Akunakwenzeka ukuba kukho ibhinqa elingamangaleli umyeni wakhe ngokuba livila. Akunakwenzeka ukuba kuya kuba nomntu ongeke athukuthele: "Akwanele kuye ...". Kutheni ukungaqondi kakuhle kuvela phakathi kwethu? Yaye indlela yokusebenza xa indoda ithe ithetha njalo, kodwa ingenzi nto?
Ukususela ebomini be-sprinters
Ngaba kuye kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bakho: wena nomyeni wakho bachitha ukusa emakethe, kwivenkile, okanye bahamba uhambo olude. Kodwa xa efika ekhaya, ulala phantsi kwesofa, kwaye uye ekhitshini ukupheka isidlo sakusihlwa. Kutheni? Ngaba awukhatywanga ngokulinganayo? Hayi, wayekhathele ngakumbi. Inyaniso kukuba xa siqhathanisa nabagijimi, loo ndoda iyisiprinta, kwaye umfazi ungumhlali. Sinobuchule. Amadoda anamandla angaphezulu okuqala, kodwa akukho zikhusela abafazi abazigcina ngenxa yeendye kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zomzimba.
Ngoko ke, ukuba indoda ibuya ekhaya isuka emsebenzini kwaye ilala ngokulala kwinqongqelo, mhlawumbi iyakhathala kakhulu, ilele apho ize iphumelele. Ewe, maye aphumle ...
Le nkwenkwana
Ngeveki-ntsuku, ujikezela indlu njengesikwele evili, kunye "nokuphumla" kwakho okuthembekileyo. Izicelo zakho ezinqamlezileyo: "Phuma ibhakethi!" "Hamba kwivenkile ukhilimu omuncu!" "Velisa indlu!" - xhoma emoyeni.
Ifama yintsimi, ngokomthetho, umfazi. Futhi basebenzisa indoda kuphela njengomncedisi, inkwenkwe ebalekeleyo. Ewe, yiyiphi intloko yentsapho iya kuvuma indima engaziwayo?
Kungcono, ukuba umyeni uyazi ngokucacileyo imisebenzi yakhe ekhaya. Maye badibaniswe neteknoloji: kulula ukuba ahambe ngeenxa zonke ngefestile yokucoca kunokuba asuse uthuli ezintweni ezincinci ngendwangu.
Bonela
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abasetyhini bayamangalela abantu bobuvila xa bezisa imali enganeleyo kwindlu: "Endaweni yokucela umphathi ukuba afune umsebenzi owongezelelweyo - uhlala esithi yonke into iya kulungile, kodwa akenzi nto ..." Ukuba Kwintsapho kukho ingxaki enjalo, cinga: ingabe umyeni wakho ufuna ukufumana ngaphezulu?
EmaMerika kukho inkcazo "yethambo lesahla": ngaba ngabantu abangasoze baphoqeleka ukuba "bathabathe" iimeko ezimbi zobomi. Mhlawumbi umyeni wakho ungomnye wabo? Mhlawumbi unelisekile ngomgangatho wokuphila onentsapho yakhe? Kwaye ke akunakwenzeka ukuba umqinisekise ukuba "kungcono ukuzityebi kunye nempilo".
Kodwa mhlawumbi umyeni wakho akasenaso isikhuthazo sokufumana imali? Mhlawumbi yonke imali azisa yona, uchitha kwiingubo okanye ifenitshala ekhaya - apho engathandanga ngokupheleleyo? Kwaye nawe uyazi indlela yokubonisa uvuyo lwakho ekuthengeni ...
Ngaphambi kokuba ubuze umyeni wakho ukuba athathe imali engakumbi, cinga ngendlela ongamthabatha ngayo kule nto. Mhlawumbi amaphupha eholide elwandle? Okanye e-dacha apho uya kuba yinkosi? Emva koko makenze okuthile kulo. Emva koko, xa esetyenziselwa umgangatho ophezulu wokuphila, uthengela into oyifunayo. Yaye ungamlibali, xa indoda izisa imali, imbuyisele ngokubulela kwayo.
"Khupha umthi weKrismesi!"
Kukho i-anecdote endala: indoda ibukele umboniso weMeyi kwiTV, kwaye umfazi "uyayicima" kufuphi: "Khupha umthi weKrismesi! Yizisa umthi weKrisimesi! "Ininzi into yokuba, aba babini babenomzimba. Ngaphandle koko, akunakwenzeka ukuba indoda ibe zinyanga ezine iyakunyamezela ngokukhawuleza iifowuni zakhe. Kwaye ukuba umfazi wakhe wayengumtya okanye i-choleric, wayeza kubabulala umntu ongekho.
Xa udibaniso lwezithako ezichaseneyo, ukutyholwa kwamacala omabini omabili akuphepheki. Umfazi osebenzayo yonke ixesha kubonakala ngathi umyeni wakhe onobuhle unesilonda kakhulu ukwenza nantoni na. Kwaye ulungelelanise: ngaphambi kokuba enze into ethile, kufuneka enze le ntshukumo engqondweni yakhe, cinga ukuba kungenzeka ukuba ngandlela-thile ugweme ikhomishoni, ulinganise zonke iingxaki. Kodwa ukuba i-phlegmatic isabela kwisicelo sokumba umyezo, uya kutshiza yonke indawo.
Ukuba umyeni wakho "uyaphumelela", musa ukumcela ukuba angene kwaye agijime ukuze enze isabelo sakho. Kuye kugxininisa. Ukuba indoda ihlala ithetha, kodwa ingenzi nto ukuzama ukuyiqonda - oku kuya kukhokelela ngokukhawuleza ukuwa kweentsapho. Mnike ixesha lokuba afunde ukucela, ufunde, uhambelane naye.
"Ukutshutshisa umama!"
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba imfuno zakho ziphi, loo mntu akayi kuzalisekisa, ukuba zichazwe ngetoni ehlelekile. Ngaloo mzuzu akayikuyiqonda loo mazwi, uva nje ngcikivo, uvakalelwa kukuba akathandi kwaye akayithandi. Futhi ngokuzenzekelayo wenqaba ukwenza into oyicelayo. Le yindlela yokusabela kwentombazana: xa undifundisa ngakumbi, kubi kakhulu ndiya kuziphatha. Kuwe ukuba uphose! Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi abanjalo ngokuqhelekileyo baziphatha kakubi ngamadoda: o, undisela, ufundisa ubomi, kodwa ke ndiyaneliseka ukuba unzima "mama"!
Buza umyeni wakho ngoncedo ngokufutshane kwaye ngokukhawuleza, bonisa ukuphikelela okufanelekileyo, kodwa ungabi ngumlawuli, owenza imiyalelo ngaphandle kokuqiqa. Kwanjalo nezinto ezincinci umntu ayenzela zona, musa ukuthatha ngokungathandekiyo, mbulela njalo. Kwaye mhlawumbi ngoko uya kuba nomnqweno wokwenza into engakumbi kuwe.