Akukho phelelo kwihlabathi. Ngokukodwa kwihlabathi labantu. Wonke umntu wenza amaphutha, ngakumbi amadoda - oku kufuneka kuqondwe. Ungaziqonda njani ukuba indoda emva kwesondo ayinikezeli umhla wesibini? Mhlawumbi wacinga ngale ndlela. Emva koko, ingaba njani enye into xa udibana nobusuku kwiklabhu, kwindawo yokudlela, kwiphathi kunye nabahlobo. Ulandele le ngcamango - kungcono ukungahambi kakuhle kwe-sutra kunobusuku bodwa. Ixesha elihle, okanye kunobusuku. Uye wafumana uxinzelelo lwengqondo emva kwemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla, uye waziva isibheno kwaye ukuba usakwazi ukuphula umfana ekuqaleni. Uyazi ukuba oku akunakukhokelela kuyo nayiphi na into ebalulekileyo, kodwa njengoko kwenzeka, awukwazi ukusinda kwiminqweno engathandekiyo. Yonke intombazana ifuna ukuziva ikhuselekile, iyimfuneko. Umnqweno ohlala ngokukhawuleza ngolunye usuku, okanye ukubiza, akushiyi ubusuku bonke. Kwaye ekugqibeleni - uqokelela izinto, amaqabunga aze athi "Ndiza kukubona kwakhona!". Kuthiwani ukuba loo ndoda ayinikeli usuku lwesibini emva kwesondo? Ukushiya le ngcamango yobuntwana kunye nokuqonda, ukulala ngesondo ngokungathandabuzekiyo akukho nto ebalulekileyo.
Kodwa ke, ukuba ucinga ukuba kwakungekho mnandi ubusuku obunye, funda kunye! Yenza isigqibo! Ukuba loo mntu akayekanga nayiphi na ulwazi malunga naye, zama ukumfumana, cela ngabahlobo, ngubani onokukwazi ukuba ungubani naphi na. Ukutyelela kwakhona, isikhungo apho udibene khona, mhlawumbi uhlala apho. Ukububona kwakhona, musa ukudideka, woza ukumomotheka, uthi: "Mhlawumbi ingxoxo iya kuqala, uya kukukhumbula kwaye uya kuba nomdla kumhla wesibili. Ukuba awuboni nayiphi na imisebenzi esebenzayo kuye, nyathela kwiqhosha lakho uze uzame ukumema ukuba akubone kwakhona. Ulwalamano olukhawuleza luya kuphuhliswa, okanye, ubuncinci, kuya kuba nomfaki-sicelo ofanelekileyo weentlanganiso kwintsimi engathathi hlangothi. Kukho nawuphi na, yenza le meko inzuzo kuwe.
Enye into xa ulwalamano. Kwaye kwakufana nothando, kunye nazo zonke ezi zihlandlo ze-candy-bouquet. Awufuni ukukhawuleza, ngoko ubeka ixesha lokubambisana, ufuna ukuba oku kwenzeke ngendlela ekhethekileyo. Mhlawumbi, kuya kuqikelelwa kwinyanga yobudlelwane bakho, kweholide, okanye mhlawumbi kuya kuba yinto efanelekileyo yokudibanisa ngokuhlwa. Kukho nawuphi na, kungakhathaliseki ukuba njani, ulindele ukuba yonke into iya kuba yi-chic kwaye iya kuphucula kuphela ulwalamano lwakho. Kwaye ngenxa yoko, indoda yakho emva kwesondo ayifuni ukunikela ngomhla wesibini. Kwenzeka njani ukuba oku kuqondwe? Ewe, yintoni ekhoyo yokwenza. Bonke abantu bafuna ukusuka kumantombazana amahle kuphela, kwaye nokuba uyayithanda le nyaniso okanye akunjalo, ibhizinisi lakho. Mhlawumbi wayenawe, kuba wamkhanga kwaye wayefuna, nangona kunjalo, yayiyihlambalaza kunye nesondo. Akukho nto enokuyenza, kufuneka ndiyamukele.
