Indlela yokwenza umntu athande ngayo nawe?

Cishe bonke abafazi kunye namantombazana banenkxalabo malunga nombuzo - indlela yokufumana umfana ukuba athande naye. Okokuqala, ukuze uphephe ukudumala okukhulu nokukhathazeka, umntu makahlale ekhumbula ukuba "awukwazi ukunyanzelisa uthando" kwaye "ungayilisi intliziyo yakho". Ukuba awukho konke kwintetho yomntu oyithandayo, kungekhona uhlobo lwakhe lomfazi, nokuba yintoni na oyenzayo, akayi kukuthandana nawe. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo, akunakwenzeka ukuba umfana athande nothando ngokuthanda kwakhe. Kodwa ukuba uyintombazana yohlobo lwakhe, kwintetho yakhe, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile akakuboni okanye uziphathe ngokukhawuleza kwaye uyabambelela, unokubangela umdla kuye, okuya kuba yintembelo enamandla, ize ibe yothando. Kodwa kufuneka uhlale ukhumbule ukuba ukwenza umfana onothando kunye nawe kufuneka uqaphele, usebenzisa zonke iindlela zobhinqa kunye nekhontrakthi, ukuze konke kwenzeke ngokwemvelo.

Indlela yokwenza umntu athande ngayo nawe? Ukukhumbula umfana, ukukhawuleza kwamehlo akhe, kufuneka ukwazi ukuphuma kwi-gray mass, kwisihlwele. Unokucinga ukuba zininzi ezazibonayo iintombi zangaphandle kwaye zihle kakhulu, kodwa xa zithetha nabo zacaca ukuba zonke zibukeka zifana, njengamaconsi amabini amanzi. Abafana sele besele bekhatywe ngamantombazana athile, unxibelelwano olubhekiselele kwi-silly giggle kunye nengxoxo yobomi babantu beentombi zabo. Ukuwa thandana nawe ungakwazi kuqala okokuba ungekho njengabanye, ukuba uziphathe ngendlela eyahlukileyo, engaqinisekiyo, yangaphambili. Ngokuqinisekileyo, musa ukuthatha isicwengekileyo i-vzbalamoshnye izenzo, ezifana nokumemeza kunye nokuhlambalaza Lokhu akusikho ukulinganisa-konke okufana nokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo, kholelwa mna, isoka lakho sele liyazi amaqhinga kwaye aliyithandanga. Mthinte ngengqondo yakho. Umfana omiselwe ulwalamano olunzulu, ufuna ukubona intombazana ehlakaniphile kufuphi naye kwaye okokuqala iya kuhlola ubunzima bakhe. Kodwa musa ukuphula intonga, ungazibonakalisi nje ngokuba "ngutitshala" kunye nokuzala. Fumana isihloko esithakazelisayo kuwe ezimbini. Thetha naye malunga nobugcisa, i-cinema, ifilosofi, inkolo. Ezi zihloko apho umntu angabonisa khona imfundo yakhe, i-erudition, ingqondo. Yaye ukuba akayithandanga kwaye uqala ukuthetha ngendlela aphuza ngayo ubhiya kunye nabahlobo bakhe kwibhar kwaye zonke iingxoxo zakhe ziya kuba malunga nale nto, ke ucinge malunga nokuba ufuna umntu onjalo? Kakade, asimele sikhohlwe ukuba abantu bathanda amehlo kuqala. Ukuba ufihla umphefumlo wakho omhle kumzimba onobuhlungu, akunakwenzeka ukuba i-pal iya kufuna ukufunda lo mphefumlo. Kubafana, ubuhle bobabini kunye nokomoya ngokulinganayo. Ngako oko, kufuneka uhlale ukhangeleka kakuhle, ungabonakali kuye ngaphandle kokwenza kwamehlo, kwiingubo zangaphambili zekhaya. Kwaye, ngokubanzi, kufuneka ufumane umkhwa obalulekileyo - ukuzithobela umyalelo ukusasa, ngokukhawuleza xa uphuma ebhedeni. Ngokukhawuleza kufuneka uhambe eshahleni, yenza unyango lobuso buso, wenze iifiti kunye neenwele, nokuba ungazicwangcanga ukuya kuphi na. Kule meko, akukho mntu uya kukwazi ukumangala kwaye akubone kwindawo efanelekileyo.
Izambatho zasekhaya zifanele zibe zihle, zikhohlwe kanye kunye nazo zonke iingubo zangaphantsi, ziphephe iileki kunye ne-slippers ezidlulileyo. Kuthiwani ukuba ngaba bengalindelekanga kwaye kufuneka uvule umnyango kule fomu? Hlalani nilungele, lo ngumkhwa obalulekileyo kwaye uhlawula umgaqo wobomi obusoloko-uhlala ukhangeleke kuyo yonke indawo, eyaziwayo kakhulu kwaye iyanconywa ngabantu.
Nabani na umntu othanda ukunyaniseka kuye. Mbonise umdla omkhulu kangako, buza malunga nobomi bakhe, izinto ezithandwayo. Ukuba unayo nayiphi na ingxaki, mnike uncedo ekuzisombulula. Umfana unokuba lula ngokuthandana nawe xa uqala ukuthatha inxaxheba ebomini bakhe, ukumnceda ukuba asombulule ingxaki evelele ebomini bakhe. Njalo bonisa ubungakanani bomdla ebuntwini bakhe, khumbula ukuba kuyinto enomdla kunoma yimuphi umntu xa benomdla kuye. Lo mdla kufuneka ukuba unyanisekile, nokuba kukho nawuphi na umcimbi ongekho.
Nabani na umntu othanda ukunyaniseka kuye. Mbonise umdla omkhulu kangako, buza malunga nobomi bakhe, izinto ezithandwayo. Ukuba unayo nayiphi na ingxaki, mnike uncedo ekuzisombulula.

