Amantombazana amaninzi afumana ubunzima bokuthandana. Ingakumbi ukuba ixhalabisa (i-yunivesithi, inkundla, ukuphumla, njl.). Into ephambili apha ukuqala incoko. Khumbula, iphutha elikhulu liza kubakho xa uthe ngqo ngqo ebunzini ofuna ukujwayelana nabo. Kufuneka siqale ngento engathathi hlangothi. Ukuqhelana nolona lungcono ngexesha lokukhulula, umzekelo, emva kwesikolo okanye ngexesha lokuphumula. Kuxhomekeke kwinqanaba elithile okanye ukufana kwalo, okanye mhlawumbi wakho ofunda nabo. Ngoko unokuhlangana njani nomfana esikolweni? Uthanda nayiphi na intombazana idinga uncedo kwaye oku kukudibanisa kwakho, ininzi yamadoda enomdla awuyi kuvunyelwa oku okanye isicelo eso. Ukuba uyazi ukuba, uyazi kakuhle kule nto okanye ngolu hlobo, sebenzisa ngoku.
Ngokomzekelo, yiza nombuzo: "kodwa awukwazi ukunceda ndisombulule ingxaki", okanye "ndincede ndifumane into engabonakaliyo," "yintoni onayo kwi-control" nangaphezulu. Le yindlela efanelekileyo yokukwazi nokuthetha, kwaye kukho ithuba lokuhlangana. Isizathu esiqhelekileyo sidibanisa. Into ephambili kukuba ukwenze lula kwaye unobtrusively. Mbuze malunga neminqweno yakhe, malunga neencwadi zakho ezizithandayo, iifilimu, njl. Funda malunga nayo ngokunokwenzeka, kwaye uya kuba nento ekumele uthethe ngayo nayo kwikamva. Ngendlela, qalisa, xubusha ootitshala bakho - le yindlela efanelekileyo yokudibanisa. Ewe, ukuba ngokukhawuleza, umfana akaphenduli ngokukhawuleza kwisicelo sakho, ungamangalisi, mhlawumbi wayengalindelanga ukuba baya kuphendulela kuye ngesicelo kwaye ngenxa yale nto ihlazo. Ukukhupha ummandla, kwakhona, uhlobo oluthile lomxholo osondeleyo kuwe. Umzekelo, malunga nokuvavanywa kwangoku kubhaliweyo okanye ukunyanzelisa. Ukuba awukwazi ukuba uthethe ntoni ngaye, makathi. Mane ubuze isihloko esithile sencoko, oko kukuthi, ungathi "xelela into", kodwa qalisa ngale ndlela: "Ndiyathanda le hlobo lomdlalo wekhompyutha ..." okanye enye into. Ngesibili uya kujoyina incoko kwaye uya kuphulaphula. Abafana bathanda ukuthetha ngento kwaye xa bephulaphula ngokucophelela. Emva koko ungakhohlwa ukuthetha okufutshane malunga nawe kwaye ubuze ngobomi bakhe. Yiba mnandi, ujabule, uthembele, kulula - ke yonke into iya kuvela. Emva koko, uxhatshazo luyintshaba enkulu yonxibelelwano. Ndixelele zonke iintlobo zobuqhetseba, ihlaya - abafana njengamantombazana amantombazana.
Enye indlela efanelekileyo kukucela incwadi, iphepha, iphepha lokuvavanya, incwadi ecacileyo. Sondela kuye, umcele into evela ngasentla. Ngomso olandelayo ungamkela ngokukhuselekileyo "umsindisi" wakho. Ngoko, sele usuqale ukuthetha u-hello - kungabi kakubi ekuqaleni. Kwenene? Emva kwithuba elithile, unokuphinda uphinde uncede uncedo. Musa nje ukuziphinda. Ukuba akazange ahlangane, kodwa akazange ayeke ukuthetha. Ukulinda kancinci kwaye uzenzele. Khetha umzuzu apho kuya kuba nomhlobo (oko kukuthi inkampani encinci). Musa ukulibala ukujonga okuhle namhlanje. Yiza ngamazwi athi: "Msindisi, bonani! Sifunda kwisikolo esinye, kodwa asiyazi. Kwenzeka njani ukuba asasazi? Igama lam linjalo-kwaye-njalo, kwaye wena? Masiqhelane! UkuFunda kuya kuba mnandi! ". Zama kwakhona ukuba ujwayelene ngakumbi nabahlobo bakhe besikolo (abasondelene nabo ekilasini). Ukwazi, unokumxelela ngesibindi ngexesha lokuphuka, nokuba uthe waxoxa nabo.
