Uthando luvakalelo olunqabileyo , okumele luhlale luxabisekileyo kwaye lunxiliswe, ludibanise, luye, lugxume. Ngelo xesha lutsha, abantu abayithandwanga nantoni na, kodwa ngenxa yokuba bekhona. Othandekayo usondele, kwaye yonke into ayibalulekanga. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ebomini, yonke into enhle, iphelile. Ixesha lokuhlukana, xa kuyimfuneko ukushiya izifundo okanye iimviwo, ngaba olo thando luya kuhlola. "Abacebisi ngokufanelekileyo", umona okwenza ukuba uvelise inhlebo eyahlukileyo kwaye uhlwayele ukudibanisa. Ithemba, ngaba kunjalo, okanye kulula ukujonga "isiqingatha" esingathembekiyo ". Ubudlelwane bobudlelwane, okufuneka bavelise kwaye bahlonelane, ngamnye uya kukwazi ukuwela esikhankanyeni aze afike kwiintlanganiso.
Iimpawu "ezininzi" ukuba imiphefumlo yolutsha ayikwazi ukunqoba izithintelo ezininzi, kwaye ufumane indlela yokuphuma. Abantu abathanda ngokwenene kuphela baya kukwazi ukujamelana nazo zonke iimvavanyo. Kodwa kunzima ukuxhathisa abantu abasondeleyo, abazali, ngenxa yokuba abanelisekanga ngeenkqubela phambili esikolweni okanye kwiyunivesiti, kwaye bayayichasa (kuye). Kwaye kubonakala ngathi yonke into iyaphikisana. Ukunyamekela lwam uvuyo, uthando. Ukusuka kweli qa elimnandi kuphela ezimbini eziphuma ..
Owokuqala, ukumkela nokulinda umntwana ukuba angene, ahlalise. Kungenxa yokuba kukho ezininzi iimeko zothando olulula. Emva kwexesha, iimvakalelo ziya kupholisa, kwaye inguqu "engcono" ingabonakala. Emva koko ubomi buya kuvela kwelinye icala, kodwa ngesiphumo esifanayo. Ngoko kuya kuba ngumntwana okhulayo. Umntu ngamnye unexesha elihlukileyo, ngoko kunzima ukusho ngokuthe ngqo. Kodwa abazali kufuneka babone utshintsho kumntwana wabo. Iingcamango zakhe ziya kuba ngqiqo. Iintsika ziya kudlula, kwaye ixesha lokuthanda liza kufika.
Indlela yesibini ephuma kule meko iyingozi kakhulu. Ukuthintela kwabazali, iintlanganiso ezifihlakeleyo, ngoko akunako ukuhlala ixesha elide. Abanye abatsha abanesistim somnyoba, bamukela nayiphi na inqatshelwe kwiibhononti. Bakholelwa ukuba bayaphula amalungelo abo. Kwaye ngenxa yobuncinane bobuncinci, bakulungele nantoni na, kuphela ukuphula umqobo wokungaqondi kakuhle nayiphi na indleko. Kwaye ngenxa yothando lwabo, njengokuba bacinga ngeli xesha, bayazibulala. Oku kungumnqweno ongapheliyo, kodwa ukuba uyaphumelela kuyo, awukwazi ukubuyela nantoni na. Umnqweno wokubonakalisa uthando lwam ngoku, kwaye ke, ndiqinisekile, ukuba abantwana abanjalo babesaphila kwaye bahlala kwiminyaka yobudala, baya kukhumbula "ezi" zabo iingcamango ngomsindo. Kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ungavumeli oku. Qaphela kwaye uphulaphule abantwana bakho. Banike ithuba lokuba ngabantu abadala, benze izigqibo zabo. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba uthetha, fumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo.
Uthando luvakalelo olunzima . Kunzima ukuyiqonda. Okubunzima ngakumbi ukuwamkela kukuba abantwana banalo ubudlelwane obunjalo nabantu abadala. Kodwa ixesha libaleka, kwaye likhula. Kwaye umthwalo womzali uhlala usondele kumzuzu onzima. Ukuxhasa, ukuthuthuzela, ukunyusa. Kodwa ungayifaki kwinqanaba kwaye ucinge ukuba kuya kuba ngcono. Ukuhlangana ngokukhawuleza ukuze usinde kwixesha elinzima, kwaye emva kokuphelelwa kwexesha ngokufudumala kunye kunye nokuhleka kwiimvakalelo zokuqala.