Kubonakala ukuba indoda ayidingi into ekuqokeleleni izinto ize ikhuphuke kanye kunye. Ukuba ufuna ukulahla indoda yakho ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngaphandle komgudu omkhulu, qaphela nje ukuhamba kwabo besilisa.
1) Shintsha isitayela.
Udibene naye, kwaye wabona kuwe intombazana enothando, ibhinqa eliqingqiweyo okanye into engathandekiyo? Tsitshintsha nje indlela oziphatha ngayo, uvumele ukuhamba kwakho okuchasayo. Into ephambili ayikuthi ichaze izizathu zolu tshintsho kwaye ungayi kubuya emfanekisweni kwisinyathelo esinye.
2) Yeka ukumamela. Ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuphazamisa amabali akhe malunga nebhola ngeentetho ngokubhekiselele kwintengiso, unqamle ulwazi oludlulileyo olubhaliweyo, alubizayo, luboniswe ngethuba lokuthetha kwakho.
3) Fundisa ubomi bakhe. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba amadoda ahlanzekileyo abantwana. Umfanekiso womama ohlakaniphileyo, owaziyo, ohlala eyazi kakuhle ukuba umbala ihembe liza kubhekana nani, oko kwakubalulekile ukuxelela umphathi kunye nokuba kutheni ikhompyutheni yaphuka, yindlela efanelekileyo yokuphazamisa indoda evela ekhaya.
4) Ukukhala. Ukuba ubuye uvumelekile ukuba udibezele ngelixa ukhangele iifilimi ezithandekayo, ngoku ke kufuneka kubekho umkhukula wangempela. Bhala kunye nangaphandle, ixesha elide kunye nevakalelo. Ukuba ekuqaleni amadoda aphuthuma ukukrazula iinyembezi zomthandi, emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa zobuncwane obunjalo, abayi kufuna ukusondela nakwiiNesmeyans.
5) Khawucaphuke. Ngaba wayedlule imizuzu emihlanu? Ukhohliwe ukubiza? Waphinde waxhoma kwi khomputha? Ngaba ukhangele ukubuza kwindlela yakho? Awuzange uqaphele umuthi omtsha? Unezigidi zeendlela ezifanelekileyo zokukhubeka. Makhe azive enetyala ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
6) Yenza i-scandals. Indlu yindawo elithulileyo apho umntu ephumla khona - yiloo nto ayithethayo. Ewe, lixesha leemvula neziphepho. Ungabi namahloni kumazwi, musa ukuzisola ngamacangci, kwaye ungayi kulawuli umthamo wokukhala. Ekhanyayo kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ama-scandals, umntu osheshayo uya kwenza iinyawo zakhe.
7) Yiba nomona. Umona kuye unina kunye nabahlobo bakhe asebekhulile, kumthengisi kwi-stall, kubo bonke asebenza nabo, kubahlobo bakhe, kubahlobo kunye nabangamaziyo kwintombazana yanoma yiphi ubudala. Hlela uhlolo, tshilela ukuba amaxesha ambalwa wabiza uDasha, ubhekiselele ngokubonakalayo kwifowuni yakhe. Oku kuya kumnceda ukuba akhethe ngokukhawuleza ukhetho lwendawo entsha yokuhlala.
8) Vri. I-Vry iphakathi, i-brazen, inkulu kunye encinci. Ekuqaleni uya kuba yilahleko, ngoko uya kucinga, kwaye iimbilini zakhe ziya kuguqulwa, kwaye uya kukhululeka.
9) Thatha udoti. Akunjalo kuphela oqokelela kwiiphakheji, kodwa enye egcina imfihlo kubo bonke. Xelela iinkcukacha ezithandekayo zobomi bakho obusondeleyo kubo bonke abakukulungele ukuphulaphula: kunina, abahlobo, oogxa. Vumela wonke umntu ukuba aziphi na izihlandlo azinako, ukuba ulele ebhere i-teddy kwaye akhala xa ebheka kwi-Titanic. Nokuba ukuba akunjalo.
10) Yenza umtshato. Ubuncinane becinga. Zama nje ukuba le nto ifunde ngendoda yakho. Yenza nje ukukhetha kungekhona kuye, akayi kushiya nto, indlela yokuhamba ngayo.
Zonke ezi ndlela zifanelekileyo, ukuba awufuni nje ukumxelela ukuba ubuhlobo bakho abukho ithemba kwaye akukho lizayo. Ukuba uzibonele kwezinye zezi "bhunga ezinobungozi", ngoko sele uyayazi impendulo yombuzo, apho abantu balala khona ebomini bakho.
Kuye kwenzeka ukuba amadoda, kungekhona anamafutha amaninzi, awayithandi izinto ezifanayo eziye zazingeniswa. Kwanele ukuba ube ngokwakho, kodwa ungavumeli ukuhlambalaza, ubuxoki, ukukopela kunye nezenzo ezingenangqiqo, ukuze umntu athethelele bonke abanye ixesha elide.
Ukuba unqumle ukulahla isithandwa esithandekayo ngendlela ethile eyinkimbinkimbi, khusela le mithetho ngokukhuselekileyo, kwaye uqeqesho lwakho luza kukhawuleza lube nesithsaba.