Okokuqala, wanquma isizathu sokuba ufuna ukuyeka ukuthetha nalo mfana. Kwaye izizathu, njengoko uziqonda ngokwakho, zinokuba kakhulu. Masiqale nge-banal: usuke udinwe ngumntu, udaniwe kuye kunye nokuthetha kwakhe, walahlekelwa ukubaluleka kuwe - waqala ukukucaphukisa, wadibana nomnye umntu onomdla kunalo. Ngamafutshane, nokuba yintoni isizathu, qaphela. Emva kokuba uziqonde, unokwazi ukuphikisa isizathu sokuba ungafuni ukuthetha nalo mfana kwakhona. Kwakhona kubonakalisa izinto ezinjengokuthi kwaye kwaye bekuphi na umzuzu owaye waqonda ukuba awufuni ukuthetha naye, nokuba uya kukwazi ukulahla umkhwa wokunxibelelana (lolwalamano) nalo mntu kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo le nguyikhulu lempesenti yakho. Ukuba zonke ezi ngxabano azithandi, kungcono ukutshintsha le meko ngokukhawuleza. Awazi indlela yokuziphatha xa ungafuni ukuthetha nomfana? Mxelele konke ngokunyanisekileyo nangokuchanekileyo. Beka ulwazi lokuba awufuni ukuqhubeka nokuthetha naye. Awufuni ukumbona eluhlu lwabahlobo bakho, ukwabelana nothando kunye nobudlelwano naye. Ndikholelwe, ukuba umfana akayisicwenge, ngoko kufuneka akuqonde. Ungazami ukubeka ityala kumntu. Musa ukumgxeka ngenxa yokuba netyala lokwenzekayo. Ungazami ukumgxeka kuye ukuba unqume nawuphi na ubudlelwane naye, ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe - nokuba kuyinyaniso. Ukumenza unetyala, wena ngoko, uthintela kakhulu ngaphakathi kwakhe, ukutyhila amehlo akhe ekungapheleli kwakhe (ngokuqhelekileyo abafana banenkxalabo malunga nalokhu). Kwaye, ngoku, mnike ithemba eliyinyaniso lokuba ukuba uyaziguqula ngokwakhe, unqobe ububi bakhe, uya kuphinda uxoxe kwakhona. Emva koko, isizathu, njengoko uya kuqonda kuphela kuye nangomntu wakhe. Kungcono ukwenza ukuba anganelisekanga nawe. Ngendlela, lilungele ukuba umfana akayi kukhawuleza kwaye uya kushiya ngonaphakade ebomini bakho. Bonke abantu banamalungelo abo ngokoqobo. Kungenxa yesi sizathu sokuba kunzima kubo, bafana, ukuba badibanise kunye nembono yokuba baqhekeza naluphi na ubudlelwane, ngoko kanye kanye kunye nabo bonke besusa ebomini babo. Ngoko ke, musa ukukhululeka, umfana uya kuzama, adibanise naluphi na uhlobo lwesanti, lungisa imeko. Ndagqiba ukutshisa iibhuloho - ungaguquki ekuziphatheni kwakhe, ingqalelo, kungekudala okanye kamva uya kuxolelana, ayibale yonke into kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuqonda.
