Kukho iingcamango ezininzi ezichaza uhlobo lobunqunu besini. Ngokomzekelo, uthando lwabesetyhini kubafazi besini sabo ludibene nefuthe lamahomoni. Abanye abaphandi bacetyisa ukuba kukho ubudlelwane obuchanekileyo phakathi kobugcisa kunye nokuqhelana ngesondo. Iingcali kwi-psychoanalysis zikholelwa ukuba imbangela yobungqingili besini ingaba ngamava afunyanwa ebuntwaneni buntwaneni (umzekelo, ukunqamana okukhulu kwintombi kumama), kunye namava angamangalisi ekufumaneni namadoda. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba zonke ezi zinto ziseentliziyweni zobungqingili besini.
Ngethuba lokuphelelwa ngumntwana, abaninzi abasetyhini baqala ukuziva besithandwa ngokwesondo. Kamva, le miva ihlala iphela. Ukongezelela, ngokuqhelekileyo ibhinqa liyazikhupha, njengombandela, ngenxa yombono woluntu.
Imbono yokuba emanyanisweni amabhinqa amabini, omnye wabo udlala indima "yindoda" kunye nomnye - "umfazi" uyiphutha. Olu lwahlulo lweendima aluqhelekanga. Ukungqinelana kobudlelwane phakathi kwama-lesbians kuchazwa ngento yokuba bangaba yintoni abakwenene.
Iziphumo zophando zakutsha zibonisa ukuba kumazwe athuthukileyo, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo phakathi kwabasetyhini buninzi kakhulu kunokuba babecinga ngaphambili. Phantse ngamnye wesibini umfazi oneminyaka engama-40 ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini bakhe babenebudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nabantu bobulili bakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi abaqhawulekileyo nabahlolokazi bangena ubudlelwane bobulili. Ukongezelela, ngokweminye imibiko, i-lesbians ivakalelwa ukwaneliseka ngokwesondo ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunabasetyhini abaneenkcubeko. Njengoko izibalo zibonisa, izenzo zesondo ziphela rhoqo nge-orgasm malunga ne-68% yama-lesbians ahlala iminyaka emihlanu kunye nomlingani ohlala naye ngokwesini (emva kweminyaka emihlanu yobomi obatshatileyo, ukulala ngokwesini kunye nomfazi kuphelisa ngo-40% wabasetyhini). Akukho nkcazelo ethembekileyo malunga namaninzi amabhinqa angama-lesbians. Kukholelwa ukuba i-lesbians "yinyaniso" ibandakanya 1-3% kubo bonke abafazi.
Kwakhona kuyiphutha ukucinga ukuba ibhinqa elinokungalingani nongathintekiyo kufuneka ifane nomntu: ngokubonakala, imilinganiselo, njl. Kodwa akubona bonke abesini esini abaziphatha ngayo ngale ndlela. Amanye amabhinqa anokuziphatha ngendlela enokuba abantu abajikelezileyo abayi kuze bakwazi ukuqikelela ukuba lo wesifazane ungumlingqingili.
Kwimeko yowesifazane, kukho abaninzi abantu abasetyhini abangena ebuhlotsheni obusondeleyo nomnye umfazi. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ubungqingili basetyhini abuyinto ebalulekileyo yobunqunu.
Umzuzu obunzima kakhulu ebomini yowesifazane oselula (kunye namadoda) afika ngexesha xa eqonda ubungqingili bakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngeli nqanaba, umfazi omncinci ufumana iimvakalelo eziphikisana kakhulu, udidekile kwaye uxinezelekile. Nangona kunjalo, namhlanje kukho iintlobo zama-lesbian kunye namaqela amabhinqa, apho unokuhlala ufumana abantu abanomdla kwaye uxoxe nabo ngeengxaki eziye zavela.
AmaLesbi angena kwiintlobano zesini kuphela nabasetyhini, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba ziyi-muzhenenavistnitsami. Ngokuchasene noko, abaninzi abatyhini bezilwanyana bahlala belamano olusondeleyo kunye namadoda. Ngoko ke, imbono yokuba abantu besifazane abazondayo abantu ababi.