Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, ingxoxo yocingo, mhlawumbi, yokuqala kwiindlela zonke zokunxibelelana kwabantu-nokuba sisithanda okanye cha. Kodwa inkxalabo kukuba: abafazi bafuna nje, ngoko amadoda awanelisekanga ngale meko. Ngenxa yokuba, ngokweengcali zeengqondo, abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo, kuvela, abayithandi indlela efanelekileyo yokunxibelelana. Yaye ukuba baqhubeka beyisebenzisa, ngoko kuphela kwesizathu esinye: ukuya kuphi? ..
Amantombazana amahle kufuneka athathe le nkalo ingqalelo ngaphambi kokuba athethe kwifowuni kunye nendoda ukukhusela ukungaqondi kakuhle. Ininzi yethu inokuchitha iiyure ukuxoxa nabahlobo kwifowuni, ukufumana kule nto ingenakulinganiswa. Ngaba uye wadibana namadoda amaninzi akwazi ukuzithemba ngokuzenzekelayo aze agwebe kwiphubhu ngokuhlwa? Nangona ukuba unjalo na kuwe, abaxhamli banxulumene nabo banomdla wokungcikiva: bathetha, kuba ezi zibuthathaka. Kwaye bekunjalo. Iingcali zeengqondo ziye zakuba ziqiniseke ukuba iifowuni ezide zithi "akukho nto" - umsebenzi ozithandayo wesini esilungileyo, kunye nabantu abaqhelekileyo le ndlela yokunxibelelana iyinto engafanelekanga. Okubi kakhulu, phakathi kwabo kukho ininzi kulabo, ekucingeni ukuba baphendule umnxeba okanye benze ucingo ngokwabo, baqale ukuthukuma, bavuke baze bathuthumele. Baya kuvuma ukuchitha ubusuku bodwa kunye noninazala, kodwa abayi kuthatha ifowuni ekhaya. Kodwa emva koko, ngamanye amaxesha asinalo elinye ithuba lokuthetha nomntu othandekayo! Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ngoku? Ewe, akukho nto ekhethekileyo, kufuneka uqwalasele i-psychology yesintu - yinto yonke.
Zidla ebusuku
Indlela abalingani abaziphatha ngayo ebhedeni, nabo banalo ubudlelwane kwifowuni. Amantombazana, njengomthetho, afuna ukubonakalisa ukubonisa ububele, ukuze bahlale ixesha elide. Kwaye abazalwana bazama ukugqiba yonke into ngokukhawuleza, ukuze bakwazi ukubuyela kwimicimbi yabo engathà sina, ngokwenene ngokukhawuleza. Ngoko ke, ukuba uthe wagqiba ukuthetha nomthandi wakho ngale nto kwaye ufuna ukuvakala ngexesha elifanayo, zama ukumbiza ebusuku. Inyaniso kukuba abameleli besini esomeleleyo ngendalo banomnye umzekelo: ebusuku bazingathembi, banamathembekileyo kwaye bazimisele ukudibanisa.
Amanqatha
Kuba amadoda amaninzi ukugqithisa ingxoxo, kwaye aqinisekanga ukuba ahlaziyekanga kwimeko yokujonga. Benza isigqibo sokuba sele sele ubaxelele yonke inkcazelo abayifunayo kwiindawo zabo zokujonga, ngoko ke babeka ibhobho ngesazela esicacileyo. Amadoda nentloko ayifuni ukuthetha amabinzana angenanto engapheli kwintetho kuphela ekupheleni kwayo. Ngoko musa ukucaphukiswa ngabathandekayo bakho - banalo hlobo, kwaye bona ngokwabo akunakwenzeka ukutshintsha. Kungcono ukuhlela isivumelwano kunye nomyeni wakho okanye umhlobo kwixesha elizayo, ukuze, xa evile ukuba unomnqweno ongenakunqwenelekayo wokubambelela, wakuxwayisa okwesibini ngaphambi kwegama elibalulekileyo njengalokhu: "Hayi, siza kuxubusha abanye ngokuzayo."
