awunakulinganiseki, ongenakulinganiswa, ngendlela enokuthi ungayithanda ngayo yakho yangaphambili
mfana. Kwenzeka kaninzi kangakanani, xa singayixabisi into esinayo, kodwa siqala ukuyiqonda kuphela xa silahlekelwa.
Ngethuba ude ulalele lo mfana, awuzange uzive kuye kunokuba uvelwano okanye uhlaselwe othandweni, uxoxe naye, ufumene ezininzi iimpazamo, kwaye ngoku, xa usuqhekekile kwaye unokuthandana nentombazana enye, uyaqonda ukuba uthandane owayengumfana.
Uphela uphupha ngoku ngoku, khumbula kuphela
lungile ebuhlotsheni bakho, uyamthiya intombi yakhe entsha kunye nawe ngokwakho
Ndabona kuye indoda yamaphupha akho , xa uhlala kunye. Yaye yonke ixesha ucinga ngayo ngendlela owakwazi ngayo ukuthandana nomntu wangaphambili! Ngelishwa, oku kubangelwa kukuba xa udibene, awuzange umxabise, wabona ukuba wayesele "egijima" kuwe, ukuba wayemthanda nawe, kwaye wavumela ukuba ube yingozi, uhlazola kwaye unzima ukufumana iphutha kuye . Kwaye ngoku, ukuba ulahlekelwe yinto, uyaqaphela ukuba yangaphambili yindoda oyifunayo.
Kodwa musa ukuphelelwa yithemba. Le meko iyakulungiswa ngokusebenzisa ubuninzi
imizamo. Yaye ukuba ayisebenzanga, awuyi kubeka isohlwayo ngenxa yokungenzi nto.
Akufanele uvumele imeko ibe phantsi kwaye ubandezeleke. Kuninzi kuxhomekeke kwindlela oye waphula ngayo kwaye uluphi uhlobo lwengcamango malunga nokuphuhliswa kwakho. Ukuba wena
zahlukana ngaphandle kwama-scandals kunye neengxabano ngokuhlambalaza, ngoko kukho ithuba lokulibuyisela.
Nayiphi na ubudlelwane kufuneka kugqitywe ngoxolo kwaye uphumelele. Ewe, kungcono ukuba ungabikho
zahlukana, kodwa ukuba ubuhlobo busobala, kwaye nonke niyaqonda ukuba uphumelele
ukuya kwinqanaba, kuhlale kudingekile ukwenza oku ngokuzinzileyo nangengxabano. Nangona umqalisi wekhefu yinkwenkwe yakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kubi kakhulu kwaye kuyabuhlungu, kodwa akudingeki ukuba uyiguqule ibe yinto ehlaselayo kwaye uphicekise amaninzi. Ungabi ngumntu onobungozi, uzikhukhumeze, uzibambe iimvakalelo zakho uze ungabi phantsi kwehlazo nokuhlambalaza. Awudingi ukwenza iintshaba. Izihloko
ngakumbi, awaziwa ukuba le meko iya kuphuhliswa njani kwikamva. Kungenzeka ukuba uyazisola aze afune ukuvuselela ubuhlobo bakho. Mhlawumbi awuyi kulwa nalokhu, ukuba uyingxenye yaphucukileyo.
Ukuba uqhelekileyo, ngoko unokuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala ekuxolelaneni kunye nokuvuselela ubudlelwane. Unokwenza i-aphoyintimenti kunye nesoka lakho langaphambili. Yaye ungesabi ukuthatha inyathelo. Hlangana naye, uthethe naye kakhulu
ngokunyanisekileyo. Ungalindele ukuba yena ngokwakhe uya kuqaphela yonke into, uye kumnxeba kuqala. Ngokuqhelekileyo
Ubuhlobo obuninzi obuhle buhlala bukhona kuphela ngenxa yokuba bobabini kunye nentombazana boyika bobabili bokuqala ukuba bathethe ngeemvakalelo zabo, besaba ukuvula imiphefumlo yabo, bayesaba ukunyaniseka.
Nokuba akukho nto iyenzekayo, ungesabi ukusilela. Enkulu
ukungaphumeleli - xa bobabini bafuna okufanayo, kodwa zombini ziyimpumelelo, mhlawumbi yakho
Umntu owayesakuba naye ufuna ukuvuselela ubuhlobo bakho, kodwa ukwesaba ukukuxelela oko, ukwesaba ukukhanyela kwakho kunye namaphupha okufihlakeleyo ukuba uya kuqala.
Kuninzi kuxhomekeke ekubeni wakwazi ukuqala ubudlelwane obutsha kunye nentombazana.
Nangona oku kunjalo, usenokufumana indlela yokuthetha naye ngokunyanisekileyo. Mhlawumbi waqala ulwalamano olutsha kukuthethelela okanye ukuba ungabi wedwa, ungayivakalelwa intombazana entsha. Kwaye ukuba kuthe kwavela ukuba sele esithandana nentombi yakhe entsha kwaye banalo ubudlelwane obunzulu, ngoko kufuneka uhambe kunye kwaye ungabaphazamisi kunye nokufumana umntu omtsha.
Kukho nawuphi na, uthando lunomvakalelo omangalisayo, into ephambili ayikukunika umbala obalaseleyo, kodwa ukuvuyela nothando lomntu, nangona kungabalulekanga. Uthando kunye ne-ex-boyfriend yakho inokwenzeka ukuba awuhlali kwaye uhlupheke. Kunjalo
kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kukwazi ukuyibuyisela, kwaye uya kukubulela ngenxa yakho
ukugqiba. Ukubuyisela nje, xabisa ubudlelwane bakho kwaye ungenzi iimpazamo ezifanayo.