Ngokwenene, abafazi bathanda uthando njengobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu ababini, inhlonipho nokuqonda - oku kuyona nto ebaluleke kakhulu othandweni kwimbono yabasetyhini. Ngokutsho kweengcamango zabasetyhini, indoda kufuneka ikhusele umfazi, unike izipho , ukhusele, njl njl njl njl. Iimbono ezinjalo zabasetyhini zikhoyo. Ewe, kwaye zilungele ngokupheleleyo. Umfazi usoloko efuna ukuva amazwi amnandi kwinqanaba lakhe, uthanda ukufumana izipho ezivela kumntu othandekayo, njengokuba ukhangelekile kwaye ukhuselwe. Kwaye oku kuchanekileyo, njani ukuba ungaphambuki, lo wesifazane uyindoda ebuthathaka. Ukufumana izipho kwindoda ethandekayo, umfazi kwakhona uyaqinisekisa ukuba uyamthanda, kuba nguye okuyona nto ebalulekileyo ngothando. Ukuqhubela phambili kule nto, kunokugqitywa ukuba kubafazi, isipho ngokwaso asibalulekanga, kodwa ukubaluleka kwezinto kubalulekile.
Kwaye umbuzo olandelayo uvela: Yintoni ekubonweni ngabantu yinto ebalulekileyo eluthandweni.
Lo mbuzo kunzima ukuphendula. Bangaphi amadoda kumhlaba, ezininzi iingcamango. Kodwa, ngokusemgangathweni, bonke bafana. Kwabanye umntu into eyona nto kukuba intombi iyakuthanda, kumntu obaluleke kakhulu ngesondo kwaye kuphela, ngokuqinisekileyo, umntu ufuna umfazi wendlu, ngubani oza kupheka isidlo kwaye ahlabe ihembe lakhe.
Yonke le ndoda isondela kumthando ilungile kwaye iyafaneleka. Emva koko, umfazi uhlala evulekile ngaphezu komntu. Ngako oko, indoda kunye nothando kuya kuba nzima ukuvuma ngaphandle kwowesifazane. Uloyiko lokuthotywa. Kwaye ukuphepha ukuhluleka, ubheka indlela umfazi amphatha ngayo. Ukuba ibhinqa ayifumanga kuye, loo mntu uya kuzama ukungakheli ubudlelane nomfazi onjalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo akunjalo, kukho ezininzi iintlobo zabantu. Omnye uya kuhlala ethule, kwaye umntu uya kufuna ingqalelo yabasetyhini nganoma iyiphi indlela. Kodwa kakhulu kwenzeka.
Phakathi kwabasetyhini, kukho uluvo lokuba amadoda adinga kuphela ngesondo kuphela. Ngokwezinga elithile, oku kuyenyani, kodwa ngokuphathelele amadoda akuyona into ephambili eluthandweni. Indoda, ukhetho lomlingane wayo, kulula kakhulu. Kodwa, ngokwemadoda, ukuba akukho isondo kwezobudlelwane, ngoko ulwalamano oluninzi alukho. Ewe, kwaye ukuba ulwalamano lusekhona, ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo, indoda, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ibonakale inkosikazi, mhlawumbi ingekho enye.
Kukho, kunjalo, kwaye amadoda analo ngokwesini ngumyalelo wobuncinci ngaphezu kobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ngokwamadoda anjalo, into ephambili yothando yithemba. Ngaphinda, ndiphinda ndithi abaninzi abantu baseplanethi banemibono eninzi malunga nezinto abazixabisa ngothando.
Kwakhona, amadoda ayahlonela umfazi, ngokumhlonela. Ngamanye amagama, ngokumalunga namadoda, umfazi kufuneka athathe indawo yakhe, abeke ekhitshini. Ewe, le ndawo yimeko enomxholo kwaye uthetha njalo, kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba ivakale kangakanani ngoku, kuyinyaniso. Nangona indoda ingenakunyanzeliswa ukuba imthobele, yenza into kuye, kodwa ukuba ibhinqa liyakhupha ihembe lakhe, liya kuphakama emehlweni aloo ndoda. Yaye ukuba uthe wapheka kakuhle, oko kuya kuba ngumlinganiselo ophezulu xa ukhetha umfazi njengendoda. Njengoko ilizwi lisithi: "Indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu, ilele esiswini."
Kukho uhlobo olunjalo lwabantu abathandana nabasetyhini, njengabo oomama, kubo into ebalulekileyo ngothando yinto efana neyangaphandle. Ukufana, kokubonakala nokuziphatha. Oku kungenxa yokuba ininzi amadoda ayifuni nje umfazi othandekayo, kodwa sele eselinye iqabane, umtshakazi, umfazi nomama wabantwana bakhe bokamva. Kwaye, kumntu, ngaphandle kokuqonda, yonke imibutho, kunye nonina wabantwana bakhe nomkakhe, ngumama wakhe.
Amanqaku angabalulekanga kubundlelwane bothando, anikezelwa ingqalelo yamadoda, inhlonipho yeminqweno yakhe. Ngokwamadoda, oku kubaluleke kakhulu othandweni. Ngengqiqo yakhe, ukuba umfazi uhlonipha kwaye wabelana ngeziqhotyoshelo kunye neminqweno yakhe, ngoko ufanelekile kuye. Eyona nto ibaluleke kukuba, oku kunjalo, ukunyaniseka kuye. Oku akufanelekanga ukuthetha ngoku, kuba utshintsho, ubuncinane kanye, umfazi, emehlweni omntu owa kakhulu. Kuye, akayi kuba ngumfazi wobomi bakhe, kodwa ngumfazi onamandla okulula.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, kukho iindlela ezininzi zokukhetha indoda njengowesifazane, kunye nezihlandlo abantu abazixabisa ngayo ubudlelwane bokwenene. Ngokwamadoda, into ephambili ethandweni isondo, kunye nethemba nokubonakala kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi. Ngokomzekelo, umntu wokuqala ufuna ukuba umfazi wakhe abonakale egqabileyo kwaye bonke abanye abantu banemisipha yabo, kodwa ekugqibeleni ifuna ukuba ibhinqa libukeke lithobekile, ukwenzela ukuba ungaluthathi ingqalelo engadingekanga kwindoda yecala.