Diplomats
"Ndiyakukubiza" - eli binzana lidala nje ngehlabathi. Bangaphi amaxesha abafazi babakholelwa kwizithembiso ezinjalo zabathetheli kwaye zihlandlo ezilihlandlo ezazikhohlisa ekulindeni kwabo! Yaye yonke into ngenxa yokuba ayengazi: ngokuqhelekileyo eli binzana lichazwe ngumntu endaweni yomnye. Kodwa ke, enye, izandile njengesigwebo: "Kuphelile, andikuthandi". Yaye akuyiyo yonke ilungu lesini esomeleleyo elinamandla okulivakalisa. Kodwa isithembiso esingabopheliyo sokufowuna simvumela kuqala, ukuba angayenzanga umonakalo umphefumlo womntu owayengumthandi, kwaye okwesibili, ufanelwe ukuphuma kwimeko engathandekiyo, ukuba ugcine ubuso bakhe, oko kuthetha. Ngoko, xa ulivile eli binzana lisuka kumntu, ungayithathi ngokoqobo. Nangona ... ithemba lifa ngokugqibela!
Bakhohlisi
Omnye, umbuzo ongavumiyo ovuthayo: unako ukudibanisa nendoda efonini, ukuba uxabana? Nantsi into incike kwiimeko ezithile. Ngokomzekelo, uyakrokrela ukuba impikiswano phakathi kwakho isisisizathu, kodwa eqinisweni, ubuhlobo bakho buphelile kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, utshabalalise ukuphela kokubi. Ngoko ke akunakuncedo ukubhenela iimvakalelo zintanda, njengoko i heroine ka-Irina Muravieva evela kwi-movie "Carnival": khumbula indlela ahlabelela ngayo ngomsindo: "Ndibize, biza !!!" Awuyi kubiza. Kwaye, kunokwenzeka ukuba akakho. Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukumbiza, yilungele, ulungele ukuthetha kwifowuni nendoda, ukuva kwelinye icala ekupheleni kwentambo oyenze inombolo yephutha. Kodwa nangona kwenzeka ingxabano, ngenxa yokuba omnye unomdla, kungcono ukuba ungakheli ubudlelwane okanye ngefowuni okanye ubuso nobuso. Emva koko uza kuba nethuba elingcono lokuphumelela. Kwifowuni kuyafaneleka ukuxoxisana kuphela ngendawo kunye nexesha lokuxoxisana ngoxolo.
Ubuvila
Kuyamangalisa ukuba ukuphulaphula kwindoda kwindoda, kwaye mhlawumbi kufuneka uqiniseke ngayo. Uthembekile wakho uthembekile, umzekelo, i-wiring ephazamisayo yecandelo elilandelayo, kodwa akayiva i-trill yefowuni ephezulu entloko. Ukhawuleza usuka ekhitshini waya kwigumbi lokuhlala uphendule umnxeba, kwaye ngokumangalisa uqaphele ukuba indoda ihleli kwizinto eziphathekayo kwisalathisi kunye nokufunda ngokuzenzele iphephandaba. Kwaye ukutshwenyeka kwakho ngomoya womntwana ongenacala, uyabuza: "Wathini kuwe umntu?" Inyaniso kukuba, uyaqiniseka ukuba: 99 kwabangama-100 bakubiza wena, kungekhona yena. Ngoko ke kutheni uthabathe ifowuni, ukuba usadinga ukuyithumela kuwe? Kukho enye indlela yokutshintsha imeko. Mxelele ukuba ukuba uyazivolontiya ukuba uthathe inkathazo yokuhlamba izitya, uhlambe, uphume, upheke, uhlambe, udibanise, uthathe udoti, njl., Usenethemba lokuba umsebenzi ohloniphekileyo - ukuza kufowuni - ukwahlula ngamabini.
