Yintoni eyenzekayo?
Xa umntu esencinane, kunzima kakhulu kuye ukuba aziqinisekise. Esikolweni, bambalwa abanokuziqhayisa ngeempumelelo zangempela: incwadi epapashwe, ethengwa ngemoto ngemoto, idiploma ngokuhlukana ... Nantsi kubonakala ngathi abaninzi ukuba indlela yokuphela kuphela ukuqala ukuhlekisa abanye abantu. Isiqinisekiso sentshukumo - ukuba uhlazisa abanye, ngoko ngokuchasene nemvelaphi yakho ubonakala unamandla. Nabani na ovele kuloo mzuzu ukuba abe ngumntu ofanelekileyo unokujonga kakuhle ama-sneers. Oku kungengozini. Kuthekani ukuba uhlaziswa?
Zabo zixhobo.
"Iinyawo"
Indlela eqhelekileyo yokuxhatshazwa yinto enobudlova. Iindlela zingaba yinqwaba: ukuhlambalaza kwenkampani ukubetha kwangempela kwindlu yangasemva. Umgaqo oyintloko: musa ukubonisa ubuthathaka, ukukhala okanye ukuhlaselwa ngokuphendula.
Kungcono ukujongana nalao bantu phambi kwakho okulungileyo kuwe. Buza ngokukhawuleza ukuba ngaba wenze into embi nokuba kutheni beziphatha njengomhlambi, ukulungelelanisa kwimbono yabantu abaninzi. Oku kunokunceda, kuba yodwa kunzima kakhulu ukujamelana neengxaki, ingakumbi ukuba uhlaziswa. Kodwa ukuba ihambe kakhulu, ungathuli kwaye ungesabi ukuthetha nabazali bakho. Oku akungaqondi kakuhle, kodwa umnqweno wokuxoxa ngale ndlela ngendlela endala kwaye ufumane indlela yokuphuma-kwaye uhlala ehlala, ungathandabuzeki. Mhlawumbi kwibhunga lentsapho unqumle ukuba ungcono utshintshe izikolo kunokuzama kwiimvumi zakho ukuze ufundise iintshaba imigaqo yentle okanye ukuhlazisa abanye ngokuphendula.
"Umfana"
Izixhobo zabo zithe cwaka. Nabo bahlobo abathandekayo bayeke ukuthetha nawe, umhlobo osondeleyo akaphenduli iifowuni zakho, kwaye kubonakala ngathi zonke ezibalulekileyo zikudlula. Awunakuhlaziswa, kodwa wugcinwa nje. Ewe, oku kukunyanzeliswa kakhulu, kodwa ungakhathazeki kakhulu. Khumbula into enye elula: ukutshatyalaliswa yisixhobo esikhatshane kunye kwaye, njengento ehlekisayo, ikhangeleka ikhangeleka kuphela nje ukuba amabini omabili athathe inxaxheba kuyo. Oko kukuthi, ngelixa unganandaba. Kodwa kukho izifundo ezaneleyo kwihlabathi ngaphandle kokuxoxisana nale iqela elidumileyo labahlobo! Esikhundleni sokuchitha amandla xa uzama ukuthetha izinto ezicaceleyo, ezifundweyo: oku kunomdla ngakumbi, kwaye uya kubanika ikrofa epheleleyo kwimpumlo.
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Kubonakala ngathi yonke iyunivesiti ayenzi nto kodwa ixoxa ngeyiphi inyathelo oyithathayo, ukuyifaka ngefictions. Apha ufuna indlela yabasemagunyeni abamele baziphulaphule baze bangathandi. Akunakuqonda ukuzithethelela - awunanto ityala, kwaye ukuba abantu abananto into yokuthetha ngayo, ngoko kuphela iingxaki zabo, kwaye kungekhona eyakho, ngaba? Inkohliso idlalwa ngabantu ngabantu abanengcamango enhle kakhulu - kunye nobomi obuhle kakhulu. Kwaye kwindlela, lo luvavanyo oluhle. Ukuba umhlobo wakho omhle wayekholelwa ngamanye amabali angcolileyo, ngaphandle kokubuza ukuba ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene, mhlawumbi akazange azinikele ngokwenene kuwe?
Se benzisa
Yonke into eyenzekayo yindlela enhle yokufunda into entsha, gxuma kwinqanaba elilandelayo, njengomdlalo wekhompyutha. Ukuba uxhatshazwa - akusiyo isizathu sokudabuka - khangela iibhonasi.
