Udibane naye - omhle, onesibindi, onobuqili, ngelizwi elinye elifanelekileyo (ubuncinane, ngoku ucinga njalo). Yaye intliziyo yakho ibetha ngokukhawuleza ukusuka kwingcinga nje. Ufuna ukuba sisondele kuye, kunxibelelana naye, ukuhamba, ukuhlala ubomi bakhe. Kodwa ngoku, ngelanga, awuqhelanga kwaye unako, ngokuzeleyo kwaye akakho konke osolayo malunga neemvakalelo zakho. Umbuzo wakho oyintloko kule meko, yintoni indlela uqala ngayo ingxoxo nomntu othandayo?
Khumbula, zonke iinkonzo ziqala ngolunye ucwangciso olucacileyo. Oku kukusekwa koqhagamshelwano (iibhloko zokuqala ukuqala incoko), intetho yakho (khumbula, awusoze ube nelithuba lesibini lokwenza umboniso wokuqala wendlela oza kuzibeka ngayo kuqala, ngoko uya kuqondwa). Oku kulandelayo, le ngongoma ngokwayo (izihloko zentshisekelo, imibuzo-iya kubonwa kwindlela yokunxibelelana) kwaye ngokukhawuleza incoko kufuneka ibe nefomu egcwalisiweyo kunye nezigqibo ezizimeleyo (ukusuka kumacala omabini) kunye nezicwangciso zokuphuhliswa komsebenzi wonxibelelwano (ukutshintshana kweenombolo zefowuni, intlanganiso elandelayo). Abaninzi bethu, ngokungafani nokuba kubonakala ngathi, banqikaza kakhulu, bafike baze bafunde okokuqala ngento yabo yokudumisa. Ngako oko, amantombazana amaninzi awanakho ukuqonda indlela yokuqalisa incoko nomfana omthandayo.
Kukho konke okokuqala, ngenxa yeemvakalelo zakho, amava kunye nesimo sakho sengqondo esiphezulu ngokubhekiselele kulo mntu. Sitshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kuye. Okwangoku, lo mfana ubonakala kuwe uphakanyisiwe, ungenakufumana kwaye ngoko ke, intombazana eqhelekileyo, uyesaba ukuza ukudibana. Uloyikeka ngumgama ongokomzwelo phakathi kwakho. Kule meko, kuyimfuneko ukunciphisa lo mda kwi-subconscious yakho. Beka lo mntu kwinqanaba nawe, ziqinisekise ukuba "ufana nawe". Kwaye oku kufuneka uhlawule ukubaluleka kwayo, ukubonakalisa ngokuhlukileyo, kwimibala ethile yengqondo yakho. Emva kokuba uqaphela oku, awuyi kubuya ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukwenza isinyathelo sokuqala kwaye uqhelane nayo kuya kuba lula kuwe.
