Ewe, ukuba ukholelwa iichungechunge ezingapheliyo, eziza kusasazwa kwiziteshi zethu zeTV, bonke abantu bakholelwa kuloo ngcamango. Kodwa ezi zizahlulo, kwaye, kude nokuba nomgangatho ophezulu.
Kwaye sinene ntoni na? Emva kwakho konke, ukumkhohlisa ngokuthi ukhulelwe kuye - kulula, kodwa ngaba oku kuya kubakho kwimiphumo oyilindeleyo?
Okokuqala, ukuba umntu akafuni ukuhlala nawe, akasenalo ukuthatha abantwana abaqhelekileyo. Mhlawumbi ulungele oku, kodwa mhlawumbi akafuni ukudala intsapho kunye nalo mfazi. Yingakho iindaba zokukhulelwa ziza kuyenza ngokukhawuleza ukuba ziqokelele iingxowa zakhe kwaye zinyamalale ngendlela engaziwayo, kunokuguquka nokufungela ngonaphakade.
Ewe, ukuba uyayivuma indlela awayekholelwa ngayo kwaye yahlala? Kule meko, umntu uza kuzama ukujonga. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokufumana inkohliso engqiniswanga, kodwa abafana bahlala bengenangqiqo ngokukholelwa ngokungaqhelekanga kwiphepha lephepha. Inokwenzeka ukuba, uya kuhamba nawe ugqirha, kwaye, mhlawumbi, ukhokele kwizodwa eziqhelekileyo, kwaye ngoko kuya kuvuleka inyaniso. Kwaye ukuhlambalaza kunye namazwi akho "ungayifumana njani?" Awuyi kusebenza, kuba akanandaba. Ukuba ekushiya kwakho, akabe esabathanda. Kwaye ukucaphukisa umntu ongenamdla kulula kwaye kulula, ngelixa unembeza akanakwenzeka ukuba amthuthukise.
Kodwa nangona sivuma ukhetho awayekholelwa, ngubani na oya kuqinisekisa ukuba uya kuhlala? Indoda inokumane ithembisa uncedo kunye ne-alimony, kodwa kungekhona isandla nentliziyo leyo intokazi enethemba ngayo. Jonga ngokwakho ukuba mangaphi abantu abalala xa befunda ukuba intombazana ikhulelwe ngokwenene. Ngoko ufumani phi ukuba ungayithandi loo nto. Kakade ke, abafazi bathambekele ekucingeleni abo banyulwe, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, kunoko, kubalulekile ukujongana nenyaniso. Ukuba umntu akayidingi umfazi, ngoko umntwana, mhlawumbi, akafunanga. Unako, umzekelo, nje ukunika imali yokukhipha isisu. Kwaye kunjalo, wena, ngaphandle kokuba uya kufumana isinxephezelo semali esincinci, kwaye akusikho into okulindeleyo, ukuqala le ngxaki.
Kodwa ke, masithi indoda yakho ingumntu onothando kunye nomntu ongenalulwazi okholelwa kwinyaniso yonke kunye nenyaniso. Ngoko ke, ngaphandle kokuhlola kunye nokusola, uthatha amazwi akho ngokholo kwaye uhlala esondele. Uza kwenza ntoni ngokulandelayo? Uzama ngamandla ukukhulelwa, nje ukuqinisekisa amagama akho? Ngaba wena ulungele ukukhulisa lo mntwana, uthathe uxanduva, unike inkululeko? Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi abenza izigqibo ezinjalo abazicingeli nantoni na oko kuya kwenzeka. Emva koko intsapho yakhiwa, apho kukho inzondo kunye nentlungu kwaye umntwana ukhula, unina olungenasidingo. Njengomphumo wale nto, iifayili ezinqambileyo, ukuziphatha okungapheliyo nomsindo kwihlabathi lonke. Ngaba ulungele ukuthatha uxanduva malunga nokuba unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho ayayivuyisa kakhulu? Ngokuqinisekileyo, bonke abantu ngezinye iinkhathi benza ngokuziphatha kakubi, kodwa kufuneka kubekho umda kuyo yonke into.
