Okokuqala, qalisa ukuqonda bonke abantu njengabahlobo abangenako kwaye abangaphantsi. Musa ukulibala ukuba amadoda kufuneka ahlale ehlulwe ngamacandelo amabini. Umgaqo wokuqala kukuba abafana bayazi ukuba njani bahlobo kunye nentombazana, benze ubungani kwi-pedestal ehamba phambili yehlabathi. Ziyinyaniso zabasetyhini. Ngelishwa, amadoda anjalo ayaziwa njengezilwanyana ezisengozini kwaye adweliswe kwincwadi "ebomvu" yokunxibelelana kwabantu. Udidi lwesibini luyi-antipode epheleleyo kwiyokuqala. Lawa madoda ajonga intombazana kuphela njengezinto zesini, alahle yonke into eyenzeka ukuba ngumhlobo nje. Naluphi na kula mahlelo abantu abazungezwe ngabo, kumnxibelelwano wakho umgca kufuneka uqonde ngokucacileyo, ukuba awunabo bantu, kodwa ulingana. Oko kukuthi, abahlobo bakho besilisa kufuneka baqondwe kwinqanaba le-subconscious yakho, njengeentombi zakho. Ukuba phakathi kwabahlobo bamadoda kukho abo bafana nawe kwaye abafuni ukungaxhamli nabo, zama ukucacisa ukuba ngaphandle kohlobo ongeke unganike lona. Ndikholelwe, endikhathalele ngokwenene, uya kukuqonda. Kwaye ukugcina unxibelelwano lwakho luya kukuvumela ukuba uhambe kwaye ulungelelanise. Ukuba umntu ukholelwa enkolelweni yakhe, zama ukunciphisa ukuthetha kwakhe naye kunokwenzeka. Ungalibali into yokuba omnye wakho osanda kuwenza (kunye nakwemdala), obizwa ngokuba yi-guy-errands, angakwazi nganoma yimuphi umzuzu, avuke ngokunyaniseka ukuphumeza intliziyo yakho. Ngoko ke, kwinkampani yamadoda, ukuba akukho mthandana osondeleyo, thetha kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngaye, mxelele ngethuba elihle, indlela ohlala ngayo kunye, indlela oyithandayo ngayo kunye neemvakalelo ezivakalelwa ngayo, malunga nawe. Ngendlela, ngokukhethekileyo kwamanye amadoda, ukusuka kwimimiselo yokuziphatha yakho yemihla ngemihla, kanye kunye naso sonke isusa igama elingenacala njenge "flirtation." Ngaloo nto, le prank engenacala, inokuphula yonke intaba yemithi, kunye nemiphumo emibi kakhulu kuwe. Ndiyaqonda ukuba kunzima. Emva kwakho konke, sonke sidalwa sidalwa, ngokukodwa xa sikhathazeka ngesiqingatha sesilisa. Ngaloo nto sizama rhoqo ukuzingqina kwethu ukuphelela, ukuqala, ubuhle. Ukutya kwethu kunye nabameli bezesondo ezinamandla zaza zazalwa phambi kwethu. Kwaye ukuba uphelelwe ithuba lokuvavanya ukupela kwakho kwintsebenzo kuthi ulingana nelokuba unayo kwikhedidi yakho, umzekelo, izicathulo ezivela kwiqoqo lokugqibela lika "Calvin Klein", kwaye awukwazi ukuzihlanguza. Yaye unokwenza ntoni? Kunzima - kodwa kuyimfuneko. Ukudlala ngothando, mhlawumbi ukuba engekho kwicala lakho, esinye sezibonakaliso eziphambili, xa uphendula umbuzo wendlela yokunxibelelana namadoda, ukuba udibana nomfana.
