Indoda kaNarcissus, ngubani na?

Wonke amaphupha amabhinqa indoda enamandla onokuziva ekhuselwe. Indoda enamandla ngexesha lethu yinto ekhoyo. Njengoko kukholelwa ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda anesondo esomeleleyo, kodwa kwixesha lethu ngokuqhelekileyo kufuneka sigcine imeko echaseneyo.
Akunabo bonke abafazi abakhuthazela ubuthathaka babantu babo ngokuphonononga ngokuqhelekileyo, uninzi luzama ukufihla le nkalo yabakhethiweyo babo, kunye nesimo sengqondo esitshatileyo sibonakala sikulungele, kodwa njengokuba kubonakala ubomi, akukho buhlobo obuhle.

Sonke siyazi umxholo wobutsha obuhle uNarcissa. Bobabini amadoda nabasetyhini banamathambeka kwi-narcissism, kodwa ke amadoda ahlupheka kakhulu nge-narcissism kunabesifazane. Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zafakazela ukuba i-narcissism yinto enye yobungqingili.

Ama-daffodils alungileyo ambalwa kakhulu. Kwamanye amadoda, kubonakala njengendlela yokuzikhusela, bazama ukubonisa abo bafuna ukuthandwa nabo. Ngoko umntu uzama ukufumana ngokwakhe ubutyebi.

Ukuzingca kuhamba kunye ne-narcissism. Njengoko uyazi, i-egoists ayinabantu abonwabileyo, kuba ulonwabo lwabo luxhomekeke kwinqanaba lokuzinyamekela, ngoko ke abakwazi ukunyaniseka ngokwenene. I-narcissus yanamhlanje ayiboni iintsilelo, kungekhona nje ekubonakala kwayo, kodwa nakubonakala kwangaphakathi. Abantu abanjalo abayithandi ukuba bancitshiswa. Bangaphi abangazange bamdumise i-narcissus, uhlala esincinci, kuba ukholelwa ukuba uqobo lwakhe luhlala luphantsi.

Abantu abanjalo ababoni ngokwenene kwaye baqonda ihlabathi elibajikelezayo ngendlela abayifunayo. Umntu onjalo akaziboni ulingana, uzibheka ukuba uphelele. UNarcissus kwintlanganiso yokuqala kunzima ukuyiqonda, kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha, iimpawu zayo zinyani zibonakala zibonakala. Ngexesha le ncoko, indoda enjalo ihlala ikhuluma ngaye, incinci yakhe, okanye ingenandaba nabanye abantu.

La madoda athetha ukucombulula iingxaki ngeendleko zabanye.

Ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo, abazivumeli iimpazamo zabo, bayavuma impazamo yabo ifana nokuwa kwehlabathi langaphakathi kunye neengcinga zobomi.

Ukugxeka abanye ngenxa yokungaziphathi kakuhle, kodwa kungekhona kubo. Ngelo xesha, ukulungelelana kwesityholo akuyimfuneko.

UNarcissus uphelele, konke kuphelele kuyo kwaye le nkulumo ayikwazi ukuphikiswa ngumntu.

Kuye, akukho nto yimbi kunokuba ihlazeke. Akufanele ikhangele ukusuka kwicala elibi. Uhlala efuna ukuzivelela, njengokuba esi siqinisekiso sokuthi ukhona, ulungele ukwenza kwaye uthethe nantoni na, kungekhona ukuvuma ukuziphatha kwakhe kakubi.

UNarcissus akayindoda yintsapho entle. I-daffodils yamadoda ihlala ikhangisa kwaye izama ukuqhubeka nokuxhasa imfuno. Ukuba uqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba kumntu wakho i-narcissus, kufuneka ulungelelanise nale nto iyimfuneko (kunzima kakhulu).

Naluphi na umxhatshazo ohambelana nokunganeliseki yowesifazane, kubo, lo mngcipheko kubomi bakhe. UNarcissus naye ukhetha ukunika izipho aze azithokozise yena, kwaye ke uyamthandayo, kufuneka uwamkele oku, kodwa kule meko kukho inye enye-eneneni kwindlu ka-narcissus kukho konke okufunekayo kwaye konke okusemgangathweni.

Kufuneka kuqondwe ukuba esinye isiqingatha sakho sisoloko sikugxeka ngempazamo yakho, oku kungalunganga, kuba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi inani labangalunganga liya kwanda kwaye ekugqibeleni ungayinciphisa, kuba iya kuhlala iphelele, kwaye awuyi kuyenza.

Ukuba lunomdla kumntu onjalo, kufuneka ukuba utyalwe kwaye athathwe ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ke le ngqalelo ifanele isetyenziswe. Ukulungisa umntu-narcissus akunakwenzeka.

Ukuba unomntu onjalo, zibuze umbuzo ukuba ulungele ukunyamezela kwaye ulungelelanise kwaye ngexesha elifanayo unetyala leengxaki zonke?