Ukumangalelwa
Ukusola okugqithiseleyo kunye nokuthunjwa kwinqanaba lakho kuya kubulala ngexesha elifutshane nje nangona luhlobo olunzulu noluthando olukhulu. Uza kuqala "ukufumana" iqabane kunye nemibuzo ehlala ehlala "ukunyaniseka?", "Ungubani na?", Kwaye ke uyehla ukukhangela amaphakethi akhe ukukhangela inqaku lakho. Akunakwenzeka ukuba nawuphi na umntu oqhelekileyo uya kuba nomonde okwaneleyo kwixesha elinjalo ukujamelana nokungathembeki okunjalo okuthobisayo aze agqibelele ukungakhathali ilungelo lakhe kwisithuba sakhe.
Qinisekisa ukuhlonela iqabane lakho, ukwakha ubudlelwane naye ekuthembekeni. Ukuba unayo nayiphi na into engathandabuzekiyo-zama ukubiza ingxoxo yakhe evulekile. Kodwa yenza ngokucokisekileyo, ukwazi ukuxolisa ngexesha, guqula ingxoxo xa ubona ukuba akukho sizathu sokuba nomona wakho. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ukuxolisa kwakho kukugula, cela uncedo kwi-psychologist.
The lekiswa
Uhlala uqhathanisa iqabane lakho kunye namanye amadoda. Yenza le grubo, ngokufanelekileyo ebusweni, kwaye oku kuthelekiswa akukho konke ukuthanda umntu wakho. Emva koko ulwalamano lwakho luya kutshabalaliswa ukuba luphumelele. Naliphi na umntu ofuna ukuba yinto ekhethekileyo - khumbula oku! Amadoda aziqhenyce kwaye achukumisekile, "ungahlwanyeli" kwindawo ethile ekungathandabuzeki kweqabane lomlingani wakho ukuba akayena yedwa kuwe. Yaye ukuthelekisa kubudenge bendalo. Ukuba awuyithandi yonke into ngomntu, kuba kutheni unayo, kwaye kungekhona "no-Oleg" okanye "usebenza nzima" uDmitri? Intsingiselo "ukuvuthela ubuchopho bakho" kumlingane wakho imihla ngemihla, ukuba uyaqhubeka ukukopela, nangona ulwaphulelo lwakhe malunga nabanye?
Thatha ingqondo ngokubala ukuya kwishumi ngalinye xa ufuna ukuthetha ngokuzwakalayo kunye nabanye abameli besondo esinamandla. Ngaba awunelisekile ngokweenkcubeko kunye neqabane lakho? Thetha naye ngokuzinzileyo ngendlela enokwenzeka, ngokuqinisekileyo ukunikezela ngokuphuma kwimeko. Khumbula: ungabonisa ukucaphuka nje ngeempawu umntu angayilungisa. Kuyinto engabonakaliyo ukuthelekisa indoda yakho ehlanjululweyo ngomlenze nommelwane "ombhinqa umfazi imihla ngemihla ezandleni zakhe." Vumela ingqondo yakho ihambe phambi kolwimi.
Umkhuba wokukhalaza
Musa ukukhononda malunga nomntu wakho rhoqo xa unenkinga ebuhlotsheni bakho. Kucacile ukuba ufuna ukukhupha iimvakalelo zakho, ukuze uziva uvakalelwe ngoko nangoko. Nangona kunjalo, ufuna ukugcina ubudlelwane nomntu? Ukuba uyazigqiba ukuba u-ewe, iingxaki zakho kufuneka zixazululwe ngokuzimela. Musa ukuhlambulula "iingubo zentsapho" zabahlobo nezihlobo. Ngokuqinisekileyo baya kukuphulaphula ngentshisekelo, banike iingcebiso ezininzi, baze bahlanganyele ngamava abo, kodwa oku akunakwenzeka ukukunceda.
Khumbula: bonke abantu bahluke, iimeko azifani ngokufanayo. Inokwenzeka ukuba, abahlobo bakho "baya kuphefumula" ukuze ulahlekelwe amandla okuvavanya imeko ngokuchanekileyo. Zama ukufumana ukulungelelanisa ngokwakho ngu-Spartner. Ukongezelela, ukuba neentloni kangakanani phambi kwabantu, xa imicimbi yabathandekayo iza kulungiswa. Ingakanani udaka edibeneyo kwidilesi yakhe, kwaye ngoku, njengabantu bonke, nikhohlisiwe. Ngoko, akuyona into embi, kuba uhlala nabo bonke ngaphambili.
Scandals
Ngaba lo ubuthathaka babesetyhini abasasazekayo (okanye ubudenge?) - ukwenza i-scandals ngaphandle kwento. Kubalulekile ukuqonda kwasekuqaleni ukuba amadoda ngokubanzi abamba ukubaluleka okubaluleke kakhulu kwizinto "ezincinci" ezibalulekileyo thina thina, abasetyhini, kubonakala ngathi ziyimfuneko ebomini. Kufuneka uqwalasele into enjalo yomntu kwaye ungayilungiseli into engcolileyo, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kweengqondo ngenxa yemisebenzi yasendlini ehlakazekile kunye nezinye izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ngezinto "zebell" zakho.
Amadoda ayicinezelekile kwaye edinwa kakhulu ngala mahlazo amancinci "bazaar". Bajonga abafazi, abahlala nabo, abangonwabi ngonaphakade ubomi be-Meggers. Thatha lula kuwe, umphumo wokungaziboni ezi "zinto ezincinci." Awuyi kusindisa kuphela ulwalamano, kodwa kunye nenkqubo yesantya.
Ukuxolelwa
Funda inzululwazi engapheliyo yokuxolela. Ukuba ngaba ingquzulwano "isombululo" ngokwayo, thetha ngale ngxaki kwindawo yokuzola. Qaphela iimpazamo zakho kwaye uxolise kwiqabane lakho. Oku kuya kukukhumbuza rhoqo ukuxabana. Kuphela ukuxolelana okupheleleyo kunye nokuxolelwa akuyi kushiya imbonakalo engafanelekanga emphefumlweni, ukuba ube mnandi ngokwenene.
Iingxaki zibuphi na ubudlelwane. Kodwa ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukufumanisa oko kukuthintela ukuba uhlangane ngokuvisisana kunye, unokuphepha ukuphulwa okungafanelekanga. Kwaye, ngokuchasene noko, ukuba uyisiphukuphuku "ukugoba umgca wakho" kwaye ungafuni ukutshintsha ngenxa yomntu obathandayo ukuze ube ngcono, ngoko awuyi kuba nobudlelwane. Leyo inyaniso yobomi.