Revnivtsy
Abantu abaninzi bayazi le mfanekiso: umphathi wakho umnxeba ekhaya, ufuna ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza ngeendlela zokuthetha ngentetho, kwaye uphulaphule ngenyameko amagama akhe. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza uqaphela ukuba ebusweni bomyeni wakho kukho uluhlu olungachazekiyo lweemvakalelo - malunga nelizwi elifanayo xa wayekho xa ezalwa. Uza kudideka, ingxoxo kunye nomphathi ayixhaswanga, ingakumbi-kwaye yithuba lokuba uyeke. Yaye ityala ngenxa yento yonke - umona wabantu, ongaqondakaliyo ukusuka kwinqanaba lezesayensi, kwiingxoxo zamantombazana abo kwifowuni, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngubani. Yintoni enokuyenza kwiimeko ezinjalo? Ukuba kunokwenzeka, ngokukhawuleza ushiye ifowuni kwelinye igumbi, njengoko besithi, ngaphandle kwamehlo. Ukuba unomntu onobubele, ngoko ngexesha lokutyelela kwakhe, cima ifowuni ngokupheleleyo - uthando lufanelekile!
Iintloni
Ngaba ucinga ukuba ngemihla kaRomeo noJuliet kwakukho umnxeba, ngaba uya kuba nomfana onamandla ukuba achaze ngothando? Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba akunakwenzeka, ngakumbi xa abahlobo okanye intsapho yakhe esondele. Wayeza kukhetha ukwenza indlela yakhe ebhaleni phakathi kobusuku ukuze akhulume ngeemvakalelo zakhe, ngaphandle kokwesaba ezinye iindlebe zabantu. Emva koko, nawuphi na ummeli wesini esomeleleyo ukwesaba kangangokuthi uza kutshutshiswa ngetakane! Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, akayi kuthetha amagama athileyo nangompu, ukuba kukho nantoni na into yokuba abanye abantu bayamkhathalela. Ngoko musa ukucaphukisa kwi-chevalier xa uyaphendula lakho: "Ndiyakuthanda" ukuyeka ukugubungela kwindawo yokusebenzela: "Nam" (oku kukuhle!), Okanye ubeke nje kwi-tube. Ufuna ukuva kumntu amazwi amathandabuzo othandwayo - yenza izono zakho kuphela kumntu, kwintlanganiso.
Ukucaphula, sifuna ukukunika isiluleko esisodwa: ukuze ugweme ukungaqondani, qhagamshelana nomntu oyintanda ngefowuni ngokungabonakali kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ukuba akuphelelanga kwakho, kungcono ukuhambelana nayo. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ziphi iincwadi ezintle zothando ezihlobisa iincwadi zorhwebo kunye neenveli zamacandelo eencwadi zehlabathi. Kodwa akukho ncokola yocingo efana nale ...
Kuthetha ntoni kuwe kuwe kwifowuni ...
1. "Uxolo, umntu ukhalela emnyango" (ekhaya) okanye "Abavakatye beza kum" (emsebenzini).
2. "Kwenzeka njani ukuba umatshini wokuphendula angabhalisi amagama am, endithe ndathi ndakubiza ukuba ungabikho?"
3. "Ngelishwa, ndixakeke kakhulu ngoku. Xa ndikhululekile, ndiya kukubiza. "
4. "Sawubona! Andiqondi into eyenzekayo. Ngaba unayo izinto ezibaluleke ngaphezu kwam? "
5. "Sawubona, ngaba lo ucoceko olomileyo? Awu, ndicinga ukuba ndiyishayela inombolo yakho yefowuni ngephutha! "
6. "Ngaba ndingakubiza emva kancinci? Ngoku ndikhangele umdlalo webhola lebhola yam iqela elithandayo. "
... kwaye ithetha ntoni
1. "Okwangoku ndinomsebenzi onomdla kunokuba ndixoxe nawe."
2. "Yima, ndaphinda ndakulibala ukubiza wena, nangona ungandicela malunga nalo mhla!"
3. "Andinqweneli ukuthetha nawe-hayi namhlanje, kungekhona nanini."
4. "Ndilikhumbula ngokwenene, kwaye nangona ndiyayithiya ifowuni, ndiyakumema ukuba ndiqeshwe."
5. "Ndiyintloni xa ndibiza wena, ngoko ndikhangele isizathu esifanelekileyo."
6. "Ngaba ndingakubiza emva kancinci? Ngoku ndibukele umdlalo webhola kunye neqela lam lizithandayo "