Akumangalisi, kodwa ekukhetheni igama lesithenda kumntu othandekayo kufuneka uqaphele ukuba angamcaphukisi, musa ukubangela ukuba ucinga ukuba ngenxa yamazwi ufuna ukufezekisa into ethile kuye. Ngako oko, nokuba uthi "ukuthandeka kum kum" okanye into enjalo yolu hlobo, kufuneka ubeke imvakalelo ephezulu kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ubeke "wonke umphefumlo wakho" kula magama. Ngoko, ukuthetha amazwi omnene ngokwenene ubugcisa.
Kutheni kunzima kakhulu kubafazi abaninzi ukuba bahlale bethetha amazwi abathanda abantu ?
Ukuzisola kakhulu kunye nokudumala kwamadoda ngokwawo, akubona bonke abafazi abanokubanika ngamagama anjalo. Abanye baqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba le yinto ekhethekileyo yowesilisa, amanye amantombazana akhankanya ngamazwi anjalo. Abanye baziva behlazekile ngenxa yeemvakalelo zabo okanye abafuni ukubukeka besisidenge phambi komntu othandekayo, kodwa kukho abafazi abathintekayo ngokuzikhukhumeza kwakhona besithi into enhle kumthandayo. Kodwa, kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ungazi ukuba ungathini amagama anothando kunye nokuncoma, kodwa uzame ukwenza oko, inkwenkwe yakho ingabonakali kwiintetho zakho ezinamathele kunye neentliziyo ezibhekiswe kuye. Ngendlela, akukho mbuzo ukuba enye yemizamo engaphumeleli yokuvuma kumntu othandekayo ukuba kubiza kangakanani ukuba unokuphazamisa ngokupheleleyo umfazi ukuba afune ukuthetha into enjalo ngokuzwakalayo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, amagama anothando, amabinzana kunye nokuncoma zihlala ziqatha ukuthetha okokuqala okanye okokuqala. Emva kwakho konke, ngethuba elithile awukwazi ukuba uyithandana njani nento ethandekayo kule nto kwaye iya kuba yintoni impendulo yomntu kunye nesimo sakhe sengqondo. Kwenzeka kunye namantombazana amaninzi, kodwa akufanele uloyike isisiphukuphuku kunye nokunyaniseka ukujonga phambi kwabantu abathandekayo entliziyweni. Khumbula ukuba ngaphandle kokuthetha into ofuna ukuyithetha ngoku - mhlawumbi ngokukhawuleza. Ngoko, ukuba loo mntu akazange aqalise ukukuphawula ngamazwi ahlabayo, qalisa ukwenza oko ngokwakho. Njengoko bethetha: umzamo awuyikuhlushwa. Musa ukunxulumanisa ukubaluleka okubalulekileyo kula mazwi, kwaye uwasebenzise, ​​njengesiqhelekileyo kunye nemihla ngemihla.
Ukongeza, kwimeko enqabileyo unokukwazi ukuqeqesha abo bathandekayo ngokulula, ngokuqinisekileyo akuyi kuba nzima ukuba uthethe ngokungathethekiyo ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo ngendlela enothando.
Amagama athile kakhulu kumntu othandekayo .
Ukuba uxelela indoda yakho ukuba uyamthanda kangakanani, ungalokothi ucinge ngendlela ongayithetha ngayo kwaye yintoni ekubonayo uza kuvela kuye ngokuyenza. Ezi binzana mazifanele zifikelele kwaye zivela entliziyweni. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ugxininise oko utshoyo. Into eyona nto kukukhutshwa koyiko kunye nokubeka imvakalelo enkulu kwigama eliqhelekileyo, njengokuba, umzekelo, "othandekayo ...".
Awufanele uhlaziswe yimvakalelo yakho kunye nesimo sengqondo sakho kumntu, ngenxa yehlazo, nangona kunjalo, owenza ubugebengu, akukho nto apha. Yithetha nje entliziyweni nento ovakalelwa ngayo kunye namava kunye nomntu obathandayo. Kuphela ke yonke into oyithethayo ayiyi kuva ngathi ingeniso yokukhohlisa. Ngoko ungesabi ukumenza umntu abe mnandi aze aphinde amkhumbuze indlela oyithandayo ngayo. Ukuthetha loo mazwi, ubonisa nje loo mntu ukuba uyithande kangakanani kuwe, kwaye uyamxabisa njani.
Sisebenza kwiimpazamo .
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngokunjalo, qhelana ukuthetha amagama anomdla ukuze isandi sabo sisoloko sikhathele kunye neendlebe zomdlali. Amagama kunye namabinzana anjalo anokucatshangelwa kwangaphambili kwaye wabatshela unina, uyise, umntakwabo, udade, abahlobo, aze abe ngumhlobo wakhe. Into ephambili kukuba intsingiselo yabo engenabugovu. Konke oku kuya kukunceda ukuyiqonda kakuhle lobu buchule kwaye ubonise ukuba ukhethiweyo ukuba ufanele ukuba naye kunye.
Ungalokothi udibanise la magama ngokuthoba. Yazi ukuba ezi zimbini zihluke ngokupheleleyo. I-flattery ihlala ikwazi ukuhlukanisa nayiphi na umntu.
Thetha kuphela amazwi anyanisekileyo, kuba inyaniso kulula ukuhlukanisa inyaniso.
Khumbula, imfutshane ibinzana lakho lesithandana kunye nothando, ngcono ukucinga kwabo. Ukongezelela, unokwazi ukudideka kumagama akho amancinci kunye nokunciphisa kwaye udale ukuhleka kungekhona kuphela kumthandi wakho, kodwa uvela kuwe. Kwakhona kufuneke ukuba uqaphele kukuba uthando lwamagama alisoloko luhlala lukhuni okanye inkondlo, ngamanye amaxesha amagama athile aneleyo akwazi ukubonisa ubunzulu beemvakalelo zabo. Inyaniso ichazwa kubantu ukuba ububele buyi-talente. Yaye eli binzana lisebenza kuzo zonke iimeko zobomi.
Amazwi amnandi ahlala ekhangayo, kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula omnye umyalelo wegolide, othi awunakulungele ukugqithisa. Yonke iyure ukuthetha nendoda malunga nokuba uyamthanda njani, kwaye umbiza ngokuthi "zaei" okanye "iikati" ngemizuzu yonke, unokumkhathaza loo ndoda uze umkhiphe ngaphandle.
Ukuqhubela phambili kuzo zonke izinto ezingentla, ndifuna ukuphinda ndithi, ukuthetha amazwi amnene kunye nothando yilo lonke iqela elithandwayo elifanele lidle kakuhle. Khumbula ukuba umntu onomthandayo uhlala efuna ukufudumala, ukukhathalela nokuthanda. Yaye ukuba 'ungamhlambi' ngamazwi omthandayo, akunakwenzeka ukuba uphele.
Yazi ukuba akuyiyo yonke into enokuthi ibonakaliswe yizenzo kwaye ukuba kukho into enokuthi ibonakaliswe ngamagama, qiniseka ukuba uyayenza. Emva koko, igama lingabacaphukisa kwaye liphakamise "ngamaphiko" othando, kungekhona nje kuphela isondo esicuthakathaka, kodwa nakwabantu bethu abathandekayo.
Yitsho amazwi anomusa omnye komnye kwaye ungalokothi uzikhuphe! Inhlanhla kuwe!