Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi bayaziqonda iingcinga: "Nanku, bonke abahlobo abasondeleyo batshatile, kwaye ndedwa ndedwa." Kwaye inqaku lesibini: "Ngenxa yintoni na?". "Kutheni kunjalo?". Asiyi kungena kwiinkcukacha, njengoko kuthiwa ziingqondo kunye nabathakathi, zithi thina, sinqwelwe ngongqingili. Oku kunene konke ukuxoka kunye nesizathu sokuzala kwimali yamantombazana engazange ayifumane umphefumlo wayo. Kodwa, ke, unokugqamisa ezinye zezizathu nezimpendulo kumbuzo othi: "Kutheni abafazi bengenako ukutshata?".
Unomsebenzi obalulekileyo kwaye uhlawule kakhulu umsebenzi.
Ewe, hayi, ukuba ungobuchule obuhle kwintsimi yakho, kwaye unike lonke ixesha lakho ukusebenza - konke kukuhle. Ngendlela, kusebenza ukuba unokufumana owakhethiweyo. Ukuba ukhangele kwelinye icala, uthanda kakhulu umsebenzi wakho, kuthatha ixesha elininzi kuwe ukuba awunayo ixesha lokuseka ubomi bakho.
Unqwenela kakhulu ukutshata.
Lapha kubonisa ukuba iphupha lakho libonakalisa kakhulu kangangokuthi wonke umntu ojikelezile, ngokukodwa amadoda, izaziso. Ukuba ucinga ngekamva elizayo elizayo, ukuthuthela kwigumbi, ukuzalwa komntwana ... Konke oku kunokusongela umntu oqalise naye ubudlelwane kumanyathelo okuqala.
Iimfuno ezigqithiseleyo kwikhethiweyo.
Ngelishwa, le nto incike kakhulu kwiminyaka yobudala. Ekubeni, xa uneminyaka eyi-18, uvala amehlo akho kwaye uthobele iimvakalelo zakho neemvakalelo zakho. Kwaye awukwazi ukuzenzela okulungileyo iimfuno zomntu wakho.
Kodwa xa uneminyaka engama-30, unomxholo weempawu ezithile omele umthandayo. Kwaye naziphi na izisiseko ezisekelwe kwiingcamango zakho, akuzona zokugqibela zokuzikhetha. Endaweni ethile le nto ingaba yinto enhle, kodwa yinto embi, ekubeni wena kwi-subconscious iya kuba nembono yokuba ufuna umntu onobuhle, kwaye akukho bantu abanjalo kweli hlabathi okanye bambalwa kakhulu.
Akukho ndawo apho ungadibana nayo.
Ngokwezibalo, ezininzi iintlanganiso kunye neqabane elizayo zenzeke kwiindawo apho ufunda okanye usebenza khona. Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba uye waqeda ukugqiba izifundo zakho, kwaye bonke abasebenza emsebenzini batshata.
Abanye abantu badla ngokudibanisa uthando lwabo ngethuba. Kodwa akudingeki ukuba uthembele ekupheleni kwedwa. Kufuneka wenze umgudu wokufumana iqabane lakho elizayo. Ngokomzekelo, abahlobo bakho banokukuxelela umntu onomdla.
Namhlanje, ukuthandana kwe-inthanethi kuthandwa kakhulu. Le ndlela yingozi, kuba kukho abantu ababethela imali ngaphandle kwabo banokuthandana nomlingani wokuphila. Kodwa kukho amadoda aqhelekileyo. Phantse abaviwa ababini abadliwano-ndlebe nawe, uya kufumana enye ekuza kuba yinto ezayo.
Unako ukuya kwiholide okanye ukuya kwiindibano ezahlukahlukeneyo, kwaye le ndlela akufanele inganakwa. Ngokuqhelekanga, unokudibana nomntu wakho oqabane kunye nabahlobo abadlulileyo kunye nabalandeli.
Into ephambili kukuba kwindlela eya kwiphupha lakho awuwenzi iimpazamo: utshatile ngenxa yokutshata.
UJulia Sobolevskaya , ngokukhethekileyo kwisiza