Ukuzama ukujonga ukuba umfazi uyingqingili, abanye abantu bavavanya ukubonakala kwakhe, abanye banomdla emsebenzini, kodwa abaninzi bazama ukulinganisa iminyaka. Kukho uluvo lokuba ubulili buvuswa kuzo zonke iisetyhini zabesifazane ngexesha elifanayo: kwi-28-30 ubudala ubudala, ihlala kule nqanaba ukuya kutsho iminyaka engama-45, ngoko iyancipha. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene? Yintoni ekhusela owesifazane ukuba abe "berry" kwiminyaka eyi-25 okanye yama-55? Kwaye ngokubanzi, kwenzani ukuba ubulili buxhomekeke kuyo: nokuba ngaba kuphela kwiminyaka okanye kwenye into?
UKUSEBENZA I-FRAMEWORK
Ngokwenene, izazintlu zakwa-America, inani labasetyhini abangakaze bafumana i-orgasm kwiminyaka engama-30, liphindwe kathathu ngaphantsi kwama-25. Kodwa akukhona nje nge-orgasm - ubomi besondo kwishumi lesine ngakumbi kwaye unomdla. Oku, oku kuthetha, yinto ecacileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kuyo nayiphi na imithetho, njengoko yaziwa, kukho ezininzi izinto.
Kukho uhlobo oluthiwa "abafazi bokuqala". Inzala ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwesondo iyabavusa kakhulu kusasa - nangaphambi kokuqala kwenguqu yenguqu. Ngeminyaka eyi-10-12 ubudala banomdla malunga nomzimba wabo kwaye bahlaselwa kwisithombeni ngaphambi kokuya esikhathini. Ngethuba labaninzi, abameli abaninzi beli qela banamava ezesondo. Okulungileyo okanye embi ngumbuzo othembisayo. Kodwa uphando lubonisa ukuba "abatsha nabaselula" bafikelela kwi-orgasm nangaphambi kokuba baneminyaka engama-20. Oko kukuthi, ngexesha elifanayo eliqhelekileyo libhekwa licebile ngokubhekiselele kwisini sesini. Kwaye la mabhinqa "angatshatyalali" ixesha elide, ehlala ethanda ubomi babo bonke. Ngokutsho kwezenzululwazi zaseJamani, kukho ezininzi iifampas zezilwanyana: uphando lubonisa ukuba malunga nantombazana emithathu ubudala abaneminyaka eli-17 ukuya kwe-19 abanako ukuhlala befumana i-orgasm, kodwa "yokugqiba" amaxesha amaninzi ngokulandelana okanye ukuphela kwemizuzu emi-1-2! Ngokweziganeko zenzululwazi, kwixesha elizayo abantu abanobuhlungu baya kuba ngaphezulu, njengokuba ubulili besini bujoliswe ukuba "bukhangele buntwaneni": amantombazana aya kuqala ukungena ngesondo ngaphambili, uya kuba negalelo elikhulu kwizondo zesondo.
Kukho elinye iqela labasetyhini abangakwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi "ukuvuna phakathi". Ngo-12 basengabantwana, kodwa kwiminyaka eyi-16-17 baqala ukuqhakaza, kwaye ngokukhawuleza bafikelele "inzululwazi yesithando". Abaninzi babo kwiminyaka yokuqala ye-2-3 yobuhlobo obusondeleyo ngaphandle komgudu omkhulu unokufikelela kwi-orgasm. Superstrastnymi la mabhinqa, okwenene, akakwazi ukubizwa ngokuba ngumntu, kodwa nangona angenayo isondo - naye. Bangafumana ukukhutshwa ngezikhathi ezithile kwaye ningacingi ukwenza into "engavunyelwe" kwigumbi lokulala, umzekelo, ukusebenzisa uncedo lwezathoyizi zesondo. Nangona, akunakwenzeka ukuba ahlangane nomyeni wakhe kwi-apron "ngaphandle kweyonto" okanye ukubeka isidumbu phantsi komsi ngamnye ngalunye, kodwa ubulili babo nabo banokufikelela ekugqibeleni kunokuba wonke umntu owaziwayo iminyaka engama-35 ukuya kuma-40.
Iingcali nazo zagxotha enye inkolelo-ukuba ibhinqa elingama-50 linomdla kuphela kwiibhedi kunye nabazukulu. Njengoko, emva kokumisa umva, impilo yabasetyhini iyancipha kwaye ubomi besondo buphela. Nangona kunjalo, i-sexologist iyakwazi imimiselo embalwa, xa ama-55-60 ubudala abaneminyaka engama-60 ubudala bathatha isondo ngokuphindwe kabini ngeveki kwaye banako ukufumana lonke uluhlu lweengqungquthela. Enyanisweni, abaninzi abafazi banako ukuphumla kweli xesha (abantwana bakhula, akudingeki ukhathazeke ngokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo, njl.). Yingakho akudingeki ubeke isiphambano xa ujoyina iminyaka engaphambi kokuthatha umhlala-phantsi: ngokuqinisekileyo yonke iminyaka iyathobela uthando!