Ukuthetha nomfana kulungile, ukummisela intlanganiso (ngefowuni okanye i-SMS akukho ndawo). Ngaphambi kwengxoxo, kulungile ukwenza uqeqesho lokuqala. Skrolela entlokweni yakho yonke into ofuna ukuyitshela kwaye ucinge ngeempendulo, njengoko ucinga, imibuzo engenzeka kuyo. Into ephambili ngexesha le ncoko ayiyi kulibaziseka ngokukhawuleza kwexesha, kule mizuzu umntu uya kukwazi ukuncokola ngomlomo kuwe. Qalisa ngokuthe ngqo intetho yakho nento owacingayo ixesha elide ukwenza eso sigqibo. Emva koko ubeke iinkcukacha. Zama ukugxininisa ukuba kuya kuba ngcono kubo bobabini. Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba awuyi kumthanda, ndixelele ukuba yintoni. Phakathi kwamagama, mbulela ngezinto ezimnandi zobudlelwane bakho. Zama ukuthetha ngendlela epholileyo, ukhuphe iimvakalelo, ungabuzi nto kuye. Qala - thetha ngetekisi elichanekileyo ngaphandle kweengcebiso. Ukuba awufuni ukucaphukisa - thetha, cwaka, kwaye ukuba awukhathalele - ungena phantsi. Ndagqiba isigqibo sokuqinisekisa - kwakhona, khumbuza ukuba ebomini bakhe kuya kuba nentombazana enhle neyintombazana enhle, ngoko musa ukuyeka enye okanye enye (khumbula). Ngokuphathelele inzondo yakhe, ngoko ke kunokwenzeka ukuba oku kunokuthi kugwenywe. Ngoko ukhethe okanye uza kuba kunye, okanye ukuxabana akunakuphetshwa. Akunabo bonke abafana abakwaziyo ukuqonda xa banikwa isango - ukujika.
Emva kwengxoxo yakho, zama ukupheliswa ngokupheleleyo ebomini bakhe. Musa ukumkhangela ukuba ahlangane, ususe inombolo, ususe abahlobo kwi-intanethi yentlalo. Kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, qondanisa kanye kunye nonke ukuba awusekho ebomini bakho. Oku, okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukwenzela ukuba ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza, ngomkhwa omdala, ungaqali ukuzibuza umbuzo: "Baya kubuyisela njani?". Ndiyishiya kwinqanaba, eso sigqibo sakho. Into ephambili, ukuba unayo imizwa ngawe - ukuba ungamvumeli ukuba athande nawe ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuba ngaba ngumhlobo, ungavumeli umva wokuqhotyoshela uphuhlise, ngaphandle koko kumabini omabini kuya kuba nzima ukuba amkele ingcamango yokuba ulahlekelwe nguwe ngokungenakwenzeka. Ngoko incoko esondeleyo yiyo kuphela isigqibo esifanelekileyo. Kodwa, kwaye ukuba oko sele sele kwenzeke, kuya kufuneka uzame ukuyiphula phantsi, uyiguqule ibe yinto engafanelekanga. Kwimeko elolo hlobo, kuya kuba nzima kunzima ukuphula ulwalamano ngenxa yokuba nayiphi na inyathelo kwisabelo sakho iya kuba phantsi kochasayo kwaye uzame ukushiya yonke into kwiimetas zayo. Kule meko, into ephambili kuwe akuyi kuphuka kwaye ungaqhubeki malunga neyakho kunye nokujika kokuqala, iimvakalelo zakhe. Lindela ukuba uya kukuyeka ekuthandeni aze ahambe kwimvelaphi, akukho mqondo. Musa ukuzibingelela ngenxa yenceba yakho. Uya kumbonisa ububele - uya kuzilimaza.
Yenza oku kwangoku, kuba kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kusadingeka kwenziwe. Kodwa ukuhamba ngaphandle kokubangela intlungu, ayiyi kusebenza. Ngoko musa ukulibazisa ngekhefu. Ukunyaniseka kwakho kuya kufaneleka ukuhlonipha.
Ukuba uziva uxolo kuye okanye ukuba uyazi ukuba akanalo omnye ngaphandle kwakho, mxelela nje enye yeentombi zakho, oqinisekileyo, njengolu hlobo. Akukho ziintombi ezifanelekileyo, musa ukubuhlungu ngale nto. Yonke into eyadingeka kuwe, sele uyenzile. Yaye khumbula, ayikho indlela ebuyela emva - ngoku ihamba phambili. Yiloo ndlela ufanele uziphatha ngayo nomntu ongeke ufune ukuthetha naye naphantsi kweemeko.