Iintlobo ezahlukeneyo
Indoda kunye nentombazana inokuba neenjongo ezahlukeneyo ebomini. Umzekelo, emva komsebenzi kulungele ukuhlala ubuncinane kwiiyure ezimbalwa kwiikhompyutheni, ukudlala i-DotA, emva koko ukufunda incwadi encinci. Imisebenzi yabo ibonakala ingabonakali kakhulu kwindlela yomnye nomnye kwaye iphazamise, kodwa ekugqibeleni, kuyo nayiphi na ingxabano, intombazana iqala ukucaphukisa i-popolov ukuba le ndoda ayifudanga kwikhompyutheni, kwaye uyathukuthela, ingqalelo ukuba izifundo zayo nazo zithintelo. Kule meko, umahluko kumdla kubangela ukuba isibini, nangaliphi na ithuba, siqala ukutshintshana izinto zokuzonwabisa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, oku kubonakala kungenasizathu sokuhlukana, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, izinto ezincinci zikhula ngokukhawuleza njengebhola leqhwa, ngenxa yoko awukwazi ukubheka ngokukhawuleza kwinto eyenziwa ngumntu. Kule meko, kufuneka ufunde ukuqonda ihafu yeHobbes. Kuyiqonda. Akunakuze umthande, akufuneki uhlangabezane naye kunye nalo mcimbi kunye. Kufuneka uqonde oko. Kwaye konke oko. Kwiimeko zewayini, iingxabano ngesiseko sezinto ezincinci ziyakwazi ukufikelela kwisikali esiphezulu, kwaye kakade awukwazi ukudibana kunye ngenxa yentlungu.
Iinjongo ezahlukeneyo
Wonke umntu unenjongo ebomini. Omnye ufuna ukwenza umsebenzi ococekileyo, ukuba umntu obaluleke kakhulu kukudala iintsapho kunye nokuzalwa kwabantwana, kwaye abanye bafuna ukuhlala ngoxolo, ingakumbi ngaphandle kokuxinezeleka, kwaye akukho mntu kufuneka abathinte. Ukuba isibini sidalwa ngabantu abaneenjongo ezahlukeneyo, oku kungabangela ukuxabana okusisigxina. Ngaphezu koko, ngokubhekiselele kwinqanaba elithile kwinqongo, imeko ibuhlungu. Umzekelo, ukuba indoda ifuna intsapho kunye nabantwana, kwaye umfazi, ngokuchaseneyo, akafuni ukucinga ngale nto ixesha elide, ekubeni unendawo yokuqala ekusebenzeni, kule nto kunzima kakhulu ukuphepha ukuxabana nokungaqondani. Kukulungele ukuba kunye, kuba nje baya kuhlushwa. Emva koko, injongo yinto ebaluleke kakhulu ebomini. Yaye ukuba umntu ezama ukuwususa kuthi, kwaye akunandaba, ingakumbi, ngoko siqala ukumthiya lo mntu. I-Vitoga ibonisa ukuba ibhinqa elalifuna ukufezekisa into ebomini kwaye ilungiselele intsapho yakhe, emva kweminyaka engamashumi amabini inenzondo ibheka indoda yakhe ivila, eyasebenza kuyo yonke impilo yakhe, njengoko kuyimfuneko kwaye apho kuyimfuneko, ayizange ifinyelele nto, kwaye ngenxa yokuba wayehlala njengoko wayefuna, ngaphandle kokuzichukumisa. Ngako oko, ukuba ubona ukuba wena kunye nencinci yakho ingenalo eyahlukileyo, iinjongo ezichasene neenjongo ebomini, uya kuqhubeka uphelele ngakumbi. Kakade, oku kunzima kwaye kubuhlungu, kuba ngoku kukho uthando phakathi kwakho. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, cinga ukuba emva kweminyaka elishumi awuyi kukhangela i-arcs kwaye uyazisola nje ngokuba ulahlekelwe ixesha elingenamsebenzi.
