Ubuntwabadala banika iinkqubo zokunxibelelana nokuziphatha kakuhle kubo bonke abantu. Eli nqanaba lidlula ngokukhawuleza, alivumeli abazali bachithe ixesha elide kakhulu ekukhuliseni. Nangona kunjalo, emva kokunyuka kokuqala esikolweni, abantwana bayatshintsha kakhulu. Baqala ukusabela ngokuhlukileyo kwigama ngalinye labazali kwaye, ngakumbi, kwiingcebiso zabo. Uhlobo lweengxabano luqala emhlabeni wonke, olungabikho kuphela ngobudlelwane obusondelene nabantwana kunye nabantu abasondeleyo, okungaqhelekanga. Ingcamango engalunganga yabantu abadala iqala ngobuntwaneni, nangona iinqabileyo ezona zinamanqanaba okuphuhliswa komntu ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-13 ukuya kwe-22.
Abantwana abaneminyaka eli-13 ukuya kweyama-22 bafumana elinye lexesha elibalulekileyo kakhulu lobomi babo. Inokuthi ihlelwe ngokwemimiselo ibe ngamacandelo amabini, ivumele ukuba ibone iziphumo kunye nemiphumo yazo onke amava.
Isikolo esiphakamileyo
Isigaba sokuqala sifanele sithathwe njengentsholongwane. Abantwana baya eeklasini zamabanga aphakamileyo, kwaye baqale ukuqonda ihlabathi lonke ukusuka kwindawo eyahlukileyo.
Ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-13 umntwana uyaqonda ukuba kwixesha elizayo uza kukhula, kwaye uzama ukwenza izigqibo zakhe. Abazali akufanele baphinde babeke uxinzelelo kubantwana, ngaphandle koko ubudlelwane buya kuba bunzima. Ewe, umntwana osemncinci akahlali esenza isigqibo esilungileyo, kodwa ukugwetywa kuya kubiza imeko. Kungcono ukuzama ukumchazela ngamanye amathuba kwaye makhethi akhethe.
Xa uneminyaka eyi-13, kunomdla osebenzayo kwisini esahlukileyo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, abantu abatsha baqala ukuthatha utywala nokutshaya. Iimiphumo ngezinye izihlandlo ziba nzima, nangona ukuqhuba kubonisa ukuba isizathu asikhuliswanga. Enyanisweni, ebusheni, bonke abantwana baqala ukukhangela kwaye benze ngendlela efanayo. Ngenxa yoko, utywala lunomdla kakhulu kubaselula abawubona ekhaya.
Iminyaka yabafundi
Bonke abazali bazama ukuqonda abantwana abaneminyaka engama-13 ukuya kwe-22 ubudala. Nangona kunjalo, bajonge kwi-prism yothando lwabo kunye nokudumisa, bezama ukwenza ubomi babo bube bhetele. Oku kuba ngumqobo wokuvavanya okwaneleyo, kwaye ngokwenene kubaluleke kakhulu.
Emva kokudlula ebusheni, nokugqiba isikolo, umfana udla ngokuba ngumfundi. Kubonakala ngathi uthatha amanyathelo okuqala emphakathini kwaye kufuneka azibonele, athole ulwazi olutsha. Ubomi bwenene, yonke into ibonakala ehlukileyo.
Ukungena iyunivesithi kumntu uyithuba lokushiya abazali bakho. Ekugqibeleni, ufumana ithuba lokuyeka ukugcinwa kunye nokulawulwa rhoqo. Abanye "abantwana" baqeshisa iindawo zokuhlala, abanye bahlali ebusuku. Isiphumo sisoloko sifanayo - inkululeko kunye nexesha lokuzonwabisa.
Abazali abakwazi ukutshintsha nantoni na, kwaye ukuphazamiseka kwabo ebomini bomntu bomntu kubangele ukugqithisa kwezinto ezininzi ezingavumelaniyo. Kuze kube yiminyaka engama-22 akudingeki ukuba uvumele ukuhamba komntwana, kodwa kufuneka ukhumbule ngokuzimela kwakhe.
Abantwana abaneminyaka engama-13 ukuya kwe-22 ubudala kunzima ukuyiqonda, nangona imfihlelo yokuphumelela ilula. Zama ukunika abantwana bakho inkululeko encinane, ukuze bazive kakuhle. Kukho nawuphi na, ukukhusela kuzo zonke iingozi kunye nezizothe zokuphila eziqhelekileyo aziyi kuphinda ziphumelele, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuzithobela abantwana ebomini. Kufuneka nje ukhumbule iiminqweno kunye nokuziphatha kwakho kwiminyaka efanayo, kodwa ungazami ukwenza umntwana afane. Kuya kunceda ukuba uqonde ukuba kwizinto ezixakekayo zanamhlanje zikhona izinto ezintle, kwaye umntwana unelungelo lokuzifumana ngaphandle koncediso lwangaphandle.