Kuphi?
Ngoko ke, zonke iindiza, ukudluliselwa emva, iifomethi zihlanjululwe, ihotele kunye nommandla osondeleyo uphando, ungaqala "ukuzingela". Ukuba ungowomntu osebenzayo kwaye ongenamahloni abameli besifazane, ngoko ungathatha inyathelo ezandleni zakho. Emva koko, unalo ixesha elincinci lokuthandana kweeholide. Uyabona, kwithebula elilandelayo kukho umntu othobekileyo? Okanye mhlawumbi uya kuba ngumntu oyintloko kwiholide lakho?
Yikholelwa ukuba uhlazo kunye nomthetho othi "umntu uthatha isinyathelo sokuqala" angashiywa kunye naye, kwaye angene ngokukhuselekileyo "ekuhlaseleni." Umntu ohlala eholidini uya kuvuya kunye nenkampani. Ngokukodwa kunye nentombazana enhle nentlekele njengaye. Ukuba yena, ngokuqinisekileyo, akayiyo inzuzo. Kodwa asiyithandi.
Ukuba ungumntu othobekileyo, kwaye, nantoni na ongeke wenze isinyathelo sokuqala, ngoko, thabatha "ukukhohlisa" kwaye ulinde umntu wamaphupha akho ukuba afike kuwe. Kule meko, akuyi kuba yinto engafanelekanga "ukudlala ngamehlo". Ukubona kwintombazana enhle, enhle kunye neyentlungu, kufuneka ukuba ingqalelo ngesondo esomeleleyo.
Ngoko, unokwazi apho: ehotele, elunxwemeni, kwiihambo, kwi-cafe, epakini nakuyo yonke indawo, apho unokuthetha khona kuphela. Indawo elungileyo yokudibana nayo ibhola lebusuku. Umoya ogciniweyo kunye novuyo kukho ukumazi kunye nokuzonwabisa okulungileyo. Ukuba uza kunye neenkwenkwezi zamantombazana, uya kuququzelela inkqubo yokudibanisa ngesini esahlukileyo.
Njani?
Ngoko, into ekhethiweyo (okanye ukhethiweyo), isinyathelo sokuqala senziwe. Yintoni elandelayo? Kwaye ke, njengengqungquthela evamile, kodwa kwimodi ekhawulezayo. Ngokomzekelo, ubusuku bokuqala ochithayo, ukusela amancinane ama-cocktail, uthetha nantoni na. Uyakunxusa kwinani, ngokungathandabuzekiyo (okanye, ngokuchanekileyo, ngokukhawuleza) kumanga ehlathini. Ngomso ozayo uchitha kunye. Hamba uhambo, ulele nje elunxwemeni, nawaphi na amanyathelo athatywayo anokukunceda ukuba wazi kakuhle.
Ngokuhlwa, isidlo sothando, ukudanisa ngokukhawuleza kunye nesimemo ekamelweni lakho (eyakho okanye, ekhangele ukuba ngubani osebenzayo kwaye uzimisele) ukhangela izibane zedolophu yasebusuku okanye ulwandle lwangokuhlwa. Kwaye-ke uyazi kakuhle kakuhle oko kwenzekayo ngokuzayo.
Into ephambili kwincwadana yokubhuka iyinkululeko yokuba. Unolwazi oluhle, oluhle (akukho ncokola ngeengxaki ezinzulu, ingxaki yehlabathi, iingxaki ezisemsebenzini), ziba nexesha elihle kwaye lilula.
Ukuba kwinkqubo yokunxibelelana, uyaqonda ukuba umntu unzulu, kwaye ufuna "umdlalo olula," ke awulandeli umendo. Ngokukhawuleza unqamle ukuthetha kwakho, bhetele, kungenjalo uya kuchitha ikhefu lakho kwiinkampani ezithandayo. Ndiqinisekile ukuba malunga nawe sele sele uhamba namadoda angamaqabane, ephupha ukuba wazi kakuhle.
Incwadana yokubhuka ineenzuzo zayo: ukungabikho kokuzibophezela, ithuba lokuba ubani, ithuba lokuthatha ikhefu ukuba neencwadana eziliqela. Ukuba, ungazicwangcisi ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane kunye nomthandi we-resort, ungabonakala phambi kwakhe ngendlela yootitshala oqinileyo ukusuka kwidolophu yesithili okanye ngesimo se-vamp.
Kubalulekile ukugcina umkhondo wento othethayo. Ngokukodwa, ukuba "udlala indima yomnye umntu." Ungamxeleli umthandi wakho ibali eliya kulwa nomfanekiso wakho. Kwaye unokuzifumana kwimeko engathandekiyo. Vumela loo mntu uthethe ngaphezu kwakho. Ngoko uya kuba nethuba lokumazi iqabane lakho elingcono, uhlale ungumfihlakalo kuye.
Musa ukuthembisa nantoni na! Ukuba uza kuza kumtyelela, ukuba uya kuthetha, kwaye "unxulumano olunzulu". Ixesha liya kufaka yonke into kwindawo yalo. Kuphela emva kwexesha wena, kwaye uyaqonda, nokuba kuyimfuneko ukuba uxoxe ngokubanzi.
Kulo ncwaba yolwaphulo kukho enye inkulu kunye: ithuba lokuqonda iingcamango zabo zesini kunye nokukhululwa. Khumbula imifanekiso engabonakaliyo yeefilimu ze-pornography, zibonele ukuba ungumfazi ofikelelekayo, ungakhathazeki kwaye unomdla. Ngokukodwa ukususela kwimeko: ubusuku, ulwandle, iinkwenkwezi okanye idolophu engaqhelekanga, ihotele epholileyo. Kulo liholide silahla zonke iinkxalabo zethu zemihla ngemihla kunye nokukhathazeka, ukuzonwabisa rhoqo.
Kakade ke, i-resort yobuhlobo nayo inemiba engalunganga. Ukuba elinye iqabane liqala ukuva iimvakalelo zangempela, kwaye okwesibini - ukudlala nje, ngoko ukuhlukana kunokuba nzima kwaye kuyabuhlungu. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, wonke umntu uyazigqiba, "Ngaba isenzo sothando sihle okanye sibi?"