Imigaqo yokuziphatha ayikho into eyinkimbinkimbi, ngamnye umntu ozihlonelayo kufuneka azi ukuba. Kuhlala kumnandi ukujonga umntu onobuhle, uvelisa uvelwano.
Cinga imigaqo esemiselweyo yentlekele yabasetyhini. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekukwazi ukuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo kukuzihlonela. Ingakanani umfazi ozihloniphayo kulula ukuyiqonda, ngokukhawuleza eze kumtyelela. Ukuba indlu ihlambulukile kwaye iyancwina, iphunga lokutya okudliweyo livakalayo, umculo omculo uphawuleza, kwaye lona wesifazane uziva kakuhle kwaye emomothekayo, oko kuthetha ukuba ungumfazi omhle ohlala ekhaya, ejonge yena kunye nommandla ojikelezayo. Ibhinqa kufuneka lizithande, oku kunceda abanye bafikelele kuye.
Ukuba ngumfazi lilungelo elikhulu. Umfazi ohlakaniphile uya kuhlala ebonakala enhle, egqoke ngesinambitha. Ukuze ukwazi ukusebenzisa izimonyo. Umzekelo, imimoya kufuneka isetyenziswe ngokumodareyitha. Ibhinqa kufuneka likwazi ukugqoka iingubo. Akukho nhlobo ayikwazi ukudibanisa igolide kunye neendwangu zokugqoka ezingenanto.
Ukuba ebantwini, umfazi kufuneka abe nehlonipho kunye nobungane nabantu. Enoba ungumgcini wezinwele, ugqirha wamazinyo, umthengisi wesitolo okanye osebenza kunye naye.
Kubalulekile ukuba ibhinqa likwazi ukuthetha ngokuchanekileyo, ukugcina ingxoxo, ukuvakalisa iingcamango zakhe. Isigama saliphi na umntu ozihloniphayo akufanele silinganiselwe kwiibinzana eziqhelekileyo kunye ne-slang. Iphosa intetho, yenza kube nzima, igrey.
Ngexesha le ncoko yefowuni kunye nabangamaziyo kufuneka ubahloniphe kwaye uhloniphe. Shayela umntu kuphela ngexesha elifanelekileyo kumntu abathethayo naye. Lowo uqale wabiza, kufuneka uqale uqedele ingxoxo.
Ngethuba le ngxoxo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphulaphula umnxibelelwano kuze kube sekupheleni, ungaphazamisi, ungafaki ibinzana elingenanto engenakuthi, engxoxweni ayikho indawo. Kwintetho nomntu ongaqhelekanga, kunye nomhlobo naye, musa ukuziqhayisa ngempumelelo yakho, impumelelo yentsapho yakho okanye umyeni. Kufanelekile ukuba uthobekile kwaye ungathethi kangako ngawe. Kuya kuba bhetele xa ubuza ukuba izinto zikhona kunye nomnxibelelwano, cela malunga nokusebenza kwakhe, intsapho yakhe. Emva koko kuya kuba lunomdla kumntu ukuthetha nawe. Kufuneka kwakhona ukuba ugweme amabinzana aqhelekileyo, iifowuni, izalathisi ezibethiwe - oku kubonisa ukungabikho komdla kunye nokuqala. Owesifazane ohloniphayo akayi kuphinda athethe amabali adlalayo, avumele ukuba angabalulekanga okanye amahlaya kwincoko. Kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukunyamekela, ukuqonda, ukungacacanga akuthinteli ekuveleni inhlonipho kuwe.
Kwakhona kufuneka ube neentlonipho kunye nabadala. Bahloniphe, musa ukuphazanyisa kwingxoxo kwaye ungaxabani nabo. Impikiswano kwimibono ihlala ikhona, ngakumbi phakathi kwezizukulwana eziselula kunye nabadala, kodwa unako konke ukuthetha ngendlela yengxoxo yenkcubeko, kungekhona ingxabano.
Ukulandela imigaqo yentle, umfazi makangabikho umsi. Kodwa ukuba unayo le mkhuba embi, ngoko awufanele umsiyi ubuncinci kwi-cafe kunye nesitalato. Kwakhona, awukwazi ukugcina ugwayi emlonyeni wakho ngethuba lencoko, xa uthe u-hello, danisa. Awukwazi ukutshaya etafileni xa udla.
