Khumbula ilizwi elithi "mncinane umfazi esimthandayo, ngakumbi simthanda"? Kwaye kutheni ungaguquli ilizwi eliyaziwayo kwaye wenze ngokuvisisanayo? Ngaphantsi kokuba ubonisa umntu ukuba unomdla kuwe, likhulu ithuba lokuba luba luleke kakhulu ukuba "akufumane".
Khumbula ukuba ungumvuzo, kwaye umntu uyaphumelela. Umvuzo ugijima emva komnqobi? Hayi! Uya kuba ngumvuzo oxabisekileyo kwiinkonzo zomntu. Makhe abone uphawu oluqaqambileyo kunye oluqhayisekileyo lokunqoba kwaye uzame ukufumana.
Ukuba umvuzo kumntu kubalulekile ukuziphatha njengokungathi uyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kwihlabathi. Unezinto ezininzi ezintle, unomdla kwaye unomdla. Ngaphandle kobuhle bangaphandle kukho iimpawu ezininzi amadoda azixabayo: ububele, uqoqosho, ingqondo njalonjalo.
Ungakwazi ukufikelela. Ungaze ugijime emva komntu. Ngelo xesha, ungabi kubanda kakhulu, mhlawumbi unokuyikrokra ukhetho lwakho. Uyi-oasis ende elinde ixesha elide lobomi bomntu, apho athatha amanyathelo okwenyaniso. Xa ekubiza, musa ukukhawuleza kwi fowuni, unganqumla iifowuni ezimbalwa, akukho nto eyoyikwenzekayo.
Musa ukugijima ngosuku olufanayo ngalolo suku akumema ngalo. Cinga ngokwakho ngeentsuku ezimbini ezilandelayo, kodwa ke unokuhlangana. Khangela umlilo wesifiso kuye. Masilahle kwaye aphuphe. Unokwenza isigqubuthelo sokufihlakelekileyo, kwaye ungabonakali izicwangciso zakho. Chaza ukuba yintoni ibhizinisi lakho kwaye awukwazi ukumhlangabeza.
Musa ukuvumela ezininzi ngosuku lokuqala. Ukuba uyakanga, yenza ngokunqanda, kodwa uzame. Ungamvumeli ukuba "akhonze" kwaye, ngokukodwa, musa ukuya endlwini yakhe ngobusuku bokuqala. Umfazi onjalo uthathwa njengomntu ofikelelekayo kwaye ngokukhawuleza ulahlekelwe ngumdla.
Musa ukumbiza kuqala! Kwimeko nayiphi na ekuqaleni ekuqaleni. Kufuneka abe nomdla kwindlela owenza ngayo, xhalabele ngawe, kungekhona wena. Ungahlali kwaye uxhomekeke kwifowuni, uphazamise ezinye izinto. Ungumvuzo, khumbula? Umi nje kwaye ulindele ukuba anqobe aze afike ngokufanelekileyo.
Mbonise ukuba unomdla kwamanye amadoda. Akuyimfuneko ukuba "uye kude kakhulu", kodwa ukhuphiswano oluphilileyo aluzange lonakalise nabani na. Ngaphezu koko, okhethiweyo kufuneka abe nomuvo wokubambisana, umvuzo oyilindelwe ixesha elide waba mnandi kwaye unqweneleka ngakumbi.
Yiba nengqiqo kwaye ifuna! Wena ungumfazi ofanelekileyo izipho, iintyatyambo kunye nobudlelwane obuhle. Makukufezekise iimfuno zakho, kwaye "wehla" kuwo ukusuka eziphakamileyo zakho.
Yiba yimfihlakalo kuye. Musa ukuxelela konke malunga nawe ngokukhawuleza. Amadoda afana namabhinqa. Bafuna ukutyhila imfihlelo kwaye babe yindlalifa yowesifazane obalulekileyo. Bhengeza iibinzana ezimbalwa ezingabangela umdla kumntu. "Akukho mntu unokundingca," "andiyazi ukuba uthando luni," njalo njalo. Kwindoda, umnqweno wokukubonisa ubuhle beemvakalelo zinyani, ukuzidukisa nokufezekisa uya kuvuka.
Yiba yinto oyiyo ngokwenene, kwaye uyibeke njengokuba "ewe, ndifana naloo nto." Musa ukuyithanda? Awukwazi ukuba nam. Amadoda afanelekileyo kunye nokuzithemba, abahlonela abafazi abanesibindi.
Ukuba yinto enqwenelekayo kumntu kukho iindlela ezininzi, kodwa owona mkhulu ufanele ube ngokwakho, ukuhlonipha nokuzixabisa. Emva koko uya kuqinisekiswa ngamadoda okwenene.