Okokuqala, khumbula, igama: "Ndiminyaka eli-17 ubudala, ndifuna ukufumana umntu," yinto engalunganga. Abafana abalahlekanga iitshixo, abayifuni kwaye bawina. Ngendlela, abahlobo babo abababethi, kwaye abazange bazigcine ngeendlela zonke.
Ulutsha lufanele ubenomdla kuwe, thandana uze uwele ezinyaweni zakho, utyunjwe. Kodwa indlela yokufezekisa oku, unokufunda kweli nqaku.
Zininzi iindlela zokwenza umdla kumntu. Kodwa ngenxa yoko kufuneka ube ngumfazi wangempela. Uthakazeliso lwethu, ukuzithemba, ubuhle, ingqondo kunye nolwasemzini yizixhobo onokuphumelela ngazo. Ngaphandle kwakhe, le ntombazana ayiyi kuba yintombazana yangempela, leyo loo mfana ufuna ukukunqula nokuqhuba ngezandla.
Ngoko, ukuba ube njalo, ungalokothi uzitsho, nangona kunjalo, phambi kobulili obuqinileyo. Indoda idinga intombi ekholelwa kuye kwaye iyakuthanda.
Ngoko ke, ukuma kusasa kwisibuko, khumbuze ukuba nguwe owona mhle kwaye ufanelekile kuphela ubuhle. Musa ukuzama ukufumana iphoso kuwe kwaye ukhale phezu kwabo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukugxeka okulungileyo, kodwa kungekhona xa kungena kwi-flagellation. Awukwazi ukuzimela kwaye uzimelele, kodwa ukuba uzihlazise emehlweni abanye akunjalo. Ukuba uyazi malunga neziphene - zithathe kwaye ucinge ngendlela yokufihla, okanye uguquke zibe izidima. Umfazi ngamnye unento yakhe, kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu owaziyo ukuyivula kwaye ayifake ngokufanelekileyo. Cinga ngokucophelela oko abantu abathanda kuwe, kunokuba wazi ukuba ungayifumana njani kwaye uzenzele. Oku kukufuneka kube yinto yakho ephambili. Hlakulela uthando lokuzihlonela. Ungaze uvumele abanye bahlazise kwaye ungazithobeli. Kodwa ke, khumbula: ukuba umntu unako ukucaphukisa umfazi, ukunyathela isidima sakhe nokuhleka - lo akuyindoda. Ingumntwana onobunzima, obunzima, obunqabileyo, ozibhokoxa ngokwakhe ngeendleko zabo abo abanokwazi ukunikela utshintsho. Ngaphambi kokuba abantu abanjalo ungeke uqhube kwaye ubonise ukwesaba. Kufuneka uzinyamekise kwaye ubonise ukuba awukhathalele ukuba uyicinga nje ngeyona nto. Ukuba ukholwa kulo, baya kuziva amandla akho kwaye abayi kuvumela ukuba bathethe into kwidilesi yakho. Ungaze uvumele umntu ahlakulele izicwangciso ezikuyo, abhubhise ubufazi aze abulale umntu. Amadoda okwenene abathanda abafazi abomeleleyo nabazithembayo. Yiba njalo kwaye uza kuvula indlela eya ngqo kwimpumelelo.
Kubonakala kubalulekile kubantu abatsha. Kodwa ukuba uzibona kuwe ukungalungi, ungahambi ngokukhawuleza kwi-monasteri. Ngabo unokulwa noloncedo lwezonyiso, izambatho, ukuqina, iimpawu kunye nezindlela zokuhamba. Into ephambili ngumnqweno nokunyamezela. Ungathemba ukuba yonke into iya kutshintsha ngomtshini wendoda yomlingo. Kukho abancinci abasetyhini kwihlabathi abanomgangatho wendalo. Bonke abanye kufuneka bahlale bebenza njalo. Kodwa akukho nto ihlazo kulo, kuba singabesifazana ukuba siqhayise, sisebenze, slender and well-groomed. Kakade, ukunyathela kufuneka kungabi. Sidinga ukuvavanya ngokwaneleyo amandla abo nokusebenzisa yonke into ngokuhlakanipha. Ukuba uziqhubela kwi-anorexia, okanye uchitha yonke i-scholarship kumarcara enye - akukho mntu uya kuwuxabisa. Into ephambili isoloko ifanele ibe yimilo kwaye ikwazi ukwenza i-candy ngaphandle. Izinto ezithakazelisayo zingathengwa ngesandla sesibini, kwaye ukuze zibandakanye kwi-aerobics, akufuneki ukuthenga ukubhalisa kwi-gym. Unokwenza konke wena ngokwakho, kodwa ngenxa yale nto udinga ukuphikelela kunye nomnqweno wokusebenza rhoqo.
