Umfazi othandweni uyaqiniseka ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe aziyi kudlula. Ukuba uyayithanda ngokwenene indoda enhle kakhulu.
Kodwa, lusizi njengoko kunokwenzeka, uthando alukwazi ukuhlala ngonaphakade. Uthando lwabesetyhini lunemihla eyahlukileyo yokuphela.
Uthando lwabafazi ngokukhawuleza? Uthando luya kuthi, ekugqibeleni, lube yintando yokwenene. Oku kwenzeka xa abantu abathandekayo babonisana ngokusondeleyo kwaye bahlukane ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa, njengommiselo, ukuwela othandweni kuphelisa ngokunyamalala ngokupheleleyo kweemvakalelo ezihle.
Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zafakazela ukuba ubude bomyinge wothando luyiminyaka emibini. Ngaloo nto, uthando lomntu luhamba ngokukhawuleza. Abasetyhini bathandana kwaye bava le ntliziyo ixesha elide.
Uthando lwabesetyhini kunye nobude balo buxhomekeke kwimimandla eyahlukeneyo. Umzekelo, ukuba intombazana ithandana nendoda ayinakuyenza, umzekelo, kwindoda esatshatileyo. Ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe zinokuhlala ixesha elide kakhulu, de kube iilazi ezinemibala emhlophe ziwa phantsi, kwaye azinakunyani, okanye ude uthando lwakhe lube yinto yokuxhomekeka kule ndoda.
Uthando lwabesetyhini alugqithisi nawuphi na uhlaziyo kunye nokuzama. Omnye unokuthembela kwibinzana elilodwa kuphela: "Ubuninzi obungummangaliso bukaThixo ngumfazi". Oku kulandela ukuba uthando lwethu nobude balo buyimfihlelo. Intombazana ingawa thandana usuku lonke, vuka ekuseni kwaye ucinge ukuba zonke iimvakalelo zakhe zamphupha nje. Kwaye, unokuvakalelwa kukuba uthandane bonke ubomi. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka xa into yokudumisa ingekho kwi ntombazana. Uthandana nomfanekiso owawuqalile.
Xa uthando lwabesetyhini ludlulayo. Kwaye kwenzeka ngathi ubethe kanzima entloko kwaye, kuwe, ukukwazi ukubheka ihlabathi kunye nomntu wakho amehlo abuyisele. Ngokukhawuleza uqala ukubona zonke iimpazamo zomntu wakho, ngamanye amaxesha, uqala ukumthiya ngentliziyo yakho nangomphefumlo wakho. Yaye ngubani omele uxanduva loku? Yonke ityala lilele kwintombazana kuphela. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, andizange ndisuse iiglasi ezibomvu, kwaye ngoku kufuneka ndicinge kwaye ndenze isigqibo sokuba ndingaphila njani. Oku kusebenza kwiimeko apho intombazana ethandanayo ishada kwaye ibele umntwana kumntu ongeyithandi.
Uthando oludlulayo lubangela ukuvakalelwa. Othandayo, xa abantu bebanye, bazondana.
Ukuba okwangoku uthanda, ungacingi ngento yokuba ngokukhawuleza iimvakalelo zakho ziya kutshabalala njengenqaba yentlabathi. Mhlawumbi, unethuba lokuhlangabezana nokuthanda kwakho okwenene. Uthando lunikeza ulwandle oluneemvakalelo ezintle, akufanele uzinqande i-nirvana kunye nomthandayo wakho ngaphambili.
Uthando lwabafazi ngokukhawuleza? Akukho mntu uya kumnika imigaqo eqondileyo. Uthando ngumdlalo wokuzikhohlisa, xa ungamthandi umntu ongokoqobo, kodwa ngumfanekiso owenziwe ngqondweni wakho. Xa kufika ixesha lokuba amehlo akho avule, kwaye ukhangele kumntu wakho kwaye umthabise ukuba ngubani ngokwenene, akukho mntu uya kukuxelela. Kodwa, ungadikibala kwaye ungapendeli imifanekiso yekamva elibi. Ndiphinda, kunokwenzeka ukuba ukukhangela umntu osuvele engenalo isigqubuthelo sothando emehlweni akhe, uya kumthanda ngaloo ndlela. Oko kwenzekayo.