Asifuni ukulahlekelwa ngabantu abathandekayo, asifuni ukuziva intlungu, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka. Ndicebisa ukujonga imeko ngamehlo amabhinqa.
Xa siphikisana nendoda ethandekayo, kaninzi ngokungafuni, ukuziqhenkotha kusoloko kusivimbela ukuba sithathe isinyathelo sokuqala sokuxolelana, okanye ukuqala ingxoxo epholileyo ngentliziyo. Kubonakala kuthi kuthi ukuba singabokuqala ukuthatha inyathelo ekuxolelaneni, ngoko siyavuma isono sethu, kwaye siya kuba yinceba yezigqibo zabantu. Kwaye asiyazi ukuba singamxelela njani umntu ukuba uthando aludluli, ukuba ingxabano imzuzu nje yobuthathaka, into leyo loo ntokazi sele izisole ngayo ngekhulu. Emva koko, thina, besifazane besoloko sithetha, sishiya, sifuna indoda yethu ethandekayo ukuba ihlale nathi. Kodwa makhe sizame ukujonga imeko ngokuzinzileyo nangokucokisekileyo.
Okokuqala, makhe sijonge kwixesha elifanelekileyo. Ude wachitha ixesha elingakanani, ukuba waxabana namhla okanye iintsuku ezimbalwa ezedlule, mhlawumbi kuya kukwanela ukucela ukuxolelwa (inene, ukuba ngaba ungeyiphutha) kwaye uxelele loo mntu ukuba uyamthanda kakhulu, ukuba uyona oyingqondi ngakumbi , inene, inhle kakhulu, kwaye ngaphandle kwakhe uza kutshabalalisa, awuyi kukwazi ukuhlala usuku. Amadoda ayakuthanda ukuthoba, kwaye bathanda ukuziva bebalulekile.
Ukuba iinyanga zidlulile, kwaye awukwazi ukulibala, yonke into iya kuba nzima nakakhulu. Okokuqala zama ukwenza abahlobo uze ube "ngabahlobo", ukuba ulwahlula. Ukuthetha nothando lwakho, unokuzama ukufumanisa oko akuvakalelwa ngako ngoku, mhlawumbi entliziyweni yeentliziyo uya kukuthanda, ukuzingca kunye nokuzikhukhumeza kwamadoda akumvumeli ukubeka iimvakalelo zakhe ekuboniseni. Kwaye emva kokuqinisekisa ukuba le ndoda ifuna ukuqhubeka nokwakha ubuhlobo kunye nawe, ungamxelela ukuba uthando lwakho aludluli.
Andikucebisi ukuba uphumelele echibini, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uchaze onke amakhadi akho. Musa ukulibala ukuba umntu ngumvelo ungumzingeli, kwaye ufuna ukuzingela ixesha elide. Kuya kukwanela ukubonisa ukuba awunxamnye nolwalamano, kodwa ezinye izinto ezixhalabisa ngayo. Emva kwakho konke, ukususela ngexesha elidlulileyo, amadoda afuna ukunqweneleka kwamantombazana amahle, kwaye akafani nangoko.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuxelela umntu ukuba uyamthanda, uya kuphelelwa ngumdla kuwe. Okanye, njengendlela yokukhetha, iya kuqala ukuphepha, ukuqonda ukuphikelela kwabesifazane, njengesongelo kwinkululeko yakhe.
Kwaye ukuba yonke loo nto indoda ayikuqondi ngakumbi njengowesifazane. Kodwa kuphela, umzekelo, njengomhlobo. Thetha ngeemvakalelo zakho okanye ungathuli, kufike kuwe. Ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukuthetha, ngoko kuba lula kakhulu. Kwaye kwezinye iimeko, kungcono ukuba uhambe, zama ukungahlangabezane nalo mntu, ukuze ungakhathazeki inxeba elidala. Ixesha liphilisa yonke into, kungekudala okanye kamva, kwaye iya kudlula. Kwaye nangona ngoku, xa ubuhlungu, kwaye ngoko uyayifuna, loo nto yayisondele kuwe, imihla ngemihla intlungu iya kuditywa, kwaye olunye usuku luvuka ekuseni, uya kuqonda ukuba ubomi buyaqhubeka, kunye nawe.
Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukucinga, nokuba kuyimfuneko ukuzama ukubuyela kumntu oshiye kuye. Ndiza kunika umzekelo, umhlobo wam wadibana nendoda, kwaye yonke into yayiphumelele kude kufike ixesha apho efumanisa ukuba ukhulelwe. Le nsizwa yanyamalala ezinyangeni eziliqela, emva koko ivakalise, ngokucacileyo ukuba i-patitis kwaye iqinisekise ukuba ayizange imkhohlwe. Yaye intombazana leyo yayithemba ukuba yayiza kuba neengqondo, kwaye yayiza kuba neentsapho eziqhelekileyo, zazama ubuncinane ukuba zenze ubuhlobo naye. Kodwa ngelinye ilanga, intombazana yaqonda ukuba kulo mntu, akunakwenzeka ukwakha ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo, kuba nangona efuna, uyayesaba ngokunyanisekileyo uxanduva. Emva koko, ekugqibeleni, yonke into inomda wayo, kwaye umonde awupheli.
Ewe, le meko ayimnandi kakhulu, kodwa ibonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba ngamanye amaxesha amadoda awafanelanga uthando lwethu. Kakade, ndihlala ndifuna ukukholelwa kuphela ezintweni ezintle. Ndifuna ukukholelwa ukuba umntu obathandayo uyayeka ukuba ngumqhamo aze aqale ukwenza ngokunyanisekileyo nangokufanelekileyo ngokumalunga nawe, kodwa kunqabile kakhulu ukuba kuvela njengoko sifuna. Kwaye nangona ngamanye amaxesha abasetyhini bengazi njani ukuxelela abantu ukuba uthando aludluli, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba wenze oku, cingisisa ngokungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhethiweyo wakho ufanelwe uthando lwakho. Emva koko, kuphela thina, bafazi, sinquma ukuba ngubani na, kwaye ubuhlobo obukhoyo buya kuba njani. Kwaye ngoku mhlawumbi kuya kuba ngcono ukugaya amazinyo uze ufumane umntu ofanelekileyo. Indoda yokwenene eya kukuthanda ngakumbi kunobomi, kwaye iya kwenza konke okusemandleni kwaye akunakwenzeka, ukuze ube nolonwabo kunye neminyaka emininzi yobomi.