Indlela yokuphuhlisa ukuzingca

Umqondiso wokuzithemba ophezulu kukuthanda wena, okumele kubonakaliswe rhoqo kuzo zonke iindawo zobomi bakho. Nangona kunjalo, oku kunjalo nje xa kubaluleke kakhulu ubungakanani. Ukugqithisa ukuzingca akuyona into eyingozi ngaphezu kokusilela kwayo. Kodwa indlela yokufumana intetho yegolide, ukubonisa u-egoism ophilileyo kuzo zonke iimeko, umzekelo onjalo ... Xa udibana
Abasetyhini, abanokuzingca kunye nokuzingca (masiwabize ngokusemthethweni ME) baqhelana nabo. Zivumiwe kwaye nangona umntu abathandayo, angenzi izibonelelo zokudibana, ukutshintshisa iifowuni. Emva koko, banyamezela, bazigxeke ngokwabo, ukuba balahlekelwe eli thuba lokunxibelelana. Abo baxhamla ngokweqile (CHE), nabo, bangazi kakuhle. Oku kungaphantsi kwesidima sabo. Ukongezelela, banqabile ukuba banomdla kwabanye abantu: xa ukuzithemba kuphakamileyo, kulungelelaniso, uyavuma, akwanele. Abo banempilo enempilo (3E) bathanda ukunxibelelana nabantu abatsha. Ukubonisa ukhetho oluthile, benza ngokusemgangathweni othi "Ukuziqhelanisa akuyona into engcolileyo, kodwa siza kubona apho."

Yintoni ekhoyo kwisikali? Xa ukuzingca kuqhelekileyo, ukuthetha ngokufanelekileyo kulungile. Asiyi kuba nesizungu, sizungezwe ngabantu abalungileyo.

Indlela yokufunda? Ukuthetha ngokunyathela okulinganayo kunye nabantu abahlukahlukeneyo ("Umntu onomdla kakhulu, kwaye ndiyindoda ekhangayo kuye") Nenkxaso yenkqubo: uxelele ibali nawe-ibali ...

Kwimeko yokugxeka
ME ikhubekile, mhlawumbi ikhale. Nawaphi na amazwi angabonakaliyo emsebenzini, ekhaya, nangona esitalatweni kubantu abangabaziyo baxoshwa kwixesha elide. Kwenzeka ukuba i-DOE ize ibenqabe ukwenza loo nto, ukuba ayifumana inkxaso efanelekileyo emva kokugxekwa. I-CHE ityala lidibaniswa nobudlova: "Hayi, ungayithandi? Khangela bhetele!" okanye "Zibukele!" Utsho kwaye utyholisa umnyango. Bambalwa abafuna ukugxeka i-CE. Kuphela xa umntu enqwenela ukuba avule umnyango aze ahambe. 3E iyahlula ukugxeka. Ukuba ucinga ukuba ngumphumo wokucaphukisa, into ephosakeleyo, ayiyi kuthobela ingqalelo kuyo yonke into. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba imeko imbi kakhulu, ngoko ufumanisa ngokucacileyo oko kungathandeki kwaye kutheni.

Yintoni ekhoyo kwisikali? Kuphela abantu abane-egoism enempilo bayakwazi ukusebenza ngokwabo, ukukhula ngokwabo. Kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, kwimpumelelo ebalulekileyo kwimpilo.

Indlela yokufunda? Yahlula icandelo lephepha kwiindawo ezimbini. Ngakwesobunxele ukubhala zonke iimpawu zakho ezilungileyo, ngakwesokudla-ezingalunganga. Ukuba enye inxalenye icace ngakumbi, yongeza isibini. Awazi ukuba ubhale ntoni? Yenyuka kunye nayo! Ukuzivocavoca kunceda kakhulu ekuphuhliseni ukuzithemba. Kwanele ukwenza kanye ngenyanga.

