Nangona kunjalo, kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, imeko yatshintshile kakhulu, amantombazana akwiNtloko yamashishini amakhulu, lawula amashishini kwaye adala amashishini abo. Ngoku akumangalisi ukuba ngamathuba amaxesha omama amabhinqa adlula amaxesha omntu. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, isiqingatha esinamandla sabantu kufuneka sifunde ukwenza imicimbi yabasetyhini. Nangona kunjalo, ku funeka kuqatshelwe ukuba le meko ihambelana nabesifazane kuphela, kuba unamathele umyeni wakhe ukucoca indlu?
Ngexesha elinye ndasebenza kwinkampani apho kwakukho iqela lamadoda kuphela. Kwaye kwenye yekhefu lesidlo sasemini saqala ukuphikisana noko amadoda nabesifazana bafanele bayenze malunga nendlu. Ndandisoloko ndikholelwa ukuba akufanele kubekho ukwahlula ngokucacileyo kwintsapho ibe ngumsebenzi wesintu kunye nezobufazi kuphela. Wonke umntu kufuneka enze oko anako. Okokuthi, ukuba indoda iza kuza ukusebenza ngaphambili, iyakwazi ukuqokelela iincwadi ezidibeneyo kunye nokwenza umbhede. Kodwa ndiyamangaliswa xa bonke oogxa bam bebhengeze ukuba amadoda afune ukufumana imali kuphela, kwaye angayicoca indlu. Bathemba ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kuya kuba nzima, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ukuba bahlambulule indlu.
Kubuhlungu ukuba siqhelane nenye imeko xa usuke ukhathele ukubuya emsebenzini usebenzisa iipakethe ezipheleleyo zeemveliso, kwaye uqala ukusebenza kummandla, ngelixa indoda ihleli phambi kweTV. Emva koko umbuzo onengqiqo: "Kutheni ufuna umyeni, ukuba uhlambulula kuphela endlwini, kwaye ufumane imali enhle?"
Akukho mntu ungakwazi ukuguqula indima, nokuba ingaba okanye ayiyikuba okanye ayikho, kuphela kuphela iimeko kunye neemeko zobomi ezigqibayo. Ngokomzekelo, indoda yaxoshwa emsebenzini wayo, impilo yakhe yimbi, umntwana wazalwa-kwaye kufuneka athathe ezinye iimbopheleleko zakhe, okanye abe "ngumfazi wendlu." Kucacile ukuba kuloo meko i-ego yantoni na iyakhuphuka ngokukhawuleza, njengoko icinga ukuba kuhlazisa ukunceda malunga nendlu. Le meko yemicimbi inomsindo kakhulu, uqala ukuzingca, aphule, kuba kunzima kuye ukuba aphile kwinto yokuba intsapho yayo ibuswa ngumfazi.
Iimeko ezinjalo ziyakwazi ukuphela kakubi kumntu, unokukwazi ukuza kusela. Ngoko ke, amantombazana kufuneka aqikelele kwaye alumkele umthandi wabo. Kubalulekile ukuba umyeni wakho ahlambulule ngokucoca indlu. Ukuba unceda encinane ekhaya: pheka isidlo okanye uphume ngaphandle kwendlu, ngoko umdumise ngokunyanisekileyo ngenxa yokunyamekela kwakhe, nokuba wena ngokwakho uyenzile ngokuphindwe kabili. Unokuqiniseka ukuba kungekudala uzakufumana ngcono.
Kodwa kukho konke kufuneka ukhangele ixesha elihle, kwaye le meko ayikho. Vumelani ukuba kuyamangalisa xa ungena kwigumbi kwaye ubona isidlo esiphundu etafileni, indlu ihlambulukile, kwaye emngceleni wabantwana abondle kakuhle nabanelisayo kunye nomyeni omomothekayo. Emva kwakho konke, kulo mzekelo awuyi kuphinda utyunjwe kwimisebenzi yakho yasekhaya kwaye uya kukwazi ukuzinikele ngokupheleleyo ekunxibelelaneni nabathandekayo.
Kwaye ngoku ke iingcebiso ngokucacileyo kumntu oye waba ngumgcini wekhaya, waza waqala ukucoca ngezindlu:
- Okokuqala, yilahla ingxelo yokuba ibhinqa kuphela kufuneka lenze umsebenzi wesikolo. Qonda ukuba uyilungu lentsapho, ngoko ugcine ukuvumelanisa indlu kunye nentuthuzelo akufanele nje kuphela umfazi, kodwa wena. Ngoko ke, qalisa ukucoca indlu ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwesazela.
- Khawucinge ukuba umsebenzi wesikolo unomsebenzi ogcweleyo, kuphela ochazwe ngokuthe ngqo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, unokwenza uluhlu lweemeko ezinkulu kunye namancinci, okufuneka kwenziwe namhlanje ngokungenakwenzeka.
- Ukongeza kwimiqathango-imicimbi yabasetyhini, yenza umsebenzi oqhelekileyo wamadoda, izindlu ezicocekileyo "zamadoda." Lungisa iphampu yokumisa, faka iingcango kwikhemfa, okanye ekugqibeleni udibanise izixhobo zokwakha kwi-pantry.
- Musa ukuvala amehlo akho. Ukuba awuyi eofisini, akuthethi ukuba akufanele uhambe kwi-hairdresser okanye kwindawo yokuzivocavoca.
- Zama ukufumana umsebenzi kwindawo ekhethekileyo.
- Unexesha elininzi lokukhulula, ngoko uzama ukuziphucula. Zazi ngokwakho into entsha, ayiyi kukuphazamisa nje ingcamango engathandekiyo, kodwa ikukunceda ukuba ube ngumqeqeshi oqeqeshiweyo.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, madoda ethu abathandekayo, khumbula ukuba intsapho yinto enye, kwaye ngoko ke wonke umntu kufuneka ancedane. Uthando alugcini nje ngamazwi, kodwa izenzo. Kwaye ukucoca indlu kungenziwa kunye.