutshintsha ukuze itshate ngokufanelekileyo okanye ishade. Kwimimandla yethu yanamhlanje ininzi ingqalelo ehlawulwa ekubukeni. Sizama ukukhangeleka ngokwaneleyo, ncokola kakhulu kwaye ukuba sinxibelelana, ubuncinane into efanelekileyo, sikhetha lo mntu. Kodwa uhlobo lento luyingozi kwaye siyaqonda xa ubomi bentsapho buqala. Kwaye njengoko uyazi, umlingiswa ukhutshwe kwaye kuyacaca ukuba kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini engakagqibekanga. Le ngenye yezinto ezingathandekiyo zomtshato wokuqala. Kodwa, naphezu kwezizinto ezinzima, imitshato yasekuqaleni inamacandelo amnandi. Ukuqala, ubomi bentsapho bentsapho bangela ukuba abafazi bakhule ngokukhawuleza. Isengaguquguquki ngokwaneleyo, ngenxa yesigqibo seengxaki. Ukukhululeka ngokwenyama yokuzalwa komntwana.
Kwaye mhlawumbi akukho naluphi uhlobo lokudala intsapho, nangona kunjalo, ngokuphathelele uthando. Kwaye ngoko, uthando luhlukile, iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo kunye neentsapho ziyahluka.
Hayi, ukuba kukho umgaqo wokudala intsapho eyoyolo, apho kuya kuba lula ukuyifaka esikhundleni somyeni nomfazi. Kwaye ukubala kwale fomyulwanga akuzange kwenziwe ngefayile ephukileyo kunye nobomi. Mhlawumbi, ezininzi iingxaki zinokuphelisa uluntu kunye nobomi bekungayi kuba ngathi iipuzzle ezingabonakaliyo.