Ngoko, umxholo wendaba yethu yanamhlanje: "Ukwazi njani abafana kwidolophu yakho?".
Mhlawumbi, ukuphendula lo mbuzo, kuyimfuneko ukugqiba apho uza kujwayelana nabantu abatsha kunye naluphi uhlobo lomfana ofunayo. Kufuneka siqonde ukuba kukho amadoda olwalamano, ngokudlala ngothando kunye nesondo. Ukuba ufuna nje ukuhlaziya kunye nokuchitha ubusuku nomntu owukhethayo, ke impendulo yombuzo: indlela yokuqhelana nabafana kwisixeko sakho silula - uye kunoma iyiphi ibha okanye iqela.
Kukho amaninzi amadoda angatshatanga amaziko afanayo kunye nenjongo efanayo. Ukuba nonke niyazi into eniyifunayo kwaye ningalindelanga nantoni na, ke nikunikwa ubusuku obuhle nobusuku obuhle. Kule meko, akudingeki ukuba uqhelane nabani na. Khumbula wena, ufanele uhlale kwibhar ye bar okanye uphume emdeni wokudanisa, njengoko abameli abahlukeneyo besondo obuqinileyo sele bevele besondele. Kuwe kukho kuphela ukhetho. Ukuba uyintombazana ehloniphayo, ngoko kufuneka uziphatha ngendlela enjalo ukuba le ndoda ingenayo ingcinga yokuba unokukusebenzisa. Makhe aqonde ukuba oku kukhetha kwakho kwaye ukuthandana kwakhe akunjalo. Ufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nalo mntu, kwaye uqaphela iminqweno yakho, kungekhona yakhe.
Ukuba ufuna ukufumana umntu osemncinci onokumthembela naye ubude obude, ke indawo yokuthunyelwa kufuneka ikhethwe kuxhomekeke kukuphi uhlobo lomfana oyifunayo.
Umzekelo, ukuba awuphefumli kakuhle kubameli bee-subcultures ezahlukeneyo, ngoko ufumane apho bahlala beqokelela khona. Ngokuyisisiseko, zonke iintshukumo ezinjalo zineendawo zokutshatyalaliswa ngokusisigxina. Ngoko ke kufuneka uhambe apho kwaye uziphathe ngendlela engabonakali njengezimvu ezimnyama. Iinkampani ezingaqhelekanga, kwiimeko ezininzi, zinobungane kubantu abatsha. Ngoko ke, qhelana nabantu kwaye ukhethe into oyifunayo. Ewe, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukubonisa ingqalelo nayiphi na ingqalelo, kuyafaneleka ukufumanisa ukuba ukhululekile. Khumbula ukuba inkampani oye wafika kuyo sele iqalwe, kwaye ukuba uyaphukisa umntu, iziphumo ziya kuba zibuhlungu. Ukuba umfana othanda wena, ukhululekile njengomoya entsimini, unokuphepha ngokusebenza ngokuphepha. Zama ukugcina nokuphulaphula abanye ukuqonda oko akuthandayo kunye nokokuthandayo. Emva koko, qalisa ukuthetha. Ngoko konke kuxhomekeke kuwe. Ukuba ungasebenzisa ngokuchanekileyo inkanuko yakho yamantombazana, kwaye unomdla kumfana oselula, ngoko unethuba lokuba kungekudala uza kuba yintombi yakho. Ngokulula, kuyimfuneko ukuba wenze ngokwemiqathango kwaye ungalokothi udibanise entanyeni yentombazana.
Ukuba unomdla kwezinye iindidi zabantu, ke uye kwiklabhu yomdla. Enyanisweni, kuwo wonke umzi kukho indawo ezininzi apho abantu baqokelela ukuchitha ixesha kunye kunye nokuzonwabisa kwabo. Ngoko ke, sigqibo: luhlobo luni lomntu oyifunayo kwaye ukhethe iqela lakho. Ukuba ufuna ukuba abe yingqondo kunye nomgxeki wombhali ongenakucabangela ukubhala izibongo kunye neprose, fumana i-club okanye incwadi yebhuku. Musa ukucinga ukuba abantu abatsha abahlakaniphile bafana no-Shurik, abaziqondi ubomi bwanamhlanje kwaye abazithobeli. Abathandi beencwadi kunye nabalobi benye yezona zidibaniso ezahlukeneyo, ezisekuqaleni nasezingxenyeni. Phakathi kwala madoda, uza kubona i-psychotypes ehlukeneyo, iimoya kunye nabalinganiswa. Kwiiqela, abantu baqokelela ukudala nokwabelana ngempumelelo yabo. Ngoko ke, lungela ukuba abantu abatsha baya kuba nomdla ngakumbi kwimibongo yabo okanye baxoxe ngomsebenzi omtsha wokubhala. Kodwa musa ukuphelelwa yithemba. Uyakwazi ukuwuthabatha ingqalelo xa ubonisa ubulumko bakho kunye nokuqonda okunzulu malunga nento eyenzayo malunga nawe. Abafana, ngokuqinisekileyo, njengawaphi na abameli bendoda baqwalasela ukubonakala, kodwa ingqiqo yabo ibhekiselele ngobuhle, kwaye iphakamileyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukutsala ingqalelo kwindoda ebunayo, zama ukubonisa amandla akho engqondo. Kufuneka unomdla wokwenza ubuchule, kuba kungenjalo ukungahambi kakuhle kokuziphatha kubonakala ngokukhawuleza, kwaye uya kuhlazeka.
Ngokubanzi, ukuba ufuna ukufumana umntu onomdla. Ukuba abantu banxulumene nobugcisa, oku kuyona ndlela efanelekileyo. Abaculi, abaculi, abalobi - bakhethe umntu ofanelekileyo. Musa nje ukulibala ukuba kunzima ukuhlala kunye nabafana abanjalo, kuba bavumi kakhulu kwaye bazinzile. Kodwa phakathi kwabo kukho intando yesithandwa, intombi, ngubani oza kuzinxiba intando ezandleni zakhe. Khawubheke ngokukhawuleza uze ukhethe umntu ofanelwe nguwe.
Enyanisweni, unokuqhelana nomfana omhle epakini, nakwi tram, nasezitratweni. Yonke into incike kuThixo, i-future, chance, karma. Yibize nantoni na oyifunayo. Into ephambili kukuqonda ukuba ubomi bunokukunika isipho nanini na. Jonga ngokubhekiselele kumacala kwaye ungaze uzame ukusinda ekufeni. Njengoko siyazi: sicinga, kodwa uThixo uyalahla. Ngoko ke, nokuba le nsizwa ayinakuthandi ukususela okokuqala, mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba uyisiphephelo sakho.
Ngoko iimpendulo zombuzo, indlela yokuqhelana nabafana kwisixeko sakho, kukho umlinganiselo omkhulu. Mhlawumbi, akufanele uyilibale ngokuzikhukhumeza kwakho kwaye ube ngumsindo. Abantu abaselula bathanda amantombazana akhethekileyo. Ukuba ubona oku kuwe, naphi na kwindlela ongayi kudibana nayo, ubuhlobo bakho buya kuba namandla, bude kwaye buvuyiswe. Kodwa le nto kanye uzama ukuyifeza, xa uzama ukufumana umntu kwisixeko sakho esikhulu.