Ukusekwa kwendoda
Ekuqaleni kokuthandana, ubukho bokuba "isiqalo" sokuqala kumntu, njengento yokuzilibazisa, soloko kumnika umdla kumfazi. U-Avot sele eqalise ulwalamano naye, umfazi uhlala efuna ukuba yonke into enomdla ukugxila kuye yodwa.
Kodwa awuzange uhlangane kunye na? Nangona sele sele i-tama yomntwana ngamnye, kukho isangqa esithile sabangane kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa. Yingakho kufuneka uhloniphe ilungelo lomkhethiweyo wakho ukuxabisa nokulungisa umzondo wakho, apho "utyhila" ixesha elide kunako. Izenzo zakhe zokuzonwabisa ziyinxalenye yehlabathi elingaphakathi, apho uthabatha amanyathelo okuqala.
Ewe, unokuqala ukulwa kwaye uphumelele, umzekelo, ngexesha lokuphela kweveki uLisa, uMaria Presley wakwazi ukukholisa umlingane wakhe uNichols Cage ukuba athengise ukuqokelela iincwadi zee-comic ayeziqokelele ukususela ebuntwaneni kwaye ngoku uyazisola kakhulu.
Ngokombono weengqondo zengqondo, kuyaqhelekile ukuba uthathe isahlulo njengengeniso yemvelo yaloo mfazwe: kuba amadoda, ubukho bezinto zokuzilibazisa kubaluleke kakhulu. Kukho imbono echaza ukuba isiphumo somntu sithathwa ngokuba "ukugqithisa ngokungenakuze kwenzeka": ukuphuhliswa kweentlobo zemisebenzi emitsha, ukubanjwa kwemimandla emitsha, ukunqoba kwabantu. Ubunono kunye nobungozi - enye into ebomini yendoda.
Oku kungenziwa njani kwihlabathi lanamhlanje? Ngako-ke uye waya kuthi abathembekileyo bethu bazikhethele "izinto ezingabonakaliyo" ngezinto zokuzilibazisa, ngoncedo lwazo azama ukuphumeza izinto ezingabonakaliyo zokuzimela kwabantu.
Oku kukuchaphazela njani uthando? Akukho nto! Kanti ukuzilibazisa kunokusindisa umntu ukusuka kwezinye iindlela eziyingozi ukuze ahluke ubomi. Ngoko ke, mayeke okulungileyo ukuqokelela izitampu, kunokuba emva kokuya kwibharha "ukunqoba izizwe". Ngaphezu koko, ihlabathi lezinto zokuzilibazisa zifana kakhulu.
Ukuzilibazisa kokuqokelela
Iibhentshi zebhiya, amabheji, iilebhile, i-trinkets, iileyile zamanzi, hayi, okhethiweyo wakho akahlupheki kleptomania, nje ngokuba "hamster" ufuna ukuqokelela ukuqokelela.
Yintoni ekumisa ? Kuchavsheskoj nonsense endlini. Ukutyelela rhoqo abantu abangaziwayo abaza kuthenga, bajonge, batshintshisane okanye bathengise. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, le nto yokuzonwabisa iyona "penny" enkulu.
Ukukhangela ukusuka kwicala . Nantoni na "inhlangano epheleleyo" ngexesha eliya kuba nako ukufumana ixabiso elixabisekileyo. Zonke izakhi zangaphambili zeqoqo zingasetyenziswe njengemihlobiso yangaphakathi. Ngendlela, abaqokeleli ngokwabo banomdla kakhulu ukuthetha nabo.
Umdlalo we "Classic"
"I-Fanatism" yokuzingela, ukuloba, iimoto, uhlobo oluthile lwemidlalo-ngamanye amazwi, izinto zokuzilibazisa azikho nto ezahlukileyo kwimilinganiselo.
Yintoni ekumisa ? Ixesha elifutshane, amaqabunga ahlalayo ezindongeni zendabuko. Ngokomzekelo, ngomnye umgqibelo oMgqibelo, bamnika ukuba angaphumi embhedeni yonke imini, kodwa wathi: "Kufuneka ukuba ndihambe ngokuloba! Ndikhumbula abantu! ". Ngokukhawuleza babuthana, bememeza, bafika kwindawo eya kuyo. Kwaye kunjalo njalo ...
Khangela ukusuka kwicala. Vumelana, ngaba unayo ikhethikazi yakho "yeklasikhi" yokuzilibazisa? Akunakukhathazeka. Kodwa ukuba usondela kwishishini lokuzikhethela ngokukhethekileyo, ukungabikho komntu onokubambisana kunokuhlawulelana ngokupheleleyo - ukunyuka kwimicimbi yezemidlalo - ukuqina, ukuzingela - ukuthenga, ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo, i-hen party, ukumba ngemigaqo ye-SPA. Yaye yintoni ingxaki apha?