Ukuba loo ntokazi ayilunganga ukuzala, ngoko ke, uxelela ibali lokushiyeka, ngendlela enethemba lokubulala iintaka ezimbini ngelitye elinye: ukufihla ubuxoki kwaye ubophe indoda. Ngokweemeko zala majazana, lo mfana uya kuhlala ecaleni kwakhe, abe nomfesane kwaye aduduzwe. Kodwa oku kungalunganga. Kwenzeka kuphela kwiisepha. Kwaye ngobomi bokwenene, inokwenzeka ukuba, umfana uya kuphefumula ukukhulula, aphenduke aze ahambe. Kwaye ke kufuneka uyenze ntoni, yintoni enye inqaku lokuyilungisa?
Mkhohlise umntu kwaye uthe ukhulelwe, ngethemba lokubuyela kwakhe - akuyikho into ephilileyo kwaye engenangqiqo. Kungcono ukuthula ngokubhekiselele ekuziphatheni kwezenzo ezinjalo. Kubuwula ukucinga ukuba kwintsapho eyakhelwe ngamanga, umntu uya kuvuya. Nangona umfana emva koko konke oku kuhleli nawe, kuyisidenge ukuba nethemba lokuba uya kuphinda awele ngothando. Ukuba uthando luphelile, ke alukwazi ukubuyiswa, ubuncinane kungekho ngale ndlela. Enyanisweni, oku kubudlova kumntu. Ngaphezulu kweemfuno kunye neminqweno. Kodwa akukho namnye wethu othanda ukunyanzelwa ukuba enze into ethile. Kungenxa yoko, ngenxa yomntu, ubomi kunye nawe buya kuba bukhoboka, into eyayizondayo kwaye awaziyo indlela yokulahla ngayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, imitshato enjalo iphelela ngokwahlukana kunye nokungcatshiswa rhoqo kwindoda yomyeni. Umfazi, ekuhambeni kwexesha, uqala ukumthiya, ekwazi ukuba nangona esondelene naye, kodwa ngengqondo uhlala kude kakhulu.
Ngoko cinga malunga nokuba kulungile ukuba uzame ulonwabo olunjalo? Ngaba ufuna umntu ongenakuze athi "Ndiyamthanda" ngokunyanisekileyo? Ngaba ulungele ukuhlala kunye nombono wokuba ukhohlisile umntu obathandayo kwaye uhlawula nje?
Uthando alukwazi ukubuyiselwa ngamandla. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukuba ungabikho phantsi kweengcamango ezincinci ezinjalo kwaye uvumeleke ukuhamba kuloo mntu. Ewe, kuya kuba buhlungu kunye nokuhlambalaza, kodwa ezi ntlungu aziyi kufaniswa noko uzigwebayo ngokukhetha ubuxoki. Ukukhohlisa umfana kukukhawuleza ukulwa nobudlelwane nokuhluleka, ukugqiba ukuhluleka. Ukumisela into enzulu ayinakuyenza, kuba ubuxoki busoloko buvela, kukushiya ngesimo esingathandekiyo, njengokungathi uhamba uhamba phakathi kwesitrato esipheleleyo.
Kukho izinto ezingenakuguqulwa kunye neemvakalelo ezingenangqiqo zokuvuselela. Akukho ndoda enye inamathela kumntwana. Eyona yinyani, ingathethi ukuba yenziwe. Nangona uyise wezingane ezisixhenxe efuna ukushiya intsapho, uya kukwenza, kwaye intombi zakhe ezithandayo kunye nomntanami aziyi kuphazamisana naye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, wonk 'ubani unelungelo lokukhetha indlela yakhe yokufezekisa injongo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba icebo lisoloko lingenanto kwaye lithethi, kwaye ngexesha lokuliyeka. Emva koko, naliphi na ityala lizakhela enye enye, kwaye enye ibe ngaphezulu. Yaye xa inyaniso iba yinto eninzi, ivulekile. Yingakho, cinga ngamakhulu amawaka ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo kwisinyathelo esinjalo.