Ukuze ufumane indlela yokuziphatha nomyeni ophikisanayo, kufuneka uqale wazi izizathu zokuziphatha kwakhe. Kwenzeka ukuba abantu babe ngquzulwano ngenxa yongqondo ogqithiseleyo wobulungisa, ukuhamba, ukucoceka nokunye okuninzi. Ukuze ukwazi ukuxazulula iingxaki kumyeni wakho, cinga malunga nokuba yiyiphi imbangela yokuxabana.
Ukuba uyazi ukuba umthandayo uyaphikisana ngenxa yokuba umntu uziphatha ngokungathembekanga, kule nto kunzima ukubeka ityala. Emva koko, eqinisweni, ulwela ubulungisa. Enye into kukuba ebomini bethu akusoloko kulungele ukusivikela, kuba iyakwazi ukuphela kakubi. Ngoko ke, ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo kwindoda rhoqo, ngenxa yokunyaniseka kwayo kunye nesifiso salo sobulungisa, akufanele simsole. Ngokuchaseneyo, kufuneka uziqhayise ngomntu onjalo, kuba akuyona nje ingxabano, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezifanelekileyo. Kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha abantu bagosa intonga baze baqale ukukhusela umbono ochanekileyo, nangona apho ukuziphatha okunjalo kungabonakalisa kakubi kuye, wena okanye nangomnye umntu. Kule meko, kufuneka uziphatha ngokuzinzileyo nangokucokisekileyo. Zama ukuthetha nomyeni wakho kwaye uchaze ukuba uyaziqhayisa ngaye ngenxa yokukwazi ukukhusela yakhe kunye nodumo lwakho. Kodwa, uyaqonda ukuba uyazibeka engozini, ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi wakhe kunye naye kukho ezinye iingxaki ezimazi. Ngoko ke, ukhathazeka ngaye kwaye umcele ukuba azibambe ngamanye amaxesha. Ngenxa yokuba, akudingeki nje ukuba umyeni onobuhle, kodwa naye ophilileyo nophilileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunzima kumntu nawuphi na ukuba amkele kwaye amkele amazwi anjalo. Ukuba umfazi umbuza malunga nale nto, uqala ukuziva ukuba ufuna ukumshiya engenalo ilungelo lokuba "indoda yangempela". Yintoni esinokuyithetha ngayo ngalabo abaneengcamango ezicacileyo zobulungisa. Ngoko ke, kunjalo, akayi kukuphulaphula okokuqala. Nangona uzenza ngathi uyaziqonda zonke izinto, uya kuhlala eziphatha ngendlela awayeyenza ngaphambili. Kodwa, musa ukukhawuleza uze uphuze. Emva kwemibambano ephazamisayo yena okanye wena, khuluma naye, cela, ukhuthaze kwaye ungamangaleli. Ekugqibeleni, umntu onothando uya kufumana amandla okunyathela imithetho yakhe ngenxa yakho. Into ephambili kukumisela ngqo kule ngcamango, ngaphandle kokucaphukisa okanye ukuhlazisa.
Ukuba iimpikiswano zentsapho zenzeka kwinqanaba lekhaya, kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba umyeni wakho ulungile kangakanani. Emva koko, kukho abesifazana abangayaziyo ukucoca nokupheka, bahlala behlala behlala bexhamle, bengenakufuna ukufunda nantoni na. Ukuba kunjalo, zama ukuzakha kwakhona. Akukho mntu onamandla okukwenza yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya. Zama ukwahlula konke ngokulinganayo. Kodwa, ungayikhokheli into yokuba indlu ayihlambulukanga, umyeni ngokwakhe upheka iindwangu ezimbini kweeveki, kwaye uhlala usenza uzinzo.
Kodwa, kwenzeka kwakhona ukuba umthandayo uqala ukwenza amabango, kuba usebenzisa ukujonga konke okusemgangathweni. Umfazi osebenzayo, kunzima ukugqibelela kuyo yonke into. Ngoko ke, ukuba kukho ukungquzulana kwiindawo ezisemakhaya, xelela ngokucacileyo umhlobo wakho ukuba uzama ngamandla kangangokuthi yonke into ihlambulukile, ilungile kwaye ilungile. Ukuba kunjalo, into ayihambisani nani - makuncede kwaye isuse ezo ziphoso eziza emehlweni akhe. Emva koko, akukho nto ilukhuni kule nto, ingakumbi ukususela ekubeni sele usenokwenza umsebenzi oyintloko. Kwaye kufuneka nje amlethe kwindawo efanelekileyo. Kakade ke, akubona bonke abantu abasabela ngokufanelekileyo ngamazwi anjalo. Abanye baqala ukuthetha malunga nemisebenzi yabasetyhini kunye nezinto ezifanayo. Kwimeko apho, awukwazi ukuphendula. Ukuba uyazi ukuba uya kumemeza aze azinqamle, qhekeza phezu kwayo yonke into uze ungayithandi. Kakade, onke amabhinqa akhathazeki xa engayithandi umsebenzi wakhe. Kodwa, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ulungele ukunyamezela loo nto inqwenelekayo yintanda yakho, yinto engabonakaliyo kumagama akhe. Ukuba umntu uhlala esenza i-scandals, ahlambalaze kwaye ahlazise, ke ucinge malunga nokuba kutheni unokwakha intsapho enjalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwimeko apho abafana beziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo kumantombazana, nangaphambi komtshato, kufuneka ucinge ngendlela yokuhlala nomntu onjalo nokuba nokuba wenza loo mihla.
Kukho neemeko xa umyeni ephelele ekhaya, kodwa, ehlala ephikisana nabahlobo kunye nezihlobo zomfazi wakhe. Kule meko, okokuqala kufuneka uqonde ukuba yintoni isizathu. Yiyo imeko apho abantu bengavumelani nabalinganiswa, okanye umyeni ubona into ongayiboniyo kwaye uzama ukuyitshintsha okanye ukucima. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunzima ukukhangela iimpazamo kubathandekayo kunye nabasondeleyo, kodwa kwiimeko ezinjalo kuyimfuneko ukuba ibe yinyani. Kwaye, ukuba uqaphela ukuba ukuziphatha komyeni kukude, ungacingi malunga nokuba awufanelekanga ukuthintela ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu.
Ewe, ukuba umyeni nje akahambelani nabahlobo bakho, ngoko kufuneka uxoxe naye ukuze uhlambuluke kwaye unikezele ukulungelelanisa. Masikuvumele ukuba uye kubahlobo kuphela kwaye ungabakhathaleli xa beza kutyelela. Ngokubuyisela, unokwenza okuthile. Inokwenzeka ukuba, elowo umntu unezinto kunye neminqweno, ayenako ukuyiqonda, ukuba uyavuma ngale ndlela ngaphandle kwimeko. Ewe, umntu akakwazi ukubiza isisombululo esihle kakhulu, kodwa kungcono ukuba nokungathathi hlangothi kunokungabi nxaxheba kwintlanzi apho uya kuzifumana khona phakathi kwemililo emibili. Ngoko ke, zama ukulungisa ingxabano ngokuthula kwaye ungavumeli ukuba kwenzeke kwakhona.