I-"Social" yokuzonwabisa
"Iinjwila" zanamhlanje zakha iinqwelo zabo kwaye zibonakalisa ngokuzenzekelayo kwii-tournaments, kodwa ama-flash mobs abanomdla omkhulu ngesinyathelo isicwangciso sezenzo zabo.
Yintoni ekumisa ? Abaxhamli be-"intlalo" yokuzilibazisa bahlala befuna "abafundi" kunye "nabalandeli". Ngenxa yesi sizathu, uya kumenywa ngamandla ukuba ujoyine ezi zikhundla.
Ukhangelelwano oluvela kwicala . Ukuba ulwabelana nesoka lakho, umdlalo wakhe ongaqhelekanga unokuba ngowakho. Kwaye ukuba iingcamango zomntu wakho othandekayo azikukhuthazi nonke, kufuneka uzilungiselele ukuba kungekudala emva koko ulwalamano luya kufika kwinqanaba lokugqibela.
I-Adrenaline yokuzonwabisa
Abalandeli beKarting, i-speleologists, abagibeli kunye nabo bonke abanye abameli beqhinga kakhulu banesibindi, bathandana, kodwa bathanda ukuhlala kunye nexesha elide bashiye ikhaya labo.
Yintoni ekumisa ? a) ukungabikho komntu omthandayo kunye nokude; b) ubukho bokuba "abathokozeli" kunye "namaqabane" ngokunyuka, njl.; c) ubuhle bokulimala kwamazinga ahlukeneyo obunzima.
Ukhangelelwano oluvela kwicala. Lo mneneli uyifumana ngokwenene kwiintombi zakhe; Kodwa ukungafiki ixesha elide lomnxeba kungasetyenziselwa inzuzo ngokwakho nangomzimba wakho okanye ube njengezifundo ezithile. I-Factor "b" ingathatyathwa ngokuhambelana nesikhumulo sezindiza esizithandayo kunye nokubamba okutshitshisiweyo kwaye ngokusoloko kumxhasa ngokubukeka ngothando.
Ukuzilibazisa
Iimpawu ze-Gluing zeemoto, ii-airplan, ukuzingela iifoto, iintyatyambo ezizalisayo, intlanzi ye-aquarium, njl njl. Ngexesha lokuzimela kunye nokuzonwabisa kwakhe ufumana ukuphumla kwengqondo.
Yintoni ekumisa ? Kuzo zonke iindlela ezinokuthi uzivimbele "ukungena kwilizwe lakhe". Oku kubangela ukuba uziva ushiyiwe kwaye ushiywe.
Kukhangeleka ukusuka kwicala. Nabani na onelungelo lokuphumla kwakho! Kwaye kunjalo! Ngendlela, ngelinye ilanga elihle, umdlalo wakhe ungaguqulela umcimbi wobomi, uvelise imali engenayo yokufumana imali.
Ukuzonwabisa kwikhompyutha
Ngokwezengqondo zengqondo, kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba ihlabathi elibonakalayo liguqule uninzi lwezinto zokuzibandakanya kwindoda ebomini, ngokusukela ekubeni unxanelwe umngcipheko wokwakha. Kwaye malunga nabadlali be-computer, aba bengqondo abanentlangano engqondweni.
Yintoni ekumisa ? Ukuba ungekho "ubungane" kunye nekhompyutheni, iqela lakho elibonakalayo liza kubonakala lifana "nesitshixo esimnyama" esesabekayo nesingummangaliso, apho ubusuku bakho abakhethiweyo buya khona.
Isisombululo sisezantsi. Isisombululo silula: ungesabi ukubonisa umdla wakho kwikhompyutha yakhe yokuzonwabisa - ngokuzibandakanya ngokuzikhuselekileyo ukuzonwabisa kwakhe, hamba kunye nemidlalo yakhe yokubamba, utshintshe ulwazi olunomdla kwiindawo, njl. Ndikholelwe, ukuba "ngumsebenzisi ophezulu" akukona nje umdla, kodwa uncedo kuwe.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ukukhanga okungenakunqwenelekayo kwekhwenkwe yakho inokuzalisekisa umsebenzi obalulekileyo: uya kukunyamezela "ubuhlanya" bakho. Yaye iindlela zakho zokuphumla kuye aziyi kubangela ukungqubuzana nokugwetywa. Yaye xa ufuna imali yabantwana bakho, uya kuhlala uxabana kakhulu - inani lezero (kunye nango-approximate) ukuba intanda yakho isetyenziswe kwixesha lakho lokuzilibazisa.