AMALUNGA AHORMONAL
Ixhomekeke kwisondo somfazi kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi, umzekelo, isixa se-hormone ye-testosterone emzimbeni. Ngokwendlela, emva kokusondeza ngokwesini kwintombi yesini esichazwe yinkalo yokwanda kwe testosterone: ngeli thuba, inani lama-hormone wesini labesetyhini liqala ukuhamba buthathaka kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo linciphisa, kodwa inani le-testosterone lihlala lifana.
Abasetyhini, abanayo yonke into nge testosterone, bangabalingani abanomdla abathanda ukulala ngesondo. Enyanisweni, i-testosterone ngezinye izihlandlo ikhokelela kwimiphumo engathandekiyo, efana nokuthi "uboya" bezandla kunye neenyawo, kodwa ngoku kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuqhaqhawula (ukuzincama ukuba ukunyuka kwentloko kuwuphawu lobunzima). Kodwa ngokubethelwa kwiindawo ezikude kakhulu, sinokucebisa ukuba ulinde - eqinisweni, akubona bonke abantu abanjengezinwele ezinwele "phantsi kwe-zero" kwindawo ye-pubic. Amaninzi amaninzi atshintsho "inwele" kwifomu yawo yangaphambili (njengomthetho, i-testosterone ngaphezulu, iphezulu kakhulu), ingakumbi ukuba umbala weenwele "ukhona" mnyama kuneentloko. Yingakho, ngaphambi kokuba ugijime kwi-salon yezinwele ezimfutshane, ungakhohlwa ukucela intanda yakho ukuba yiyiphi into ayithandayo.
Nangona kunjalo, amanye ama-hormone angenza umsebenzi wabo wesini. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo omjikelezo wesini kumzimba wowesifazane, omnye okanye amanye amahomoni akhiqizwa. Ngoko ke utshintsho kwimpilo yabasetyhini, ubomi besondo. Ngoko, ngokusondeleyo phakathi komjikelo, kunye nabameli abakhulu abasindayo besondo ababuthathaka basulungele ukukhawuleza kumlingane wokuqala. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uphando lubonisa ukuba "ukushiya" ukudibanisa abafazi bathatha isigqibo ngokuqinisekileyo ngexesha le-ovulation (ngomhla we-12-14 ngomhla wokuqala kwexesha), oko kukuthi, xa umzimba womfazi usulungele ukukhulelwa.
Kubonakala ngathi umzenzeko wokuzala ungakwenza oku. Ukukhangwa ngokwesondo kuya kuhlala "kuqhuma" ngaphambi nangemva kokuya esikhathini. Ngokwengxenye, oku kuqinisekiswa yimizamo eyenziwa: abafazi banomdla wokubukela iifilimu ezinobomi kunye nokufunda "ezitshisa" uncwadi ngaphambi nangemva kweentsuku ezibalulekileyo. Kodwa ngeveki yokuqala emva kokuvuthwa kwamabhinqa amaninzi, umdla wokwenyuka, njengombandela, uphela ngokupheleleyo.
Ukunyuka kunye nokuhla kweentlobano zesondo kunokunokwenzeka nakwixesha lokukhulelwa. Ukuba kwiinyanga ezintathu zokuqala abafazi abancinane kwimeko baze bakhumbule "ngelo", ke phakathi phakathi kokukhulelwa kwabasetyhini balala ngesondo (ngaphandle kokuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho zichaso zonyango). Emva kokubeletha, esinye isisu se-sex seza. Kodwa kungekho kwiinyanga zokuqala (umfazi ukhathele kakhulu, unakekele umntwana), kodwa malunga neenyanga ezintandathu ukuya ezintandathu. Ngalesi xesha, iimpawu zesini zivuswa nakwabesetyhini abangaphangeliyo ngokwesini, kwaye baqala ukufumana i-orgasm.
IBHISHINESS WIRE IQALA ...