Ibhinqa kufuneka ibe yinto entle kuyo yonke into - kwiingubo, kwimpawu kunye nokuziphatha. Ukuze uhlale ngokukhululekile emotweni, kufuneka udibanise esihlalweni, ushiye imilenze yakho ngaphandle, uze ujikeleze uze ubangenise ngaphakathi. Xa uphuma imoto, kufuneka uqale unciphise imilenze yakho, ugcine amadolo akho ndawonye.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ibhinqa likwazi ukumomotheka nokuhleka ngokuchanekileyo. Ukuhleka okumnandi, kumhle kukubangela ukuba abantu abajikelezileyo baphuculise imizwa yabo kunye novuyo. Awukwazi ukuhleka ngokukhawuleza kwaye ixesha elide. Ukuhleka kukuphela kwendawo xa umntu ehlambalaza, ukuhleka ngokukrakra okanye ukuhleka ngaphandle kweendawo kubangela ukuphazamiseka nokuphazamiseka kwabanye.
Wonke amabhinqa kufuneka abe nokukwazi ukuziphatha kwiimeko ezinzima. Ukuba, ngokomzekelo, ekutyeleleni uye waphula indebe okanye iglasi, kuyafaneleka ukuba uxolise ngokukhawuleza kwaye kusondele ukuba uthenge entsha. Ukuba ulahleka ngenye indlela incwadi yomntu, funda enye kwaye uyibuyisele ngokupheleleyo.
Kuba nawuphi na umfazi, ukumkela iindwendwe, oku kubaluleke kakhulu, kwaye unoxanduva kakhulu. Kufuneka ukwazi ukumema ngokufanelekileyo, wamkela kwaye uhambele iindwendwe.
Musa ukumenywa esidlweni sokupheka izitya kwiindlela zokupheka ezintsha, okanye izitya ezingaphandle. Uvavanyo lunokuphela ekuphelelweni. Akukho imfuneko yokulungiselela izitya ezinjalo, ezinzima ukuzithumela ngaphandle koluncedo lwabanye abantu. Kwakhona, ngokwemiqathango yokuziphatha, awukwazi ukuhambisa amacwecwe etafileni ngokutya.
Musa ukumema abantu abaphakamileyo kakhulu kunani ngesimo sezenhlalakahle okanye kwiqondo lobuchule. Uninzi kunokwenzeka, uya kufumana ukungala. Ukuba enye yeendwendwe ihamba emva kweminye imizuzu engama-15, musa ukunyanzelisa zonke iindwendwe ukuba zilinde, zihlale etafileni.
Kukho nemigaqo emiselweyo yokuziphatha etafileni. Awukwazi ukuyidla ngezandla zakho etafileni. Awukwazi ukugcina izandla zakho ngamadolo. Kukho imfuneko ngomlomo ovaliweyo. Kwakhona, akufanele uphuze ngomlomo wakho uzele, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba uthathe iglasi, kufuneka usule umlomo wakho nge-napkin. Awukwazi ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza kwaye uhleka etafileni, luphawu lokungahloneli nokuziphatha okubi.
Ukuba uyamenywa ukutyelela nayiphi na imeko, awukwazi ukuhamba. Kodwa kungekudala kakhulu ukuza. Ukulandela imigaqo yeetoni ezilungileyo ofuna ukuba neentlondi kunye nemikhosi kunye neendwendwe, mbulela iimemo. Ekupheleni kokumkela, kufuneka uthethe amanconywa ambalwa kwimikhosi. Kuya kuba mnandi kubo, kwaye uya kuba nefuthe elihle.
Nantsi imigaqo eqhelekileyo yentlekele, eyenzelwe abafazi. Zonke zibalulekile kwaye zifanele zibandakanye zonke iinkalo zobomi. Iimpawu zemfundo enhle yikhono lokuziphatha, intetho kunye nendlela yokubonisa, ukukwazi ukugqoka, nokuba nomoya, ukukwazi ukuzilawula. Ibhinqa kufuneka likwazi ukuphatha ngokukhawuleza kunoma iluphi na imeko, hlonipha kwaye uhloniphe. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - ukuzihlonipha wena nabanye.
Ikhono lokuziphatha kuluntu luyakunceda ekunxibelelaneni nabantu, bobabini kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla nasemsebenzini. Kwaye oku kuyintloko kwimpumelelo yakho.