Kukho uhlobo olukhethekileyo luthando-uthando kumgama. Ngaba ikhona? Yaye, uthando luphela njani kumgama?
Vumelana ukuba ininzi yakho ikholelwa ukuba uthando olukude alukho ikamva. Abaninzi abakakholelwa ukuba abantu banako ukuthanda nokugcina le ntliziyo, nokuba bahlukana ngamakhulu amakhilomitha.
Ukuba ujika ukukwenza, ungakhawuleza uphikisane ngokuthi uthando lukhoyo kude. Kodwa lihlala ixesha elingakanani kwaye liphela njani?
Ngokomzekelo, ngexesha lethu kukho isibalo esikhulu samabhangqwana abathandanayo, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu zomsebenzi, indoda okanye umfazi uhlala engekhoyo. Imindeni yabaqhubi, oomkhombe kunye nabantu abaphoqeleka ukuba bahambe ngezoshishino. Abaqabane abalahlekelwa uthando, ngenxa yeentlanganiso ezinqabileyo. Xa behlukana, banokubhenela, babhale i-imeyile kunye ne-sms. Ngomnye umhlangano wabo olandelayo. Kufana ne-honeymoon.
Ukuqwalasela le meko, kunokuthi ingqalelo ukuba uthando lukhona kude! Kodwa, ngelishwa, kunzima ukuyibiza igama lentsapho enjalo, ngokuzeleyo, njengokulawula ubomi kunye nokukhulisa abantwana kuwela kumlingane omnye. Ukuba bobabini abatshatileyo bangafumana ukuphuma kwiimeko ezikhoyo ukuze kungabikho maxhoba, imitshato enjalo inokuthi ithathelwe ingqalelo ixesha elide kwaye linamandla.
Omnye umzekelo wothando ekude. Uthando lweeholide. Kukho indoda nomfazi. Phakathi kwabo kukho uthando kunye nomtsalane. Ngexa baphumla, bayonwabela. Kodwa, kwenzeka ntoni xa uhambo luphela kwaye umntu kufuneka aye ezweni lakhe?
Njengomthetho, ubuhlobo obunjalo kakhulu buba nekamva. Ukwahlula, ngamnye umthandayo uyabuya kwi-story story ukuya kwindlela yakhe yokuphila, apho ejwayele ukuyenza.
Ewe, kukho nayiphi na imeko kukho ukungabikho. Abaninzi benu banokuxelela amabali xa isithandabuzo sothando sifikelele kulwalamano olupheleleyo kwaye kukhokelela ekudalweni kwintsapho. Kwaye umgama wawungathintelo kwintliziyo enhle kakhulu - Uthando!
Inkulungwane engamashumi amabini anesibini yavelisa ubuninzi kwizinto zobomi bethu kunye nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Ngokomzekelo, ezininzi iibini zodwa zikhetha ubudlelwane ekude. Bahlala kude nomnye, bathetha nge-intanethi, ngomnxeba. Ngamanye amaxesha bahlangana baze bachithe ixesha, bezinikela ekuthandeni iimvakalelo.
Kutheni izibini zikhetha uthando ukusuka kude? Bakholelwa ukuba ukuhlala kunye nokukhokelela ubomi obuqhelekileyo kuya kubulala imizwa yabo kunye nothando lwabo. Unomnqweno wokulondoloza uthando kunye nomdla kwezobudlelwane babo.
Kwabaninzi, olu hlobo lolwalamano lubonakala ngathi, lubeke ngokuthobeka, lungaqhelekanga. Kodwa, konke okufanayo. Amaqiniso abonisa ukuba ubudlelwane nothando olukude, kwiimbini ezinjalo zikhona ixesha elide kakhulu.
Omnye umzekelo, uthando kumgama luyintando. Ewe, awuzange uve! Namhlanje, ngenxa yokudibanisa emsebenzini nakwikhaya, abaninzi abafumani ixesha lokungena kwindawo yokudlala i-movie okanye kwimidlalo yaseshashalazini. Bakhetha enye indlela yokunxibelelana-intanethi. Akunqabile, kumanethiwekhi amaninzi, ukufumana umntu osondelene naye, abo bavuswa ngothando.
Unokubiza njani ubuhlobo obunjalo? Uthando lukude. Bangakwazi ukuhlala ixesha elide kakhulu, kodwa ngaphandle komhlangano wabantu, kungekudala okanye kamva baya kugqiba.
Eli nqaku linikezelwa ngesihloko: "Uthando luphela njani kumgama kwaye unelungelo lokuba khona?".
Kuzo zonke ezi ngasentla, kunokuxutyushwa ukuba uthando lukude. Kodwa oko kuya kuphelisa ngexesha kuphela.