Sonke siyazi, kwaye abaninzi abafazi abavumi ukuba ukuphulwa kwanoma luphi ulwalamano alukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kwemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo. Kakade ke, kukho amaxesha apho iveli eya kufika ekupheleni kwayo ayiphumelelanga, apho unokufumana uncedo olungenakulinganiswa. Kodwa yintoni omele uyenze kwimeko apho awukho into owacingayo ukuba awuzange uyenze, kwaye akazange akrokre ukuba ahlukane nomntu oye wabonisa indlela kwaye "wabuya". Nanku uqinisekile ukuba ucinga ngendlela yokuziphindezela kumntu owayesithandayo, kanye kunye, ufunde oko kwaye uxinzelele "ukuluma izibonda zakho"? Ewe, ukuba unqotshwa ngumnqweno wokuziphindezela, ke le nqaku ikwawe!
Ukufikelela kwisicwangciso sokubuyisela
Ngoko, wanquma ukuziphindisela kwi-chevalier yakho yangaphambili: kufuneka siqale kuphi? Impendulo ilula: ngaphambi kokuba uziphindiselele kumntu owayengumthandi, kufuneka uziqonde ukuba uyayifuna. Qinisekisa ukuba ngaba le ndoda "yelise" kakhulu okanye ufuna ukuphindiselela kwintombi yakho yangaphambili kuba ukhokelwa ngumoya? Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye uqwalasele ngokubhekiselele imeko eyenzile, ukuzisola okukhulu, kungekhona kuwe. Zama ukucinga ukuba sele usuphinde wabuyisela umthandi wakho wangaphambili. Yethulwa? Mkhulu! Kwaye ngoku uzibuze, ngaba le ntliziyo ikulethela uvuyo nokwaneliseka? Ukuba uhlushwa ngokungathandabuzeki malunga nokuba uyayilumko ukwenza ntoni, kungcono ubeke isicwangciso sakho sokuziphindaphinda ekuhambeni kwexesha: kunokwenzeka ukuba emva kwexesha awuyi kuba nento yokuziphindezela, kodwa awuyi kuba nomnqweno wokuchitha ixesha lakho elixabisekileyo ngokucinga ngalo mntu .
Ngendlela, kubaluleke kakhulu kule meko ukuzihlola ngokwamanqanaba enecala kwinto eyenzekayo. Ukuba wayesebenzise, ukufihla imeko yakhe, ngoko, unokuyiqonda. Kwaye, ukuba umzekelo, sele uqalise inveli yakho ngenjongo kunye nomntu otshatileyo okanye usetshontsheni losapho, qalisa ukuzama ukuziqonda wena nezenzo ozenzayo.
Isicwangciso sokubuyisela
Ufuna ukuphindiselela umthandi wakho ophonswayo - qi niseka ukuba uceba (ngokuthe tye uhamba ngesinyathelo) zonke izenzo zakho ezilandelayo. Qiniseka ukubala zonke iziphumo zokuziphindisela kwakho. Ukhetho olukhethayo, akukho naluphi na uhlobo olufanele luveze umntu ukuba asemngciphekweni, ingakumbi ukuba unxulumene nabantwana abancinci (ukuba kunjalo njalo kumntu). Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unqumle ukuxelela umlingane wakho (intsha entsha) yintando yakho yangaphambili malunga neentetho zakhe okanye ukuvula amehlo akhe, kwimeko yokuqala, le ntokazi iya kuhlupheka, kungekhona "i-hero".
"Ukuziphindezela kwam kunamandla!"
Indlela efanelekileyo yokuziphindezela kumntu owayengumthandi kukuba udlale ubuthathaka bakhe. Ngendlela, ngubani, kungeyiphi indlela omele ubazi kakuhle ngayo! Ngokomzekelo, ungumntu onoqoqosho kakhulu ebomini-kutheni ungamqumbisi ukuba ube ngumngcipheko omkhulu? Ewe, asiyikucebisa u-blackmail kunye nomonakalo omkhulu kwipropati, kodwa siyancomela ngokucacileyo ukuba ukhangele ubuqili bakho nobuchule bakho. Ukucwangcisa okwenyaniso kunye nobuqili kuya kunceda ukwenza isikhwama esingenanto saso saqala ukusebenza.
Yaye uthanda njani uguqulelo lwegama elonakalisiweyo le-ex-chevalier? Nantsi indima ebalulekileyo, umzekelo, iifoto zomxholo obusondeleyo uthunyelwe kubalingane bakhe, i-questionnaire eyenziwe egameni lakhe kwisiza sokuthandana, iifowuni ezifakela kwi-dispereary venereological, njl. Into ephambili - ukubonisa ukucinga kwakho, okuza kuphosa ezininzi iinketho.
Kwaye into yokugqibela, zama ukukwenza ukuba umhlobo wakho wangaphambili uzisole ngenxa yokuba ulahlekelwe nguwe. Shintsha isitayela sakho, ubuyekeze ikhabethe yakho, thabatha iifoto ezimnandi kwaye uzilayishe kwi-intanethi. Fumana intlani entsha, izinto ezithandwayo kunye nokuhamba kwiholide. Ngexesha lokuhlangana ngengozi kunye nawe, umthandi wakho wangaphambili uyazisola ngokuba awukho kunye. Ngoku ungonwabela ubomi obutsha!