Abantu abatsha banakelela ingqalelo kwimimandla yendalo, inomdla, intlalontle, ekwazi ukungena kwi-nkampani kwaye ihlale ikwazi ukuthetha ngayo. Ngoko, ungalokothi uloyike abantu. Khumbula ukuba batyeleleke ekuthandaneni kunye nabamantombazana abanyanisekileyo. Kodwa kuyo yonke into kufuneka ukwazi umlinganiselo. Ukuba awuyivali umlomo wakho, kwaye uqala ukuthetha ngokuphathelele yonke into efika entloko yakho, akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu angayithanda. Kuhlala kukufanele ukucinga ngamagama akho kwaye ungaguquki kwi-balabolka engenangqondo.
Ngokwemvelo, umgomo wakho ngumntu onobuchule, onomdla onomdla. Ngoko kufuneka ube yinto efanayo. Akukho mntu udinga umfazi otyangayo ongathethi nantoni na ngaphandle kwezinye izimonyo. Funda, phulaphula, unomdla. Uphuhliswe kuzo zonke izikhokelo. Ulwazi alukho kakhulu. Kodwa, kunjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuba ibe yintlobo yezityalo, efafazwe ngokwemiqathango. Yiba loo ntombazana onokuyonwaba, uze uyikhohlise, uze uyifilosofi uze uthethe ngobugcisa.
Kanti - ungaxhomeki kumadoda. Nangona uthanda ngokunyanisekileyo nentsha, akufanele umjonge ngamehlo. Amadoda kufuneka aphumelele, kwaye "ngubani oza kufuna ukufezekisa oko sele sele emadolweni akhe". Hlalani nikhumbule oku kwaye ningavumeli ukuba iimvakalelo ziphumelele ekusebenziseni ukuziphatha. Ungazami ukunqoba indoda ngokuvumelana naye kuyo yonke into kwaye usebenzise zonke izinto zakhe. Ukuba uya kuba nawe, akuhlali ixesha elide, njengokuba abantu bakhawuleza bazibhukuda ngamadonki. Kusoloko ufuna ukuba wazi ukuba ufanelekile kwaye ukwazi ukuzivakalelwa njengendlovukazi. Musa ukwenza umnqweno wokufumana umntu kwi-mania. Sekunjalo, emva kwenkulungwane yeshumi elinesihlanu, umalume onobuqili ogama linguWilliam Shakespeare, watsho into elungileyo: " Uthando lubalekela abo bawuphishekela, kodwa abo babalekela , baya emqaleni." Kwaye wayelungile. Ukuba uhlakaniphile, uthembele, uthabathekile kwaye uyabumnandi, ukuba ufunde ukukhululeka kwaye uphile kwimincili - ngoko ebomini bakho kuya kuba ngumntu ongeke nje adibane. Uya kuthanda. Kwaye kuya kwenzeka ngexesha apho ungalindelanga nto. Ngako oko, yiba ngowona mhle kakhulu kwaye uphelele kakhulu, kwaye ke kuya kuba nomnye onokuvuya.Emva koko uya kuqonda ukuba imifanekiso kwisitayela: "Ndiyiminyaka eli-17 ubudala kwaye ndifuna ukuzifumana ngumntu othe wandithanda" yisisiseko kubabengafuni ukwenza nantoni na ngokwabo. Kodwa akunjalo?