Kwaye oku kwazi kakuhle. Unqobile uloyiko lwakho, uhlazo, ukuqhosha waza waya kuye kuqala. Ekuqaleni, kule ngxaki, khetha ixesha elifanelekileyo, ukuba loo mntu akayi kukhawuleza naphi na, akazange alindele nabani na, kodwa wayekho e-flight free. Ngokomzekelo, funda kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngaye, iimfuno zakhe, indawo yokuphumla. Ukufunda oku kuwe kunye nawo onke amakhadi ngesandla. Indawo yakhe yokuphumla ifanelekile ukuba ufunde okokuqala. Kwenzeka njani, uqale intetho ngokwayo? Musa ukulibala ukuba abafana baninzi banokukwazi ukuthetha ngesini esahlukileyo kunamantombazana, ngoko akuyimfuneko ukuvelisa nantoni na engaphezulu. Qala ngebakala eliqhelekileyo: "u-hello", uze uhlekise okanye ufike ngento ethile yangaphambili eya kumdla. Kungcono ukuba umfana acele umbuzo, kwaye enye ayikwazi ukuphendulwa kwelinye igama. Ewe, into efanelekileyo, ukuba le nto iya kuhambelana nomzuzu okanye indawo apho kwenzeka khona yonke into. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukumomotheka - into ebalulekileyo yentombazana ekukhohliseni isondo esinamandla. Ukuba kufanelekile, ngethuba le ngxoxo, unokwenza loo ndoda iincoma. Bonke abantu bathanda ukuthetha ngabo (ngakumbi abafana). Yenza umdla kwizinto ezithandwayo, izinto ezithandwayo, izinto ezithandayo. Eziqhelekileyo, nangona zincinci, izihloko zihlala zikunceda. Ukwenza kube lula kumntu ukuba azityhile, unokuxelela, umzekelo, uhlobo lomculo oyithandayo, uze ubuze malunga nokukhetha kwakhe. Buza indlela athanda ngayo ukuphumla. Yiyiphi indawo kuloo mzi inithanda kakhulu. Thetha malunga nento ejikeleze kuwe, kwaye izihloko ziya kuzifumana kwaye uya kuzisa ngokukhawuleza indlela intetho yakho iza kuqala ngayo. Ukuba ulahlekelwe ngokupheleleyo kwaye ungayazi into ongayithethayo, mbuze ngento ethile ngaphandle kokuqhelekileyo kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla (ungafunda malunga nefilimu okanye ifilimu yokugqibela yokuzonwabisa), ukusuka kwimpendulo yakhe fumana iinkcukacha kwaye ucele malunga nayo. Nasi isihloko kwisihloko sakho sokuqala. Ndiyicinga, ngoko intetho yakho iya kudlula kwimida yakhe. Nantsi into ephambili kukubonisa indlela ekunyamekeleni nokubulela umphulaphuli, ngubani owaziyo ukulinganisa ngoluvo lwakhe. Ngendlela, akusikho into ekhumbuzayo ukuba ukuziphatha kwendibano yinkalo yabadibanisi ababini. Ngoko ungazami ukubonisa amandla akho. Ukubiza amantombazana - phulaphula kwaye ungancinci ukuphazamisa umfana.
Into eninzi kunye nolwazi oluya kuba yinto enakho yokwenza okokuqala ukucinga. Kuya kuxhomekeka kumnqweno wakhe wokuzi kakuhle. Kodwa ke, ungakulibali, uyintombazana kwaye kufuneka uhlale ucinga, ungazivuli ipesenti ezilikhulu. Abafana bathanda amantombazana - iipuzzle kwaye bahlala befuna ukwazi kubo ngokusemandleni abo. Ngendlela, ngokumkholisa, uya kukwazi ukulawula ulwalamano lwakho ngokwakho njengoko ufuna yona. Ukuphuhliswa okuqhubekayo kwimbali yakho "ngokubambisana" kunye nokuvusa ngokukhawuleza, ukususela ekuthintweni kwakho kokuqala, emva koko umthandi wakho uya kuzigqibazela ngokwakhe, luhlobo luni lolwalamano onokuthandayo nawe. Ngoko ke, faka yonke into enomtsalane, ingqondo, uhlaziyilo, ubuchule kunye nekhontrakthi, ukuze okhethiweyo wakho unomdla kuwe. Ukongezelela, ngokoqobo ukusuka kumntu wokuqala wokuthandana kufuneka ukuba wazi ngokuchanekileyo (kwaye ungacingi), yintoni indima kulo mhlobo owamnika wona. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukukhala ngokucacileyo malunga neemvakalelo zabo akunjalo, kodwa ukutyhola ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuyinto enye.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, ndifuna ukuthetha, nguwe oyisunguli - wena nokwakha. Yaye uzame ukuba ngumvelo, uthembeke, ujabule. Yiba nalo mfana othanda kakhulu. Yenza okokuba ngexesha lokuthandana nomfana kunye nawe uziva ukhululekile kwaye ucolile. Zibonise ngokusemandleni akho, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana umfana othandayo.