Ungalokothi uqhagamshelane namadoda ungaguquli intonga, ingakumbi xa unamhlanje udibana nomntu onyanisekileyo kuwe. Ungavumi ukuba nethemba kunye nezithembiso ngegama elithi "mhlawumbi", "ngelinye ilanga", amadoda, njengokuba ayimangalisi, ukholelwa kuthi, kwaye nawaphi na amagama avela emlonyeni wethu abonwa njengento okanye ithemba kwikamva eliqaqambileyo ngokuthatha inxaxheba - ngoko ke uzame ukuthetha ngokungahambelani. Ukuba uyavuya ngokwenene kunye nekhwenkwe yakho kwaye ufuna ukuhlala naye "isabelo seengonyama" ebomini bakho, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, uyathemba kuye kwaye unamava nje. Ungalokothi ubambe umntu (malunga nokuba "malunga nesitokisi") - bhetele uvumeleke ukuhamba kuwo onke macala amane, ungathuthuli umntu. Emva kwayo yonke indawo, uncedo lwakhe oluya kuyo, oluya kudibana nalo. Ewe, kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, awuboni nayiphi na ikamva kunye nomntu wakho okhoyo, ngoko ke unamakhadi ngesandla.
Kulula ukuba ngabahlobo nabafana owaziyo ixesha elide kakhulu, unokukuxelela ukususela ebuntwaneni (abafundi ofunda nabo, abafundi kunye nabo, abafana abasuka egcekeni, ababizwa ngokuba ngabamelwane). Ubuhlobo obunjalo budlula "emlilweni nasemanzini". Aba bantu bakubonile ngokubuhlungu kunye novuyo. Ngoko ke, kwi-subconscious mind psychology, uqonda omnye nomnye njengoodadewethu. Akunakuba neengxaki, iinkalo, "ukuvakala". Nantsi inqanaba lobudlelwane bokomoya lulawula. Wena ungowabo kwaye zenzelwe wena, njengoko zifundwayo, ukusuka kwintsika yokukhupha, incwadi. Uyazi iziphene kunye neempawu ezilungileyo zomnye nomnye kwaye ke akukho nto entsha ngaphandle kobulumko obuvela kubantu abafanelekanga ukulinda. Kwakhona siyakwazi ukubhekisa abantu bethu bokuqala. Nangona kunjalo, kunqabile ukugcina ubuncinane uhlobo oluthile lolwalamano kunye nesoka lakho. Ewe, ukuba ukwenza oko, usenako ukunika (umnike isaphetha esiphantsi kum) ukhumbule, aba bantu ngawe baya kuhlala bengumhlobo ixesha elide kwaye kungekhona ukuba wena, uya kuba kuluhlu lwabamemelele umtshato wakhe, kwaye yena usekwakho.
Kodwa ihlabathi liyinkimbinkimbi, kwaye ngelishwa, kungekho nabo bonke abantu owake wakhankanya ibhola egcekeni njengomntwana, wabhala amanqaku kumathala eencwadi okanye uzama ukwakha ubudlelwane. Ngoko yenza abahlobo, kodwa yibona-yenza ngokucokisekileyo. Nangona, kukho esinye isibonakaliso sohlobo olukhuselekileyo. Fumana abahlobo kunye nabo, apho uqinisekile ukuba awunayo intombazana, kwaye akuthandi njengamadoda, kwaye umbuzo wokuba ubenze ngabahlobo uza kuziphelisa njani kwisigaba sokuqala. Okanye, emva koko, yenza ubungane namadoda afana naye, oko kukuthi, abanobunye obuqhelekileyo ubudlelwane, uthando kunye nokuxabisa isiqingatha sabo sesibini. Kule meko ungacinga ubuhlobo bakho njengobuhlobo bokwenene obuqinileyo. Kwaye awuyi kuthi, ngethuba lakho lengxoxo-ntetho, phawula ngaphezulu kweyodwa okanye enye yeentetho zakhe, uguqulwe entloko yakho: "Wayethetha ukuthini, kwaye uthetha ukuthini ngolo hlobo, kwaye akayithandi na into ethi ... ยป.
Kwakhona khumbula ukuba ukuba iqabane lakho likhwele kakhulu kwaye ukuthetha kwakho namanye amadoda akumniki uxolo, cinga ngalo, nokuba ngaba kulungile ukujonga kwakhona umonde womthandayo. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, qaphela into yokuba: "malunga nobuhlobo, phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, unokuthetha okuninzi, kwaye uxa unxiba ...". Ngamanye amaxesha iiminqweno zethu ezinqwenelekayo zinamandla ngakumbi kunezinto ezifana nobuhlobo nokunyaniseka.