Okokuqala, kuyafaneleka ukuqonda isizathu sokuxabana. Emva koko, ukuba umntu uphukisa umfazi, ngoko ke kukho imfuneko ethile. Imeko apho ungabonakalisa intandokazi, eninzi. Kodwa ngaba unesiqiniseko sokuthi akazange akhuphe umthetho? Mhlawumbi wayenomonde, ngelixa ugijimela indlu kunye nabahlaziyi, bamnxusa ngamazwi angamanyala kunye namabango, kwaye ngenye indlela waphuphuma, wamemeza wathi: "Dura!" Waphuma ekamelweni? Ngelishwa, kwaye, ngethamsanqa, siphila ngexesha apho abafazi bengasaphathwa njengabantu abangaxolelwa, kwaye thina ngokwethu sinokubeka ityala ngale nto. Ndikholelwe, ukuba ungowokuqala ukucaphukisa indoda, kwaye umntu uyakucasula ngokubuyisela, ngoko akayi kuba ngowokuqala ukuba axolelane, kwaye akayi kuziva enetyala nangona isizathu sokuba u-hysteria wakho ufana. Zama ukuziqonda oko akukufanelangayo, kwaye uxoxe nomntu wakho kuqala, uxolise, kwaye uzame ukuzithoba kwaye ungabonisi ukuba uchaze oko ukuziphatha kwakhe akuhambisani nawe, buza ukususela ngoku, ukuze uphephe ukungquzulana, musa ukwenza njalo. Ukuba uqhubeka esabela ngokukhawuleza kumabango akho kwaye uqala ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakhe, ke apha unokukhetha ezintathu: owokuqala - shiya yonke into, kwaye uzama ukungabi mfuneko kakhulu; Okwesibini kukuba uhambe naye, kuba wena umxholo wengxoxo ubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa i-MCH yakho ayifuni ukutshintsha imeko; wesithathu - ukuba uvumelane nendoda ukuba, ngokomzekelo, wenze oku kwaye oko, kwaye akenzi, okanye ngenye indlela. Khumbula ukuba indoda yintloko, kwaye umfazi intamo, ngoko ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ukwenza okokuqala ukuxolisa nokuxolisa kunokuzityhaphaza kwaye ukhuphazele.
Ukuba umntu uphukisa umfazi-ngubani omele abe ngowokuqala ukunyamezela? Kukho uluvo lokuba xa umntu ekhubekisa umfazi, ngoko akafanele abe ngowokuqala ukuba axolelane, kuba njengama-comrades okanye yena ngokwakhe unakho ukubheka ukuba yi-rag ne-henpecked. Ndifuna ukuphawula ngokukhawuleza ukuba le ngcamango ikhona phakathi kweentsapho ezikhuselekileyo zaseMpuma Ekude nakwiiThathu zehlabathi, okanye phakathi kwamadoda angakhuselekanga nakwiinkqubo ezikhuselekileyo zesikolo kunye nolutsha. Abantu abavuthiweyo, abaqinileyo nabanokuqiniseka abanomgangatho ohle kuluntu baye bahlala bebahlonela baze bahloniphe abafazi babo. Ngenxa yokuba aba bafazi bafana nabo bazincwane zabo, ngenxa yokuba, okokuba, amadoda, banento ethile okwangoku. Kwaye ukuba loo nto inento engalunganga, ikhubekise umnqweno wayo kwaye iyayiqonda, ngoko kufuneka ixolise. Ukuba umfana wakho uyesaba ukubonakala ebuthathaka, ebonisa intlonelo yowesifazane, ngoko kufuneka umcele ukuba abeke izinto eziphambili kwizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu - uluvo lwabanye abantu, okanye ulwalamano kunye nawe. Ukuba ukhetha owokuqala, ngoko kufuneka ucinge ngokubhekisele ukuba uyayithanda. Emva koko, ulwalamano lwakhiwe, okokuqala, ngokuhlonipha, kodwa kulo mzekelo aluvumba. Ukuba isiqingatha sakho sesibini sikhetha ukhetho lwesibini, ngoko uthetha naye ngendlela ayeza kuvakalelwa ngayo, yenza njalo nawe. Zama ukumchazela ukuba kufuneka uhlonelane kwaye ukwazi ukuqonda iimpazamo kwaye wenze ukunyaniseka. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba uxolisa kuwe xa kuyimfuneko, ngokokuqala, konke ukuhlonela kunye nentembelo kuye kuya kufaneleka, kwaye oku kubaluleke kakhulu kubantu. Kodwa, njengokuba uyazi, kule meko, ukwenzela ukuthetha ngale nto, kuya kufuneka uphakamise iiflegi ezimhlophe kuqala.
Ukuba umntu uphukise umfazi, kwaye umfazi uyindoda, kwaye akucaci ukuba ubani omele abe ngowokuqala ukunyamezela, mna ngokwayo ndilucebisa ukuba ndiqale ukuqonda ukuba yintoni umphumo ukuba amaqela afuna ukuyifumana. Emva kwakho konke, ukusuka nasiphi na ingxabano sifunda izifundo kunye nezigqibo. NJE! Ibhinqa ngamaxesha onke yayijongene noxolo nentuthuzelo endlwini. Ukuba ufuna ukufundisa kwakhona umntu wakho, menze abe "genie" wakho, enze nayiphi na iminqweno, ke apha unalo inhlanhla ngezizathu ezibini: kuqala - abantu abanako ukutshintshwa, umntu wakho sele usele njengomntu, kwaye unako, , ukulungisa ezinye zeempawu zayo ngenzuzo yakho, kodwa kungekhona ngeendlela eziqhelekileyo, kwaye akusoloko imisebenzi yakho izisa umphumo; okwesibini - emva kokuba sonke sithande abantu nje ngeempawu zabo ezilungileyo, kodwa nangenxa yokusilela kwabo, kwaye nokuba, mhlawumbi, ukuba uqhubeka ufundisa umntu, kwaye ukuzisa i-slippers kunye nekhofi ebhedeni ekuseni, kuza kube nini nwabisa? Okungenokwenzeka ukuba, "u-muzhchinka" othembekileyo uya kuphazamisa, akayi kwenza izigqibo zakhe, kwaye "kwindonga yamatye" yakho iya kuba yindalo efuna ukukhuselwa kwakho, kwaye uya kumshiya ufuna "indoda yangempela". Kodwa oku kuyingcamango kuphela. Khumbula nje ukuba oku kuxhomekeke kuwe kunokuba ucinga. Zama ukugcina ibhalansi kwibini, kwaye ngezinye ixesha kufuneka uzinyathele ngokwakho, kuba ulwalamano alukwakhiwe ngokuzingca. Bonke abafazi abaphumeleleyo bayavuma ukuba ngezinye iinkalo ebomini babo ubudlelwane babo babecala, bafanele banikele ukuze balondoloze oko banako. Yizilumko kwaye yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle.
Kwaye kuba kukho imeko enjalo, ukuba umntu wayetyala umfazi, ngoko umbuzo othi: "Ngubani na omele abe ngowokuqala ukunyamezela" akufanele nakanjani ahlale, ukuba kukho uthando luthando kunye nothando phakathi kwabo - kufuneka bahlangane kunye nokuzama ukulungisa zonke iimpikiswano zabo, nabani na wabo .