Kutheni amadoda eziphatha njengabasetyhini?
Ekuqaleni ukususela ebuntwaneni
Iingcali zengqondo ziye zatshengisa ukuba umlingiswa womntu uthinteka kwimigaqo yindoda kunye neyesetyhini ekukhuliseni. Ngaloo ndlela, amantombazana awakhuliswa nguyise omnye akhula ngobuntu obuqinileyo, ukuvakalelwa kunye nokuthandana nabo bahluke kubo, kunye namakhwenkwe akhuliswa ngumama omnye, ngokuchaseneyo, abe ziimpawu ezintle kunye nezothando. Kukho, ngokuqinisekileyo, lo mgaqo kunye nokungafani. Kodwa ukuba "unenhlanhla" ukuhlangabezana nomntwana onjalo "unina", lungela ukuba uya kuvuyisa ukunika iingcinezelo zobudlelwane bakho kwizandla zabasetyhini.
I-Psychology yinto ebalulekileyo, ngoko ungazami ukwenza "i-muzhik" yakho kwinqununu yakho yokuqala kwiveki yakho. Abantu abanjalo baneminye impawu ezintle: banjalo, njengomthetho, ootata abakhulu abaqondayo abafazi, abahlali bexhamla iingxaki zabasetyhini, banokunyamezela utshintsho olubukhali kwisimo sengqondo sabasetyhini kunye neyure nesiqingatha sentlawulo kwivenkile yokutyela. Amadoda anjalo aya kufuthi akuphephe izipho, nangona kunjalo, kwaye ufuna ukuba oku kubuyiswe.
I-Scandal kunye nendoda enjalo-eyabiza ngakumbi, kodwa kunye naye unokuthetha ngokukhululekile, kwaye umfazi kufuneka athathe eli thuba. Ngendlela ephosakeleyo, mxelele izikhalazo zakho, ucebise ukuba ujoyine uhlobo oluthile lwemidlalo yowesilisa, uye kwibala lokudubula, udlale ibhola yebhola, uthathe ibhokisi lokukhwabanisa okanye ubugcisa bokulwa. Ingakumbi indoda iya kuba phakathi kwezesondo, ngakumbi ukuzithemba kwakhe.
Abasetyhini abasondeleyo
Umlingiswa wabantu awuchaphazelekayo kuphela ngokukhuliselwa, kodwa nakwabonke abaqokelelanayo apho ahlala khona ixesha elide. Kwenzeka ukuba esikolweni, naseyunivesithi, nasemsebenzini, lo mntu wayenabo / wayehlobo lwabafazi abaqinileyo nabaqinileyo abangabonakali bobuthathaka babo. Emva kwexesha, indoda isetyenziselwa ukuba yonke into eyenziwa yona yenziwa ngokwesini esilungileyo kwaye ngokuzithandela uyinika amandla ezandleni kungekhona kuphela emsebenzini, kodwa nakubomi bakhe. Amadoda anjalo afuna umngane wobomi ngesimo esinamandla. Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa amantombazana ukuba angayishiyi ubuthathaka babo ngenxa yamadoda. Ngokuchasene noko, kuba ngumfazi kunye nobuthathaka. Indlela yodwa yokuvuswa kwindoda yindlela yakhe.
Umlinganisi onjalo
Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba le nkwenkwe izalwe ngumlingani womfazi. Ukususela ebuntwaneni yena ukhetha inkampani yamantombazana, kunokuba abesilisa, akanandaba neminqweno yabantu kwaye ayenzi amanyathelo okuqala kulwalamano. Uyakuthanda kakhulu ukunyamekela umntu. La madoda achitha ixesha elininzi ngokubonakala kwawo, abizwa ngokuba "ngama-narcisse". Nangona kubangelwa ubundlobongela, abantu balolu hlobo bangabalingani abalinganayo kwintsebenziswano, nangona kunjalo, isizathu sokuba le nto inokuba yithanda wena, kungekhona kuwe.