Kuthekani ukuba akazange anikeze umhla wesibini emva kwesondo, ngenxa yokuba ubungenakulungele ukulala? Yaye unokufumana njani? Zama ukuqhagamshelana nomfana ngefowuni, ukudibana nokuthetha. Xoxa naye ngezenzo zakhe. Ukuba uqonda isizathu salokhu, zama ukumtsalisela ukuba usengumntu kwaye unakho okukhulu, nje ngokuba ungamazi iqabane eliselilini, wayengazi indlela yokusebenza kangcono naye. Zama ukuqulunqa enye intlanganiso uze ubonise umntu olele embhedeni ungumkhandi kwaye uyammangalisa, ngoko awuyi kubona ukuba uya kuthanda njani iintlanganiso. Kodwa musa ukulibala ukulungiselela kwangaphambili. Emva kwakho konke, kubonakala ngathi akukho mntu ufuna ukubonakala enganelisekiyo okwesibini. Khumbula ukuba uya kuhlala ufumana uncedo kumaphephancwadi amabhinqa nakwiiwebhusayithi apho unokufunda khona, ngamanye amaxesha nakwimifanekiso ukubona indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle. Futhi ungakulibali malunga nempilo yengxenye ye-pelvic, ngokuqeqeshwa kakuhle kwemisipha ye-pelvic, ukuvakalelwa kukuphucula ngexesha lesondo, kokubili kuwe kunye neqabane, qiniseka-uya kuqonda.
Kuthekani ukuba indoda emva kwesondo ayinikezeli umhla wesibini, kwaye lo mntu ungumhlobo wakho? Ukuba kuthe kwavela ukuba kutyhutyha kweemeko ezilungileyo, ngexesha lokuphumla kwiqela elihle kunye nabahlobo abaqondakalayo ngaphandle kokusela utywala, kwenzeka ukuba wena nomhlobo wakho belele. Isimo esincinci siphumelele. Kwaye, njengokuba usoloko uhlala kwintombi yakho, qalisa ukucinga ukuba oku kuthetha into. Kanti mhlawumbi uyandithanda kwaye konke akuzange kwenzeke nje, kungenangqondo, akakwazi ukunyamezela, malunga neengcamango ozenzayo intloko yakho. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, ucinga nje ukuba lesi siganeko asinakuchaphazela ubuhlobo bakho obusondeleyo. Kwaye uqala ukuziphatha njengokungathi akukho nto yenzekile, okanye ide iphele. Le ndlela ikunyusa kwiingcamango ezinzulu, kutheni enganikeli umhla wesibini emva kocansi lwakho. Phonsa eceleni naivete kwaye wenze. Zama ukuthandana nomhlobo, ukuba kuyinto enomdla kuwe, ukudubula ngamehlo, njengoko nayiphi na intombazana inokuyenza. Vumelanani kwiintlanganiso, kwaye kutheni. Emva kwakho konke, okokuqala uhlale usisongane, ukuba phakathi kwakho akukho. Mhlawumbi uzama ukuxoxa naye oko kwenzekayo kwaye ufumanisa indlela adibana ngayo nale nto, kuba awuyi kutshabalalisa ubuhlobo, kodwa ngokukhawuleza wayesaba imiphumo echasayo kwaye ngenxa yeso sizathu walala phantsi. Ukuba kunjalo, mxelele ukuba apha akuboni nto ephosakeleyo. Mhlawumbi uza kuvuma ekuzameni ukwakha ubudlelwane, mhlawumbi yinto ongayidingiyo. Kungenzeka kwaye ngoko yonke into iza kuvela ngokufanelekileyo kwaye uza kuba nolwalamano oluhle. Kwaye ukuba oko kungasebenzi, unokuthi uhambe kwinqanaba leentlobo ezahlukeneyo, oko kukuthi, ubuhlobo. Kwaye kutheni ungabi ngabahlobo bokulala, unokunceda umhlobo kunye nezidingo zomzimba, ngelixa usebenza kakuhle.
Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, nokuba yintoni na imeko engenziwanga kuyo, khumbula ukuba akubona abo basikhethayo, kodwa thina. Ngoko ke, iphuzu ekuphuhliseni iziganeko emva kwesondo lufakwa kuphela kuwe.