Umfana unokuba lula ngokuthandana nawe xa uqala ukuthatha inxaxheba ebomini bakhe, ukumnceda ukuba asombulule ingxaki evelele ebomini bakhe. Njalo bonisa ubungakanani bomdla ebuntwini bakhe, khumbula ukuba kuyinto enomdla kunoma yimuphi umntu xa benomdla kuye. Lo mdla kufuneka ukuba unyanisekile, nokuba kukho nawuphi na umcimbi ongekho. Zigcine wena ngokwakho. Ungaze uqale ukudlala indima. Ngexesha elide awuyi kukwazi ukuyidlala, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uza kufumana ubuntu bakho kunye nomdlalo wakho wezemidlalo. Emva kwakho konke, indoda ingakwazi ukuwa ngothando, kule meko, kungekhona kuwe, kodwa kwintombazana ozama ukuyichaza. Khumbula ukuba akukho mntu uya kukwazi ukudlala indima yomnye umntu ixesha elide. Ungesabi ukuba nguwe. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuzivuma ngokwenene njengoko ukhona kwaye uvumele ukuba ube njalo. Yamkele yonke impazamo yakho kwaye uyeke ukuzihlambalaza. Emva kwakho konke, ezi mpazamo zingabonakala ziphosakele kuwe kuphela, kwaye umntu wakho ozayo ngokuchaseneyo unokuqonda ukuthozama kwakho kunye nokunyaniseka okanye ukunyuka okuncinci okanye isifuba esincinane, njengesithunzi. Into ephambili kukuba ngumntu onobumba obuninzi, ukuba ungamxeli nabani na kwaye uhlale ubonisa umntu wakho kunye nokuzikhethela - kwiimbono, kwizenzo.
Ukuphoqeleka umntu ukuba athande nawe kuhlale kudingekile unobtrusively, usebenzisa i-charm yakho ngamnye kunye nekharityhulam. Awukwazi ukumisela umntu, umbiza ngekhulu ngelixesha, ubhale i-sms ezili-nganye ngeyure. Kufuneka ube nomdla kuwe, uze unike ithuba lokufumana wena. Abafana abayithandi xa intombazana isilwanyana esilula. Ukuba ngumntu othakazelisayo unokukwenza ukuba abantu basuke bebathandana kwaye balwe nendawo entliziyweni yakho.