... kwaye uzuze! Kubonakala ukuba abafazi abasebenzayo banakho ukukholisa ubomi obuninzi besondo kunabo bahlala rhoqo ekhaya. Ukongezelela, bayayithobela kwintlalo yakhe yokwenene. Mhlawumbi, umsebenzi uxhasa kuphela abesifazana ngetoni, ebonakaliswe kumsebenzi wesondo. Kwaye mhlawumbi isondo sinceda abafazi ukuba banciphise uxinzelelo emva komsebenzi womhla. Ngaphezu koko, isini esibuthakathaka ngexesha lethu asilo msebenzi ongaphantsi, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuninzi kunamandla. Iingcali zenzululwazi zifumene ukuba isantya sokwaneliseka ngokwesini sinxulumene nokuba umfazi uthanda umsebenzi okanye cha. Amantombazana asebenza emsebenzini imihla ngemihla, njengeholide, bazimisele kakhulu ukuhlala phantsi kwigumbi kunye nomlingane ngokuhlwa kunabo baxinzezelwe ngoluvo lokuba baqhuba ishishini elingathandwa.
Iimidlalo zikhupha ngokugqithiseleyo umdla wethu wesondo. Nangona kunjalo, oku kusebenza kuphela ekusebenziseni ngokulinganayo ngokomzimba, yithi, i-aerobics okanye ifake amaxesha amathathu ngeveki. Uqeqesho olunzulu (ingakumbi ukuba le nkosikazi "ihleli" kwisondlo esiqinileyo), ngokuchaseneyo, inokukwenza buthathaka. Ngaphambi kwesondo, ukuba umzimba ukhathele, ukuba ufuna kuphela-ukuphumla okupheleleyo!
I-LASKY NE-GENTLE YE-HUSBAND
Ladies, njengokuba uyayazi, zizinto eziphathekayo kunye neentlonipho, kunye nenhlangano engabonakaliyo emoyeni. Umsebenzi wabo wesondo uxhomekeke ngqo kulwalamano kunye neqabane. Ukuba unesiqhwala, ungacabangi, unomsindo, nokuba ngowona mfazi unomdla uya kupholisa ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba indoda isoloko isenza isenzo sesondo ngokusemthethweni, isoloko isesigxina esifanayo: iyakubamba imizuzwana emibini, ibangele isifuba imizuzwana emibini, ngoko iqala ngokukhawuleza inkqubo eyona nto, loo ntokazi inokungabi namdla kwisini. Ukubaluleka, ubuyatha kunye nokunyaniseka kweqabane kunye nezona zinto zibalulekileyo "eziqhayisa" abasetyhini besondelene. Uphando olutshanje lwabafazi abangama-300, olwenziwa ngama-psychologists aseMerika, lubonise ukuba ngamnye wabo umoya wengqondo kwintsapho kunye neqondo lokuthembela phakathi kwamalingani kubalulekile kuqala. Oku kuqinisekiswa ngamanani: isiqingatha esikhulu sabasetyhini abecinga ubomi babo bentsapho bonwabileyo, bafumana amava. Nangona phakathi kokunganeliseki kunye nokuziphatha komlingane owanelisayo ngesondo, kwakukho ngaphantsi kwama-20%.
Umsebenzi wesondo wabasetyhini uphazamiseka ngumvakalelo wokucima kwigumbi lokulala. Kwaye ke okuninzi (ukuba akunjalo konke) kuxhomekeke kwiqabane. Ukuba uyasetyenziselwa ukulinga, xa ekhuthaza iingcamango zomlingani, ngokukhawuleza okanye ngokukhawuleza ayeke ukuba neentloni aze avumele ukuziphatha ngokwesini. Xa iqabane liyalondoloze kwaye alifuni ukwamukela nantoni na into entsha ngesondo, umfazi akanakwenzeka ukuba avumele ukukhululwa, ukuze angabonakali kuye. Nangona ngenxa yobulungisa kufuneka kuthethwe ukuba amadoda avame ukuwamkela "konke oko" kwigumbi lokulala. Ngaba asikho isizathu sokuba amaNgesi azimisele ukutshata ngaphandle kwamanye amaMerika kunye namaJamani? Emva koko, kwakungenxa yabasetyhini baseNgesi ukuba udumo lwamaqhekeza "weqhwa" lugqityiweyo, oluhambelana nokulala ...
Ngoko enye indlela yokuphuma: ukhohlwa malunga nokukhulisiswa kwamaPuritan kunye neengxaki kunye nokuphelisa ngokukhawuleza ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka! Musa ukwesaba ukubonakalisa isibindi kunye nemvelo kumlingane wakho! Amadoda amaninzi avuma ukuba ephusheni labo elithandanayo lenza njengento ephosakeleyo "ingonyama."
NOKUBHALA!
