Kuye kwavela ukuba imigaqo engekho eyinkimbinkimbi ikhona, ngaphezu koko, abaninzi abafazi bayazi, kodwa akubona bonke abayisebenzisayo. Kwaye ngelize!
1) Musa ukubeka umsebenzi wakho ngaphezu kwentsapho.
Enyanisweni, ngoku abaninzi bafazi banomdla kakhulu ngomsebenzi wabo. Ngenxa yomsebenzi, bahlawulela ixesha elinokusetyenziswa kunye nabathandekayo, bazinikele ngqalelo kunye nokunyamekela, ukuphazamisa imvakalelo yemimoya ekuqhubeni kwinqanaba lomsebenzi. Abaninzi balahlekelwa ngumkhwa wobufazi, kwaye bafana nabantu. Enyanisweni, musa ukuyeka umsebenzi ekuncedeni intsapho kwaye ngokuchaseneyo, kufuneka ufunde ukudibanisa ngaphandle kokubingelela enye inzuzo. Ukongezelela, kubalulekile ukukhumbula isigqila sakho sesetyhini.
2) Yenza umzamo wokwenza intsapho oyifunayo.
Ngaphandle kwemizamo, awuyi kufumana intsapho epheleleyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uphupha kangakanani. Nangona ihlabathi lide liyazi ukuba ngabafazi banelungelo lokuba khona, abazange bakwazi ukutshintsha ezinye zeemfundiso zakudala. Ngokomzekelo, into yokuba ulonwabo kwintsapho luxhomekeka ngakumbi kumfazi ngaphandle kwendoda. Ngoko ke, phuhlisa, ulungise kwaye ulungise imiba engalunganga, usebenze. Kuphela ngale ndlela uza kufezekisa umphumo oyifunayo.
3) Ngubani na omele uxanduva?
Akukho nentsapho inokuhamba ngaphandle kweengxabano kunye nokungahambelani. Kodwa, ngaphambi kokumangalela umlingane kuzo zonke izono ezifayo, cinga malunga nokuba kukho naziphi na iziphoso kuwe. Mhlawumbi ukuziphatha kwakho kubangele ingxabano kwaye nguwe omele uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala sokubuyisana. Ukuba iphoso liphelele kumyeni (okwenqabile kakhulu), yenze iimeko apho uya kuvuya ukudibanisa. Yilungele ukwenza izigqibo kunye nokunciphisa.
4) Khangela uhlangothi oluhle.
Kuyo yonke into, ngakumbi kwisiqingatha sayo sesibini. Abantu abanengqondo engathembekiyo abanomdla wokubona kuphela okubi, akunakwenzeka ukuba banoliseko emtshatweni. Kodwa cinga, ngaba umyeni wakho umbi kakhulu? Ngaba kukho into ekukhanga ngayo kwaye yenza intliziyo yakho ibetha rhoqo, nangona ichitha iminyaka emtshatweni. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuqaphela ezinye iimpawu, ukuva malunga neliphi iqabane eliya kuvuya.
5) Jonga isimo sengqondo.
Imozulu kwindlu incike kakhulu kwimoya yowesifazane. Ukuba usetyenziselwa ukucaphukisa kwaye utyhafile, ukucwina malunga naziphi na izihlandlo okanye ukwenza amabango, akukho nto inokuthetha ngayo nayiphi na ingqiqo. Zibeke kwindawo yomyeni wakho, ngaba kulula ngaye nomfazi onjalo? Kumaxesha amanzima unokucinga ngezinto ezintle, malunga neentlanganiso zakho zokuqala kunye nokuvuma. Ngaba ndifuna ukugungqa emva kweememori ezinjalo kumntu owenze okuhle kakhulu kuwe?
6) Izizathu zokuba nomona.
Kuyaziwa ukuba akukho ziqinisekiso zokuthi ukunyanzela akuyi kuchaphazela intsapho yakho. Ngaphezu koko, akukho siqinisekiso sokuba nguwe ongeke uhlangabezane nothando olutsha. Ukuba intsapho ibaluleke ngokwenene, zama ukuqiniseka ukuba nayiphi na inguqu ayichaphazeli umyeni nangayiphi indlela. Musa ukumenza umona.
7) Musa ukuzikhwele.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungaguquki ngumkhweli onomona ongunaphakade. Ukuba awunalo izizathu ezifanelekileyo zokumnkqisa umyeni wakho wokugwenxa, musa ukwenza iingxoxo ezinzulu, ungafaki iziqulatho. Ngaphezu koko, akuyimfuneko ukulandela umyeni kunye nokulawula. Ukuthembela kuphela kunokuba isiqinisekiso sovuyo lwentsapho.
8) Ukufundisa abantwana malunga nabadala.
Akufanele uncintisane nomyeni wakho ngenxa yothando lwabantwana bakho. Bayakuthanda bobabini, bathande ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kodwa ngokulinganayo. Abafazi ababandakanyeka ekukhulisweni kwabantwana, ngakumbi ekuqaleni, kwaye kuxhomekeke kwintokazi ukuba baya kuba yintoni.
9) Qhagamshelana nomyeni wakho.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba iimpawu zobunkokheli bobabini bobabili, kuya kuba nzima ukunika iindondo zikaRhulumente kumntu wodwa. Kodwa uhlala uvuma. Xa wenza isigqibo esinzulu, qhagamshelana nomlingane wakho, kufuneka abe nomuvo wokuthi uluvo lwakhe lubalulekile kuwe. Nangona isigqibo sakho asixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwimbono yendoda, kubalulekile ukuba uzive echaphazelekayo ekukhethweni kwakho.
10) Yonke le mithetho ayiyi kusebenza ngaphandle kwesifiso sakho.
Ukuba unomdla wokuqhubana nomyeni wakho, ke le mithetho ayiyi kukunceda ugcine uxolo kwintsapho. Oku akuthethi nakuloo nto ufanele uphile ngayo kwisakhiwo sendlu uze ube ngumkhonzi ongekho igama, kodwa ukukwazi ukuphazamisa, ube ngumfazi kwaye uguquke ngeendlela ezininzi kunokukunceda utshintshe isimo sengqondo ngokubhetele.
Akungabazeki ukuba unelungelo lokufuna isimo esifanayo kumyeni wakho. Kwisibini isibini esisodwa esilinga. Kwaye okwesibini kutshabalalisa, akuyi kubakho uxolo. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuba bobabili unqwenela umphumo ofanayo - uzonwaba kunye kunye, kwaye kungabi ngokwahlukileyo.