Xa kukho umona
MEMI imeko enjalo ingcinezelo, ingabangela ukuphazamiseka kwemihlaba kunye nezifo. Umyeni waphendula ngomsebenzi omtsha, kwaye sele sele kukho iziganeko zokukrexeza kokuhamba komyeni wakhe ... I-CHE ilahlekelwa izinto ezininzi ngeendlebe, idlule amehlo. Ingcamango yokuba iqabane lingenomdla kwelinye ibhinqa, nokuba lingafihli engqondweni-likhulu ukuzithemba. Kulungile, 3E ngokuthe ngqo kwaye uthi "Into ethile malunga nomqeshwa omtsha ngokusoloko utsho ukuba ufuna ukukubona kwaye into ethile yenzeke ngengozi." Oku, akunjalo, akunjalo. Abantu abanjalo bathambekele, kuqala, ukuvakalisa zonke iimvakalelo zabo, kwaye okwesibini, ukwenza izinto zibe yihlaya.

Yintoni ekhoyo kwisikali? I-egoists ephilileyo iyakwazi ukuxolela kwaye ayikhohlwe-ukuzithemba kwabo kwiimeko ezinjalo azihlupheki.

Indlela yokufunda? Musa ukutolika naziphi na izenzo zabanye njengobonakaliso bokuzihlonela.

Xa ebuzwa malunga nento ethile
I-DOE ayikwazi ukukhanyela ukwesaba ukuba abantu baya kuba kubi ngakumbi kuye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, konke oku kusetyenziselwa ... I-CHE ithandana xa ecelwa into ethile - uyayithandeka ukwenqaba. Kodwa abaqhelana nxamnye naye - imbono yokuzikhukhumeza ayinayo le nto. Izicelo ze-CHE ngokwazo zizungeze abantu kuqala ngokuzithandela, kodwa ke ziqala ukuhlazeka ngeendlela zonke. U-3E uthanda ukubuza nokuzalisekisa izicelo zabanye, ucingisisa isicelo sokuba nemvakalelo emihle kunye nenxalenye ebalulekileyo yolwalamano.

Yintoni ekhoyo kwisikali? Isiseko soqhagamshelwano olufanelekileyo sisisiseko. 3E, ngokungafani ne-CHE kunye no-ME kukho.

Indlela yokufunda? Akukho mfuneko yokugcina iirekhodi zezenzo ezilungileyo. Yenza nje into onokuyenza kwabanye abantu kwaye unganqikazi ukuzibuza yona ukuba kuyimfuneko.

Ukunyamekela umntwana
"Ekusebenzeni kokuqala wawulizwi emva kwesiteji, kwaye ngoku - i-hemp?" IMI imeko enjalo iya kubangela ubuhlungu. Kodwa ukufumana isizathu sokuba kwenzeke, akuyi kuba. Okanye uya kuthi kumntwana: "Musa ukuhamba phambili kule mi sebenzi," okanye uya kuhlambalaza: "Kutheni ungaceli indima eqhelekileyo?" I-CHE sele ifike kumfundisi, kwaye engqondweni yakhe, wonke umntu waqonda ukuba umntwana kufuneka adlale kuphela abafazi. Ngaphandle koko, izikhalazo malunga nokuphulwa kwamalungelo abantwana kunye nokungabikho kobugcisa bootitshala. I-ZE iyakwazi ukufikelela kwimiba evela kumacala athile. Unako ukuxhasa umntwana: "Kodwa uya kuba yinto enhle kakhulu!", Kwaye mhlawumbi hamba uthetha notitshala ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba umntwana wakhe uyabuhlungu ngokwenene into ethile.

Yintoni ekhoyo kwisikali? Abantu abane-egoism enempilo bayakwazi ukufundisa nokukhokela abantwana. Baziva, phantsi kweemeko banikela umntwana ngakumbi inkululeko, kwaye apho kungabikho mfuneko yokwenza izipholozo, xa kubalulekile ukubonisa ukunakekelwa nokukhusela iimfuno, kwaye nini na ukunika umntwana ngokwakhe ukuqonda ukuxabana.

