Isitshixo sokuqala kwimpumelelo asikho konke ukukwazi ukuzibonakalisa kunye nokuchukumisa, kodwa ukukwazi ukuzithoba, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo kucacisa ukuba umntu uyayithanda. Ukuba "injongo" ivakalelwa kukuba inomdla kumfazi, ke amathuba okumthanda ayanda kakhulu.
Inyaniso elula ibonakaliswe kuphando olungenakubalwa kunye nokulinga, kodwa ngokwenene ubungqina balo akudingeki ukuba yingcali ebunzini.
Xa kuziwa ekuthandeni, ininzi - ingakumbi amadoda - gxininisa kwisicatshulwa sawo: kwiintetho, ngesidingo sokufakela isiqulatho esifanelekileyo ngexesha elifanelekileyo, ekufumaneni amagama afanelekileyo njalo njalo.
Enyanisweni, umxholo ongeyomlomo wokudlala ngothando - ulwimi lomzimba, intonation, isiqu kunye nokudumala kwezwi, njl. -baluleke ngakumbi, ngakumbi kwisigaba sokuqala.
Xa indoda idibana nomfazi okokuqala, ingqiqo yakhe yokuqala iya kuba ngama-55 ekhulwini kuye kuxhomekeke ekubukeni kwayo kunye nolwimi lomzimba, iipesenti ezingama-38 zendlela ethetha ngayo, kunye neepesenti ezi-7 kuphela zento athethayo.
Ngokufanayo, iimpawu ezingabonakaliyo ezithunyelwe yi "lixhoba" ziya kuxela indoda malunga nesimo sakhe sengqondo ngaphezu kwamagama. Abantu bavakalisa iziqhotyoshelwano zabo nokungathandeki kungekhona oko bathethayo, kodwa ngendlela abazenzayo ngayo, nangenxa yeziphakamiso, ukubonakalisa ubuso kunye nesenzo sokuhamba kunye namagama.
Umdabu "omnandi kakhulu", umzekelo, unokuthetha nantoni na - ukusuka "u, ungubani na?" "Hayi, ewe, kakuhle ..."
Amehlo - oku mhlawumbi iyona mfihlelo ebaluleke kakhulu yokudlala ngothando. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu bacinga ukuba amehlo ayilungu elithile elibona ulwazi, kodwa eqinisweni, liyi-transmitter enamandla kakhulu. Ngendlela abantu bakhangelelana ngayo, badibanisa amehlo abo, baphambukisa amehlo abo, kulula ukubona ukuba bafumana ukuzonwabisa okulula kumdlalo okanye ukukhohlisa, akukho nto ifunekayo kwaye ayinakulinganisela kuzo zombini iingxoxo.
Amehlo kwiso - ezi zixhobo ezinamandla kangangokuba kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo, abantu baphoqelelwe ukuba banqande kakhulu ixesha lokuyisebenzisa. Ukujonga okude kwamehlo omnye umntu kunokuthi nje into enye: umntu ohlangabezana naye xa efanisa naye iimvakalelo ezingenakulinganiswa - okanye uvelwano okanye ubuthi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuhlaziswa yimibonakalo yeemvakalelo ezinjalo, abantu bazama ukugcina amehlo abo kwimizuzu engaphezu kweyesibini, kunye nesihlwele esikhulu okanye bajikelezwe ngabasemzini. Kwaye abaninzi bazama ukuphepha ukunxibelelana kwamehlo.
Ngendlela, kusezandleni zalabo abafuna ukunqwenela umntu ongenamdla (okanye umfokazi). Ngaphandle kwehholo elikhulu, ngekhulu leentloko, umntu unokuvumela ukuba umntu azi ukuba akanandaba. Konke okufuneka ukwenze kukubamba iliso lomntu onomdla kwaye ubambelele ngaphezu kweyesibini.
Ukuba umntu uyaphumelela, ke ithemba lokubambisana, esele ephaketheni lakhe. Yaye ukuba emva kokuqala ukuhlangana nemehlo into yokuzingela ibukeka imzuzwana, kwaye iphinda ibukele kwakhona, umntu unokuqiniseka ukuba sele sele engabandakanyekanga. Ewe, ukuba uyavuzwa ngokumomotheka, ngoko unokufikelela ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ukuba abadibana ne-glance, kwaye xa badibana, bajonge ngokukhawuleza kwaye bangawubuyiseli kwakhona, kusenokuthetha ukuba inzala yendoda, yea, yafika eludongeni olungenanto. Nangona kunjalo, kusasa kakhulu ukuphelelwa yithemba: into yokububula ingaba yintloni. Ukongezelela, amanye amantombazana ayicinga njengento ehlazo ukubonisa nabani na abathandayo umfokazi. Ngaba kunjalo? Okanye ngaba amathuba okwenene aya kwi-zero?
Unokufunda ngale nto kuphela ngokujonga ngokucophelela indlela injongo ekuziphatheni ngayo nabanye. Ngaba uyaziphepha ukudibana nombono kunye nawo onke amadoda? Ingaba (into) ibonakala iyintloni, ixhala okanye, yithi, ikhukhume xa ithetha nabanye abafazi? Ukuba kunjalo, ngoko (into) ukungafuni ukuphendula kwimbono yakho akukho nto inomntu, kwaye ukuzama inhlanhla yakho isenokungayifumana, nangona kulungiswe ngokukhethekileyo.
Ewe, xa indoda isondela kwisifundo sentshiseko yakhe, iphinda ifune ukuqalisa ukubonana kwamehlo - ubuncinane ukuze uqale incoko. Ngokukhawuleza xa amehlo akho adibana, ungaqala ukuthetha. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba incoko iqalise, ungasusa amehlo akho.
Ku luncedo ukwazi ngexesha elifanayo ukuba ngexesha leengxoxo, isithethi sinokubukeka naphi na; umphulaphuli ngokuqhelekileyo ukhangelelana nomnxibelelwano. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu uye wagqiba amazwi akhe kwaye ufuna ukuva impendulo, kufuneka aphinde abuke kwiinyawo zamehlo. Ukuba indoda ifuna ukubonisa umdla kwinto enokuthi i-courting ithi, kufuneka nje ukhangele ngokucophelela i-third-quarts yexesha elipheleleyo le ngxoxo, kwaye ubude bobukeka bunye bube buvela kwimizuzwana ukuya kweyisixhenxe.
Umntu othethayo uhlala ejonge ingqalelo engaphantsi kwesiqingatha sexesha aze ahlangabezane namehlo ngexesha elifutshane kakhulu-ukuya kwesibini. Xa umhlobo omtsha (umhlobo) ugqiba ukuthetha kwaye unqume ukutshintshela iqela kumnxibelelwano, yena (okanye yena) uya kujonga ngamehlo amehlo: kufuneka sithathe i-baton. Amagama aphambili apha "jonga" kwaye "ngokufutshane": awukwazi ukujonga ixesha elide kwiinjongo zokuzingela, okanye kwenye indawo.
Impazamo eqhelekileyo yokuba ukudlala ngothando ngabantu kubonakala bude kakhulu emehlweni okanye bazama ukusondela. Bobabini, kunye nomnye, okokuqala, kukhokelela ekubeni loo nto iyeka ukuziva ukhululekile, kwaye okwesibini, ithetha ngokungafanelekanga isignali efunyenweyo. Amanye amadoda angcwaba nethemba lawo sele esecaleni kwintetho yokuqala, xa bezama ukukhokelela ngokuqhaqhazela umfazi abathandayo, ukulibala nakwezinye izikhathi ukuphakamisa amehlo abo ebusweni bakhe.