Umsebenzi wesondo, njenganoma yimuphi omunye umsebenzi womzimba wethu, ufuna ukuqeqeshwa, "bathi izazi zesondo. "Uqeqesho" olungakumbi, oko kukuthi, izenzo zesondo, eziphakamileyo izenzo zesondo. Kwaye ngokuphambene nxamnye: uninzi uhlala ukhumbule ngesondo, ngokukhawuleza umsebenzi wesondo "uyafa". Kwaye lo mgaqo usebenza kubasetyhini, nakubantu. Ngoko wabeka isondo kwinqanaba lokubaluleka kokuphila, ukuba kungenjalo kumgca wokuqala, ngoko ubuncinci kwizinto ezilishumi eziphezulu kwaye uvelise isingqimba sakho sobomi bezocansi. Omnye unayo izikhathi ezi-5 ngeveki, umntu-3, umntu - 1. Iintsapho eziqhelekileyo zineziganeko zithatha kwisondo 2-3 ngeveki, kodwa kwiidolophu ezinkulu, umzekelo, eMoscow, esi sibonakaliso ngezantsi: ezininzi iintsapho zihlala zizinandipha zenyama kunokuphindaphindiweyo kuma-1-2 ngamaxesha ngeveki. Nangona umgaqo wesiqhelo ngokwawo uqobo kakhulu. Oogqirha bakholelwa ukuba isigqi sesondo kufuneka sifanele amaqabane omabini. Into ephambili kukunamathela kule "thayimthebhile", ukuphepha ukuyeka kwexesha elide.
Ukuba iimfuno zesondo zakho ziyahlukana ukusuka kumadoda, zinokutshintshwa ngoncedo lwe-sexologist. Emva koko, ishedyuli yobume besini ihluke kwiyabasetyhini: isondo esomeleleyo sisisigxina sezakhono zakhe zesondo ngo-19-25 iminyaka. Emva koko, umsebenzi wesondo uqala ukuhla ngcembe, nangona kukho okungafaniyo kulo mgaqo. Ngenxa yokuba imibhangqwana engaphezu kwama-30, ihlala ijongene nengxaki efanayo: ibhinqa lifuna isondo rhoqo, indoda ihlela isigqi esilinganisweni. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kukhokelela kwimibango enzulu, kuquka ukuqhawula umtshato, nangona ukungahambisani ngokwesondo akunakunzima ukuphelisa.
Kwiimeko ezinzima, ukuba umntu akakwazi ukukuneliseka ngokupheleleyo, unokwenza ukuba uhlaziye isondo-nokuba luhlobo lwesini-qeqesho, nangona ungaphantsi "kobugcisa" kunokuba ulale ngesondo. Ama-sexologists aboni nantoni embi ekuhlaleni i-masturbation kwaye enokuyincoma ukuba izigulane (zisebenza njengevinivethi yokukhusela). Kwaye kungcono ngezikhathi ezithile ukuba uthathe umhlalaphantsi wedwa kwindlu yokuhlambela kunokuhlambalaza indoda ngenxa yokungcola ngesondo.
NENQUBO!
Umba wezenzo zesondo uyinto ephosakeleyo. Oku kuninzi kunokunciphisa okanye ukuyikhuphela ngokupheleleyo. Okokuqala, ukutshaya. Ngenxa yokubhema i-cigaretti, iinqwelo zihlala kwimeko ye-spastic kwithuba elide ii-2-3 iiyure, ezizimeleyo, zingaphazamisa ukunikezelwa kwamalungu ngegazi kunye ne-oxygen. Khawucinge nje oko kwenzeka ntoni emzimbeni, ukuba ubhema ngaphezu kwesigarethi enye kunye nepakethe yonke?
Okwesibini, ukusetyenziswa ngokweqile kotywala. Iglasi le-champagne linokutshintshela kwaye lilungele ukuvumelanisa ngokugqithiseleyo, kodwa nantsi ibhotile eyakukubeka ekulala okanye kubangele imitha. Ungathethi ukuba ibhinqa akufanele liphuze ngotywala nantoni: yintoni le miphumo engakhokelela ekukhuselweni, wonke umntu uyazi. Okwesithathu, ukungabikho kokulala. Uya kumangaliswa ukuba ubuninzi bokulala obungapheliyo bokulala buchaphazela njani ubomi bethu. Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba abantu abahlala "bengenako" kwiiyure ezimbalwa zokulala, banokungenelela kwizifo ezithathelwanayo, ukuchithwa, ngokukhawuleza ukuqokelela amakhilogremu angaphezulu, ubuncinane ukuba balala ngesondo kwaye baphile ngaphantsi! Ngoko ke, qalisa ngokukhawuleza ukutshintsha urhulumente walo. Eyona ndlela ikhethekileyo kukuba ubuthongo obude buhlala kwiiyure eziyi-8 (inqaku elithi "ukugqithiseleka" kwezempilo yabasetyhini kunye nobomi bezocwaba kuyingozi!). Okwesine, inani lezifo ezingapheliyo kunye neengcinezelo. Konke oku kunciphisa umzimba, kunye nomsebenzi wesondo kunye.