Isimo sengqondo ehlukeneyo ebomini
Akumangalisi ukuba bathi ubudlelwane bubulala i-bytovuha. Enyanisweni, kubona iimeko ezifaniyo zobomi ezivame ukudala ingxabano phakathi kweengxabano. Ngokomzekelo, intombazana yayakhulela entsapho, apho enye eyayingayivela yilahleko abazali bayo babesele bayigxotha ukuze ikhumbule ngonaphakade umgaqo: gcina indlu ngokugqibeleleyo. Insizwa, ngokuchaseneyo, ibhekisela kwizinto ezinjalo ngokungenanto kwaye ikwazi ukusula ngokukhawuleza ubhiya ngethola efunyenwe kwisitya sokuhlambela. Okanye le ndoda ikhulile endlwini apho ukucocwa kwenzeka khona imihla ngemihla kwaye yonke i-rag inexabiso elithile, kwaye intombazana yayihlala kunye nentsapho yakhe, engazange ihlawule ixesha lokucoca. Xa abantu abanjalo badibana, abayikrokreli ukuba ukungazeleli kuqale ukuchitha indlela yobomi. Kodwa ukuhlala kwindlu enye, kukho ukuxabana kunye neentlanzi, kuba umntu akakwazi ukunyamezela ukucoceka okufanelekileyo, njengemyuziyam, kunye nentliziyo yomntu eyeka xa ebona ukuqala ngokukhawuleza ukusula ngethawula lomntu. Kule meko, yonke into ixhomekeke kubukhuni bamadoda nabasetyhini. Ukuba umntu uyaqonda ukuba usenza into engalunganga kwaye wenza isigqibo sokuba unokuphucula, ngoko yonke into iyahlelwa. Kodwa ukuba kwindlu enye umntu uqala ukuzimisela imithetho yakhe, ngoko kwimeko, iingxaki zemihla ngemihla ziba yimpikiswano kunye neengxabano. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokuthi uyinqabe into yokuba isiqingatha sakho senze ntoni ngendlela yakho, kodwa ngelanga, akukho mntu unokunyamezela izinto ezifakwe kuye ukusuka ebuntwaneni njengengavumelekanga. Ngoko ke, ukuba ubona ukuba akuhambelani nxamnye nobomi bemihla ngemihla, ngokwenene uqikelele ukuba ungayimisa kangakanani. Cinga ngendlela oya kufundisa ngayo abantwana xa upapa unemithetho ethile, kwaye umama-ohluke ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye sele sele uqala kuyo yonke le nto, cinga ukuba uthando lwakho luqine okanye lufanelekile ukuba lube nenxalenye kwaye ufumane abo bantu abangayi kuphelelwa yinto abayibona ekhaya lakho.
Ezinye iimvakalelo
Kwaye umahluko omnye phakathi kwabantu, into ekufuneka uyikhumbule yindlela yokuhleka. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuyamangalisa ukungavumelani ngenxa yokuba ungaqondani amahlaya omnye nomnye. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ingxaki kukuba ulwalamano alukwazi ukwakhelwa kuphela kwintando kunye nolwabelana ngesondo. Ukuba abantu abanalo iphosi zabo, ke le nto yinto enzima kakhulu. Ngokuvisisana, ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba, umzekelo, amahlaya angamadoda enkampini yabahlobo kwaye wonke umntu uhleka kwaye intombi yakhe kuphela ixela "votidiot". Kwaye kumjonga rhoqo ubuso obungathandekiyo, indoda iqala ukuvakalelwa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, le ngxaki ayinzima kakhulu njengayo yonke yangaphambili, kodwa kule ngxaki, unokucebisa endaweni yokuxabana, uzama ukuqonda amahlaya omnye okanye ubuncinane ungabonakali ukunganeliseki kwakho ngokukhululekile, ngakumbi xa ubona ukuba abanye abantu bathanda yonke into kwaye bayonwabile .
Omnye akanakuze athi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kuyafaneleka ukuya kubantu abahlukeneyo. Konke kuxhomekeka kwindlela ojamonde ngayo kwaye ingaba ungayiboni indlela yokuziphatha engavumelekanga kuwe. Kule nto kufuneka uqale kwindawo yokuqala xa wenza isigqibo.