Ukuthetha. Ewe, apha unqatshelwe. Kodwa ngaba awukhohliwe ukuba abantu abayizigidi ezili-7 baphila emhlabeni? Musa ukuzikhawulela kwilizwe leklasini yakho, wandise imida: udibana nabantu abatsha, uye kwiikhosi, faka iqela lomqhubi weqela lakho ozithandayo okanye iqela lokudansa. Yeka ukuchitha amandla akho kubantu abangafuni ukuthetha nawe kunye nabakuhlazisa-kwaye ngokukhawuleza bakulibale (akunakuchukumisa ukugculela umntu ongaboni ukuhlaselwa ngaphandle). Ndikholelwe, uya kubakhohlwa malunga nejubane elifanayo.
Fumana amandla.
Ebomini, ukuzimela kubalulekile. Ukusuka kwendima yokukhutshwa, unokukhubeka yihlabathi lonke okanye ufumane inkcazelo yenkxaso kuwe. Indlela yokuqhubela phambili - ifike kuwe. Kodwa khumbula ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo abo bahlazisa abanye banobuthakathaka kakhulu abantu: abayazi indlela yokwenza yedwa, kwaye bazive behamba ngehashe, bafuna idini elifanayo. Kwaye unethuba lokufunda ukuba ungayi kuxhomekeke kwenkxaso yomnye umntu. Emva kwakho konke, awuyi kuba nzima okanye ulunge ngakumbi kwiimvavanyo zabanye - uhlala unjalo. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqonde oku, amava kwindlela "into abacinga ngayo ngam" awuyi kuhlala - oko kuthetha ukuba ubomi kuya kuba lula, kholwani.
Ukuqonda abantu.
Kwiimeko eziyingozi, abalinganiswa bokwenyaniso bahlala bebonakala. Intombazana enhle oye wahlala uhleba ngayo ngefestile ingakuyeka, ingaqapheli ukuhla kwezinga lakho phakathi kwabanye kwaye iqalise ukuhlazisa. Kodwa indoda engumntu ongeyithandwayo, ngokukhawuleza ingafika kuwe kwaye inike uncedo: uyazi ukuba kuthini ukuba lixhoba lokukhula kwabanye. Ewe, kutheni ufuna abahlobo abashukumisayo kuphela ngomfanekiso wabo, kodwa abakuboni na? Funda ukuxabisa abantu ngesibindi nangomnene, kwaye kungabi ngeendleko ze-brand jeans ezibiza.
Ungazibandakanyi kwakhona.
Ukwazi ukuba ngabahlobo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlaselwa akuyi kuvela ekuqaleni, kwaye kuyafaneleka ukuba ucinge ukuba ungumhlobo olungileyo. Ukuba uhlaziswa, kufuneka ucinge ngezizathu. Akuyimfuneko ukunika wonke umntu amanqaku akho kwiimfuneko zokuqala, kodwa akunzima ukubiza umnxeba ogulayo kwaye uyayichazela isihloko sesifundo. Isiqu? Hayi, oku kukukhathalela.
Zi xabise.
Ukungaqiniseki kubonakala kude, kodwa indoda eyazihlonelayo yona, akulula ukucaphukisa. Endaweni yokujonga ubuthathaka kuwe, funda ukuxabisa zakho iingenelo. Uze ufundise abanye, musa ukuzivumela uhlaziswe.
Musa ukuba yingxenye yesihlwele.
Musa ukuthatha inxaxheba ekuxhatshazweni kwabanye. Oku kunganyaniseki, kubi, kwaye kubonisa ukuba ulandela iminye imiyalelo yabantu ngaphandle kokuqonda. Kwaye ke, wena ngokwakho awunakukwazi ukuba ngubani ongendawo apha?
Yazi intshaba ngomntu.
INkokheli. Iqela ngalinye linalo, kodwa into enye iyabahlanganisa-umnqweno wamandla kunye nokukwazi ukukholisa abanye. Nabani na onokuthi abe lixhoba. Lowo ongakhange anike uncedo lwakhe ngexesha. Lowo wathenga isambatho esihle. Okanye noyena ongenzi nto nhlobo: ngenxa yokuhlaselwa, akukho zizathu ezikhethekileyo ezifunekayo.
Svita. Kuhamba ngeenxa zonke umkhokeli ngenxa yomnqweno wokuba uthanda kakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha ngenxa yokoyiko lokuba baya kufumana.
Iinconon. Uninzi lwabantu alufuni ukuthatha inxaxheba kwintshutshiso. Kodwa bayaqhubeka behlaziswa yi-inertia. Abahlobo bakho bayesaba: ngokuthetha ngokuchasene nabo bangaba lixhoba. Ngoko bakhetha ukubukela ngokunyanisekileyo ukuxhatshazwa, ndicinga ukuba akukho nto iyenzileyo. Kodwa enyanisweni, le mpawu ibaluleke kakhulu. Kwaye ukuba omnye wabo engesabi ukuthetha, akukho nto yayingayi kubakho ntshutshiso.