Indlela yokufunda? Zama ukungabonakali umntwana kunye nawe, kodwa ukumbona njengomntu ozimeleyo. Le ndlela inceda ukuba ungadlulanga iimvakalelo zakho kunye nemvakalelo yakho kwindodana okanye intombi yakho ("Ndiyazi kakuhle into endiyifunayo ngumntwana wam", "Andiqinisekanga ukuba uya kuyithanda").

Xa be tyeshelwe
Imeko: ukhethe i-blender esitolo, kwaye abathengisi bemi ekhoneni elide, bethetha omnye nomnye, kwaye abaze basondele kuwe. I-DO iya kumela kwaye ilindele ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba abacebisi bawuqwalasele. Okanye uya guquka aze abuyele ekhaya, ekhangele kwisitolo kusasa. I-CHE ayiyi kunqanda nje loo nto kwaye iyakwenza lula ukuba i-scuffle kunye nehlazo: "Kutheni ndimele ndimi apha ndikulindele ukuba wenze umsebenzi wakho?! Unayophi incwadi ecacileyo?" Yaye ixhaswa ngumbono wokuphakamisa abantu kunye nethuba lokubonisa amandla namandla. I-ZE izakuzama ukuphazamisa inqwaba enye into ngokwayo kunye nemvakalelo kulo mbandela. Ukuba uyaqaphela ukuba uqala ukuphazamiseka ngento engalunganga (ukucaphukisa ekufuneka alinde, umnqweno wokuphosa amandla angakonakali), uphendulela entloko yakhe: "Ndize apha ukuthenga i-blender, ngoko ndiya kubuyela kumthengisi, kwaye yintoni enokumphendula ngayo kubalulekile. "

Yintoni ekhoyo kwisikali? Abantu abane-egoism enempilo bayaphikisana kakhulu kwaye banako ukufumana iindlela zokuphuma kwiimeko ezilukhuni, ukukhawuleza, kodwa ngaphandle kokuzibeka kwisimo esingathandekiyo. Ngoko ke kulula ukuba abantu abanjalo bafumane ulwimi olufanayo nabanye.

Indlela yokufunda? Zama ukuyeka kude nento eyenzekayo encinci, jonga ngokwakho ngaphandle. Oku kubangela ukuba kwiimeko ezinzima zengxabano uya kuziphatha ngesithunzi kwaye ufumane inhlonipho efanele.

Ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha indawo yomsebenzi
Mna ndiya kuyika ukutshintsha nantoni na: "Ewe, andikuthandi ukusebenza apha, kodwa kunokuba nzima ukuba ndihambe." I-CHE ayisebenzi okanye ayikwazi ukufumana isikhundla esinjalo, apho ... nayo, umnwe awubethe umunwe. Nangona yena ngokwakhe ukholelwa ukuba usebenza njengekhoboka kwi-galley, kwaye abanye bayamthoba. Kubalulekile ukuba iGG yaneliswe ngumsebenzi wayo. Yena, kwinqanaba lomzimba, ufuna nje ishishini lakhe ukuba livuyise.

Yintoni ekhoyo kwisikali? Abantu abanomsebenzi onobuhle be-egoism bahlala benomdla kwaye bayakwenza ngokuzonwabisa, kutheni ubomi babo budlala nayo yonke imibala.

Indlela yokufunda? Cinga ukuba ubomi bakho buya kuba njani kwiminyaka elishumi. Emva koko hambahamba ixesha elidlulileyo ixesha elidlulileyo. Yintoni oyifunayo ukuba uyenze kwaye yiphi na indlela omele uhambe ngayo ngoku (kwiminyaka emibili, iminyaka emihlanu, njl.) Ukuze ufezekise oko ufuna? Yiloo ndlela amaphupha ajika ngayo abezicwangciso zangempela.