Ukungakwazi ukuthetha ngexesha akudalanga udumo njengowesifazane obuthathaka, kwaye xa ukugatya kunobudlova, usenokufumana iingxaki ezimbalwa. Ukukhanyeka okulungileyo kukubeka intombazana emehlweni omfana isinyathelo esiphezulu. Ingenza ndizibheke njengomntu onemibono kufuneka imbeko ihlonishwe.
Singawugcina njani lo mgca ococekileyo phakathi kokungahoywa okuvezwa ngokucacileyo ekukhanyeleni kwendoda, kunye neengxoxo ezinobuhlobo ezinokuthandabuza ukuba umceli-nkonzo wakhe ukuba isisombululo sakhe esincinci asikufanelekanga. Ngendlela yokukhetha ithuba elilula ukuyifumana. Nangona kunjalo, akufanele uyisebenzise ukuba ngaba udidi ngokungahambisani nokudlala ngothando. Ngaphandle koko, uya kuqwalaselwa ubuncinane ubuqhetseba. Umfana unako ukuqhubeka. Kuninzi kuxhomekeka kwiimeko eziphambili. Kule ntombazana qaphela kwaye ungazenzeki kwindawo engakhululekiyo xa ufanele ukhanye umntu.
Ukucebisa ukuba umntu abe ngabahlobo kuthetha ukuyeka ithemba ngaphandle kokuthembisa nantoni na. Unokuthi nje utshele umntu ngaye, unobulungisa kangakanani, yintoni umhlobo omkhulu, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo nje ngumntu omangalisayo kuzo zonke iziganeko. Ngexesha elifanayo ukulila malunga nokusabalalisa kwexesha elibi eliyingozi, ilungiselelwe ukuba ungeke ulawule intliziyo yakho. Kodwa akwanele yini imeko yokuphuma?
Into ephambili kukuba uhlale uxolo kwaye uhlonipheke. Emva koko ukuzithemba kwakho kuya kuba yingxabano engaqinisekanga. Ukhohlise, zama abo bantu ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba bakholelwe oko utshoyo. Kwaye ke ukuthanda kwakho akuyi kwamkeleka.
Yintoni eyenza ukuba intombazana ithi ayikho? Andiyithandi, ukungabi nabubele okanye izigqibo ezikhawulezayo ngomntu. Ukuthi indoda enhle ayibalulekanga ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye imfuneko nje xa iqabane, libi kunomphathi, inkwenkwe yomhlobo, njl njl.
Indlela yokwenza Kukho iincwadi zezifundo ezinjengokuthi "Ubugcisa Bokuphikisana" zichaza yonke into kwiipulo zipeyinti njenge-alfabhethi, ziya kusebenza kuphela. Enyanisweni - kulula kakhulu kunokuba ibonakale ekubonweni kokuqala, ngoko ke zonke iintombazana zifuna ukuzonwabisa ngokufunda iincwadi ezimbalwa zezi zifundo.
Ukuba lixesha kwaye lihle ukuba lingathethi ngokukhawuleza kungekudala uya kuxelelwa. Mhlawumbi akufanele uzame ukuphela?
Hlala uluntu, uzinzile kwaye uzilungele ngokupheleleyo kwaye uya kuhlala ukhululekile. Inkululeko yokuzikhethela wena, ngelixa ungalaleli abanye. Inkululeko yokuhlala ngokwakho, kunye nezicwangciso zakho zexesha lakho. Kakade akufanele ulibale ngokuphathelele ubunzima bemilingo.
Ungalokothi ulahlekelwe yimvakalelo, lo ngumncedisi ongcono kunazo zonke kwiimeko ezinzima. Ngendlela yokuhlambalaza njengeflegi, yonke into inokuyenza ngokungahlawulwanga. Kunzima ukucaphuka ukuba imeko iya kukuvuyisa. Impendulo eqondileyo neyovuyokileyo izixhobo ezingavumelekiyo. Ukuba loo mntu uhlala ephikelela ukungafanelekanga, ke akusiyo isono kwaye ukhalime ngokwaneleyo ukumbeka endaweni. Napha, kwakhona, i-wits yakho ikunceda. Ukushiya ulwalamano oluhle okanye ulwalamano olwenelisayo aluvumelekile, uxolo olubi lungcono kunokuxabana.
Amantombazana ayazi kakuhle kwinqanaba elinobuchule kunye nabo kunye nendlela engcono yokuyenza. Kule nto, kwaye njengabantwana, ngovelwano. Enye into kukuba intombazana kufuneka inakekele kakuhle indlela yokuthi hayi, ingaba yinto enhle, yintoni loo mntu uThixo ayengafuni ukuyenza ukuba ayicaphukise abantu abangabaziyo. Oku kuyinyani, isantya