Abahlobo bamalungu esikolweni (kwaye oku, ndicinga ukuba, kuya kuba nayiphi na indlela) enye, ebalulekileyo kunye, ekuthandweni kwakho. Ukusuka kubo unokufunda okungakumbi malunga nomntu oza kukunceda ukudala umfanekiso owaziwayo ngaphambili. Kananjalo, ngokunokwenzeka ngethuba (kwisicelo sakho) kukuxelela, yenye yezona ndlela ezintle onokuzifunda ngokukho komnye nomnye. Okanye uthabathe kuye ukuba unomdla kwintombazana enye esikolweni (okwenene, ungatsho ngubani). Nanku kuyacaca ngokusabela kwakhe nokuba ufuna ukumazana nabani na kunoma yimuphi umzuzu okanye kungenjalo. Akunakunyulwa ukuba yena ngokwakhe uya kuba nomdla kakhulu kumdlali wakhe kwaye ke isinyathelo sokuqala siya kuba seso.
Enye indlela yokuqhelana nomfana wesikolo, zininzi iintlobo zentlalo ("VKontakte", "i-Classmates", iindidi zamagumbi okuxoxa). Njengawe nawuphi na umfana wexesha lethu, kwenye indawo, ngokuqinisekileyo wabhalisa. Yifumane khona apho, thetha, uze uweleke ngokwenene. Ngendlela, ndicinga ukuba uya kukukhumbuza kwiifoto zakho kunye nokuba uya kuza esikolweni ngokwakhe akafakiwe. Into ephambili kukumthabatha, ngoxhumano lwakho lwe-intanethi kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ufumanisa ukuba uyintoni, into ayithandayo, yimuphi umculo ayiphulaphulayo. Zibonise ngokwamaqela amanxibelelwano, bonisa ukuba ungumntu onomdla kakhulu. Ngendlela, ngexesha lokuthandana ngaphandle koNcedo lwe-Intanethi, thalela umdla: "Ngaba udibana naye?". Ngaloo busuku, yongeza ngokukhuselekileyo kubahlobo kunye ne-Intanethi ukunceda.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, khumbula ukuba ukuze uzuze inceba yenkwenkwe, kunye neendlela ezithile ezikhethekileyo akunakwenzeka. Musa ukuphula intloko yakho ngeze. Yiba njengawe. Musa ukulibala ukuba akubona bonke abantu abadibeneyo kwaye banokuqhagamshelana nabo ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngokukodwa kwisinyathelo sokuqala sokwazi nokuthetha. Kukho abafana abanentloni ngohlobo lwabo. Kwaye ngethuba le ncoko, ziphathe njengokuba, ekubonweni kokuqala kubonakala ngathi, kunzima kwaye kunqabile. Kodwa awucingi ukuba akayi kuhlaziswa. Nguwo uhlobo lwakhe. Unamahloni okubonakalisa nawuphi uvelwano kumantombazana. Kule meko, isicwangciso esipheleleyo sihlala kuwe kuphela. Zama ukuthetha naye, yenza konke okusemandleni ukuba uya kuziva ukhululekile kumntu onjengawe. Kwaye ndicinga ukuba akukho nto ihlazo. Ukuba ungowokuqala ukummema ukuba ahambe emva kwesikolo okanye ngeveki. Kungenzeka ukuba uya kuba nombulelo kuwe kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kubona kuwe, into engaphezu komhlobo nje. Kwaye umxholo wakho oqhelekileyo othiwa "isikolo" uza kukunceda kuphela.